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Original poster

My husband just acted like a cunt didn't he?

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:27

So my husband has had to go into work today, admittedly he didn't want to buy anyway.

DSC are here from last night but supposed to be back with their mum this morning. I said I would drop them off but no one has discussed a time yet so I have no idea what's going on.

Told H to ring his ex or something so I know what's going on as I have my own stuff to do today (going out later and need to nip to shops too first) and I don't want to be sat around for ages not knowing what's happening.

Cue H shouting downstairs in earshot of DSC that clearly I just find them such a burden why don't I just tell them that I don't want them here so I can go out blah blah blah.

I'm so angry. He always does this, just acts like DC are my issue and swans off to work leaving me not knowing what's happening and if I ever dare say anything it's 'you find them such a burden'. Well yes it IS a burden not knowing what's going on!!!

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Original poster
Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:27

But anyway not buy

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Rotherweird · 27/12/2022 09:28

Yes that is awful behaviour, he should apologise to you and the DSC

Theunamedcat · 27/12/2022 09:29

How fucking rude!

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:29

If he said 'spoke to ex, she said drop them off anytime after X' or whatever that would be absolutely fine I'd have no issue whatsoever.

It's the refusal to sort it out with his ex so then both parents are just off getting on with their own day whilst I'm sat here looking after DC not knowing what's happening and being unable to do my own shit!! It's so fucking rude.

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Theunamedcat · 27/12/2022 09:30

Say sorry to your dsc dad's taking you home today

Original poster
Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:30

Theunamedcat · 27/12/2022 09:30

Say sorry to your dsc dad's taking you home today

He's left! Stormed out to work just leaving his kids with me. This is what I mean. It's like he honestly just thinks it's not his issue to sort out.

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:31

It's complete emotional manipulation. Do what I want or I'll say you hate my kids.

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MarshaMelrose · 27/12/2022 09:31

That's awful behaviour from him. Very rude, making everyone feel uncomfortable.

Original poster
Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:31

I don't hate your kids but I'm not a fucking nanny either!

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pictoosh · 27/12/2022 09:32

Very rude and arrogant, yes. I'd be livid.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 27/12/2022 09:32

He’s a twat. You need a serious conversation with him.
why do you do that?
why can’t you answer a simple question?
do you realise the impact on DC when you say such things?
etc
etc

reconsider your situation

Original poster
Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:33

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 27/12/2022 09:32

He’s a twat. You need a serious conversation with him.
why do you do that?
why can’t you answer a simple question?
do you realise the impact on DC when you say such things?
etc
etc

reconsider your situation

He's impossible to have a conversation with. I can picture it now, he'd just say I was the one making them feel like that so I can "get rid" of them so I can go to the shops.

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SweetSakura · 27/12/2022 09:33

Yanbu. All he needed to do was communicate with everyone.

He sounds quite unpleasant tbh.

PopUpMoon · 27/12/2022 09:33

I would drop them off ASAP and then spend the day packing his shit, tbh.

Changingplace · 27/12/2022 09:33

What a twat! Of course you need to know what time they need dropping back, their mum probably would prefer to know as well!

Not that you should need to, but can you message her and sort it out?

Yaslana · 27/12/2022 09:33

Phone him up, say you're going out on 30 mins, and he had best arrange something for his children

SweetSakura · 27/12/2022 09:34

Changingplace · 27/12/2022 09:33

What a twat! Of course you need to know what time they need dropping back, their mum probably would prefer to know as well!

Not that you should need to, but can you message her and sort it out?

No. That's just enabling him

Confusedteacher · 27/12/2022 09:34

Can you contact their mum? I know you shouldn’t have to, it’s not your job etc. but for the sake of getting on with your day and making things easier for the kids it might be easier. Then have it out with him later!

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:34

PopUpMoon · 27/12/2022 09:33

I would drop them off ASAP and then spend the day packing his shit, tbh.

I can't just go and drop them off as I have no idea if there mum is even in or what's going on. This is what I find so frustrating. I'll just sit here now waiting until either parent decides to inform me what's happening. So fucking rude.

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nancydroo · 27/12/2022 09:34

He's an arsehole. They're are his kids. Now you know why he is a divorced CF.

SweetSakura · 27/12/2022 09:34

PopUpMoon · 27/12/2022 09:33

I would drop them off ASAP and then spend the day packing his shit, tbh.

Yep.

beastlyslumber · 27/12/2022 09:34

Yes, drop them off and then start your own packing.

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:35

Confusedteacher · 27/12/2022 09:34

Can you contact their mum? I know you shouldn’t have to, it’s not your job etc. but for the sake of getting on with your day and making things easier for the kids it might be easier. Then have it out with him later!

I don't have her number. One of my DSC have messaged her already but she's not replied. Guess I'll just sit here then not having a clue what's happening. So so angry.

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Bahhhh1 · 27/12/2022 09:35

nancydroo · 27/12/2022 09:34

He's an arsehole. They're are his kids. Now you know why he is a divorced CF.

Luckily for his ex they weren't married!

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nancydroo · 27/12/2022 09:35

Yaslana · 27/12/2022 09:33

Phone him up, say you're going out on 30 mins, and he had best arrange something for his children

Yes! OP is not a babysitter. It's like a sisterwife situation. Poor kids