AIBU to think you don't keep a child awake just so they can see their siblings?

[TiredBabe]

We have DSC 50:50. EOW but during the week the other.

When they stay during the week they don't really get to see our toddler as they have hobbies on most evenings and by the time they get home our child is in bed and then in the morning it's up and out to school.

My husband thinks I should keep our toddler up an extra half an hour in the evenings so DSC can 'say hello', AIBU to say absolutely bloody not.

He's cranky and ready for bed by 7:15ish so we have milk and a story and he's asleep by 7:30. DSC tend to get home around the time he's put into bed so we are upstairs when they come in.

I work part time so spend most of my time with our DC so I know when he's getting too tired and when he needs to go to sleep.

What? That is ridiculous. And 8pm is late for a toddler! When do adults get any down time? My 2yr old is sleep by 6:30/7

Well, your lipstick brought all the boys to the yard, didn't it OP?
What an enjoyable thread - all the roasters of MN on glorious parade to entertain us all with the many and varied reasons you are bad for providing your child with financial support and good bedtime routine as you failed to place your DSC at the centre of operations in a suitable fawning tone 😀

I’ve realised that I’ve started thinking of this board as the upside down. It’s full of lurking monsters and, while it’s analogous to the real world, everything is filtered and distorted horribly.

I'm going to tell my older (half-)siblings that not seeing them at age 2 before I went to bed has ruined my relationship with them forever.....

Has it not occurred to you that some of us have actually lived this situation as children?

Luckily my older brothers and sisters didn't view me as their entertainment and actually were sensible enough to realise I needed more sleep than them.

Mine was going to sleep at 7 pm at aged 2 as she had dropped her naps.

At age 3 it is generally between 7.30 - 8pm but it can be as early as 7pm.

I don't force it I just tried to see naturally how much sleep she needs.

I’ve realised that I’ve started thinking of this board as the upside down. It’s full of lurking monsters and, while it’s analogous to the real world, everything is filtered and distorted horribly.
Best thing I've read in ages! Lol.
And I agree. No matter what gets said on here there is a cohort or posters who flatly refuse to actually properly read and comprehend what sms are saying & honesty? They are destroying this board & MN do NOTHING about it.

Very unsurprising that it's reasonable for a toddler to inconvenience themselves for DSCs benefit but completely unreasonable the other way around.

Yep. As someone said earlier, the ‘first family’ children will always come first. Generally due to guilt. I don’t know why we used the term ‘blended family’ because very little blending goes on, its all about providing utopia for the first children.

630 is the time my toddler went to bed. Still does now at 5

sometimes can push till 7 but she’s tired and grumpy

we have the odd friday late 8pm is family over but she asks to go to bed as tired

its no fun keeping a grumpy tired toddler up

thry get overtired and then don’t settle

if dh wants his older kids to bond /see little brother in the week then they come home earlier

saying all that if they stay Fri night the keep up a little later so can see

as time goes on he may stay up later or he may be like my dd5 and want bed 630 esp on school night

she’s bed by 7 at the moment due to summer hols but sept back to 630 as I have to wake her for school 730