My husband just acted like a cunt didn't he?

[Bahhhh1]

So my husband has had to go into work today, admittedly he didn't want to buy anyway.

DSC are here from last night but supposed to be back with their mum this morning. I said I would drop them off but no one has discussed a time yet so I have no idea what's going on.

Told H to ring his ex or something so I know what's going on as I have my own stuff to do today (going out later and need to nip to shops too first) and I don't want to be sat around for ages not knowing what's happening.

Cue H shouting downstairs in earshot of DSC that clearly I just find them such a burden why don't I just tell them that I don't want them here so I can go out blah blah blah.

I'm so angry. He always does this, just acts like DC are my issue and swans off to work leaving me not knowing what's happening and if I ever dare say anything it's 'you find them such a burden'. Well yes it IS a burden not knowing what's going on!!!

Op, if you have wanted to leave many times, I presume that there are more problems than just the DSC and his entitlement around them.

Leaving absolutely does not affect your rights over ownership of the house. Equity split in the event of a divorce is something you must talk to a lawyer about but fear that he may end up with more than 50% isn't a good reason to stay in a miserable marriage.

I'd love to know where these free half hour consultations I often read about on Mumsnet come from because they don't exist where I live. If you can find one, go for it. If not, it may still be the best money ever spent.

Drop them at his work. What a knob.

Please don't get a free hour's consultation. Talk to Rights of Women instead.

Usually it's not the best Solicitors that offer a free hour.

What @arethereanyleftatall said. I always say too, if a man tells you a woman is crazy it’s usually because there is a man behind her that made her crazy.

as for all the comments about how no “blended” families work at all. That is absolutely nonsense. My mother and step dad have been together 20years and my dad and sm 20+ and share dc together as well as with exs. I think it depends on the people and their compatibility. Some people I think, think oh they have a kid and so do I so they will know blah blah without thinking about how compatible they and there kids will be in the long run

Get one of the kids to text mum and say they'll be home In Half hour. What a joke I would be telling my husband and I don't care about work they aren't left with me again without a plan

So not being unreasonable

If my DH did that I'd be leaving him and his kids to it OP. He doesn't appreciate what you do.

This

How old are they and how many? Can't you take them with you? Inconvenient i know, but better than staying indoors all day, fuming.

No it wouldn't affect your entitlement to the house if it's jointly owned and your name is on the deeds. He wouldn't necessarily get more out of it than you because his children live with their mother, not him. He can't even look after them for one day because he's got work to go to.

Why on earth are you in this relationship?

*Cue H shouting downstairs in earshot of DSC that clearly I just find them such a burden why don't I just tell them that I don't want them here so I can go out blah blah blah.

*This is the worst bit of the whole post. Poor kids (you have my sympathy too obviously - as all other PPs have said). But a man that is happy to make his own children feel like a burden to score points against you and manipulate you to do what he wants is a whole other level of low

Poor DC will be left feeling like a burden that nobody wants - not even their own parents

My ex did the shouting in front of the kids thing among other manipulative shit, to get his own way hence 'ex'.
Moved into a smaller place just me and the kids its heaven.
Good luck OP you're better off without him!

@Bahhhh1 op i hope your doing ok ?

And your DP sorted himself out. Nasty to use his own kids like that I have to say.