H being ridiculous over a bauble

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Yes you read that right... A Christmas bauble is the latest source of ridiculousness in our house.

My parents got all of their grandkids a personalised bauble this year to put on their trees which included our DC, along with my nephew and niece. They do this every year for Dsis' children but it's our child's second Christmas (weren't given one last year as only tiny) so first time they were given one.

Apparently we can't possibly put this bauble up because DSC don't have the same bauble with their names on... Just go and buy a freaking bauble for them then!

I can't cope with this level of stupidness.

Wow seriously 😒

Could you not go with them a pick a bauble so they feel included.

To be fair, it wouldn’t have hurt your parents to get one for your step child.

Agree

You’d have thought your parents could’ve bought one more bauble for your husband’s son.

Well as it’s only a bauble I think it was unfair of your parents to leave your DSC out, so he does have a point. Could you pick up an identical one?

He's being totally U 🙄 if he cares so much, he can go and buy them baubles! Your DC was so small last year they didn't get one, this year they did. I'm sure your DSC get things from mums side that your DC won't. Tell him to get his knickers out of a twist!

To be honest I think it was pretty mean of your parents not to get your SDC a bauble. Their grandkids...no, not officially. But they're part of your family, no?

What a shame it’s totally impossible for your poor H to buy a personalised bauble for his own kid.

How on earth could he ever achieve such an unreachable goal?

🙄 What a douche. If he has such a problem about it yes, he should get one for his child.

Your parents should've got your DSC a bauble as well. Since they didn't, you or your DP should.

Yup, wouldn't have hurt to have included your stepchild.

I've been the stepchild in that exact situation and although it's something small it still hurt!

Maybe wasn’t meant intentionally

Actually in this case I agree that your parents should have bought a bauble for your step child too. Why didn't they?

My Dad bought personalised baubles for my children (his granddaughters). He also bought them for my DSC.

Your parents are the unreasonable ones here, not your DH.

I agree

If you're a blended family then it would have been kind and supportive for your parents to have bought baubles for your step children too. I don't think it's necessary to pretend they are the same as their actual GC if that's not the reality of the relationship (and presumably they have their own maternal GPs) but something as minor as a bauble in order not to highlight divisions seems like a no-brainer. I'm not surprised your husband is upset tbh.

Your parents have emphasised a difference between the children, totally unnecessarily. You're not helping by keeping it going.

I disagree it’s not up to her parents to buy for his children they will have their grandparents who can buy them a bauble!

Whilst people are saying GPs could have got one for the step kids - yes they could have but we don’t know the dynamics do we.

My parents always ask about my step kids but they never see them, maybe once a year at xmas. Possibly one other time during the year such as a birthday party.

They care about the step kids because they are the children of my partner but they don’t know them, they are very conscious that the relationship with my partner and his ex isn’t the best and it can sometimes be hard for him. They are mindful and kind but I don’t think they would buy a personalised bauble. They do buy them gifts but I just don’t think they’d feel comfortable with it.

they are not mean spirited or unkind people. It’s not necessary for them to consider children they see once a year, neither me or my partner would expect it.

Bit harsh of your parents tbh.

I think your parents should have bought your DSC a bauble, pretty mean not too

My parents rarely see my stepchildren and don't know them that well. I don't think there is anything behind them not getting one for them, they just aren't their grandchildren.

I just think if H is so bothered he should just go and buy some himself!

They should have got the SC one each as well, so I can see his point. But yes, go and buy them one and put them all up.....

Ask them where they get them and pick one up

Yes he can go and pick one up. I've suggested he do that.