Dh sees his dd every other weekend. Pays maintenance but extra as and when.
Recently was SD birthday and we got her the things she asked for but then her mum asked Dh for some extra money as she wanted to get her something and couldn’t afford it. Fine , Dh transferred the money and we didn’t think much more of it as usual.
Turns out she was getting SD a puppy, SD has ASD and apparently this will help.
The problem is , I’m allergic to dogs and so is my ds, I also dislike the smell and have a bit of a phobia of dogs if I’m honest.
Apparently the puppy is coming with SD every other weekend ??? It’s a ‘support dog’ suddenly. I’ve told dh no absolutely not , SD mum is saying we are partly responsible as we paid towards the dog so it’s ours as well???
She has form for dropping off on the doorstep and leaving then telling SD to knock so weve had to have her on unplanned days on multiple occasions as she won’t pre plan extra days and she has said she will do the same but with the puppy as well ? I told dh if that happens he will need to explain to SD the puppy can’t come in and he will have to source dog care or kennels. He told me to just buy some allergy medication for me and ds.
SD mum is saying it’s our responsibility too as it’s basically a treatment for SD so we can’t say no!
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If we paid towards SD puppy is it partly ours???
Itsnotmypuppy · 12/04/2023 18:34
RedHelenB · 12/04/2023 18:37
Is your ds also your dhs son?
MintJulia · 12/04/2023 18:37
Well, your DH needs to put his DD first for those weekends, so I guess he could take them to stay with a grandparent, or rent an Airbnb, or spend the weekend at his ex's house.
There will be a solution somehow.
Lifesagamethentheytaketheboardaway · 12/04/2023 18:39
Is this actually a support dog? Is it making a genuine difference to her life and managing her diagnosis?
IhearyouClemFandango · 12/04/2023 18:41
He hardly paid towards it if she didn't tell him what the money was for. What an idiot.
MintJulia · 12/04/2023 18:37
Well, your DH needs to put his DD first for those weekends, so I guess he could take them to stay with a grandparent, or rent an Airbnb, or spend the weekend at his ex's house.
There will be a solution somehow.
Lifesagamethentheytaketheboardaway · 12/04/2023 18:45
Pick SD up instead. Don’t take the dog.
Separate questions; what happens if no one is home when she just leaves SD on your doorstep when she fancies an extra day off?
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EmilyGilmoresSass · 12/04/2023 18:48
Did it not occur to ask her mother what it was she needed more money for? It could be a support dog, I know many people with ASD who have great bonds with animals and find them very therapeutic company. I'm of the minority, it wouldn't bother me tbh if it was in the best interests of my child and I would take an antihistamine. But I'm aware it wouldn't work for everyone.
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