My gran is having a small family gathering tomorrow evening for my grand and grandpa's anniversary. She is cooking food and it's only close family, me & DH, my parents, my child, my aunt and my two cousin's.
DH has known about this for a while although may have forgotten.
He's just told me that my step children are now with us tomorrow night so will need to come with us. This is because his ex now has plans and so he's agreed to have them.
AIBU to be pissed off? They barely know my gran or majority of my family (only really spent time with my parents on occasion) and I feel bad asking at such short notice to bring to extra people to a small gathering. My mum was saying she thinks my gran might worry about having enough food for everyone because she was already saying she hopes she has enough etc...
I've told him it's not on but he thinks I'm being unfair and why shouldn't they be invited to a family gathering which I'd agree with if it were his family but it's not and it's not even just that but the last minute-ness of it.
He either needs to tell his ex sorry but he can't because he has plans or stay home with them which is a shame considering he's known about this for ages and it's for my gran and grandpa.
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Gathering1 · 25/06/2022 17:30
ImAvingOops · 25/06/2022 18:52
People on here are fucking batshit crazy! Of course Yanbu to not want to dump two extra guests on your gran - it's her event, she gets to decide the guest list!
In every family there are people that are close family to some members but barely acquaintances to others - this is normal, it's not a flight on anyone.
For the posters trying to shame the gran for not getting to know these kids, stop being so moronic - the gps are under no moral obligation to get to know (or become close family to) kids they barely see and who aren't their own family - you'll be saying the gps should leave them equal inheritances to their actual grandchildren next! The only obligation extended families have is to be kind when in the company of said children.
OP, I think your husband should be consulting you about any arrangements he makes which are outside of your norm. That's basic consideration for you as his partner. It's him who you need to be talking to bollocking right now. Leave him at home to mind his own kids or tell him he has to tell his ex he clocked up and can't do it!
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Solonge · 29/06/2022 20:00
I think you have your answer....your husband will have to stay home with the children. These things happen....in the best most organised families. Dont catastrophise it....its one night...dinner with your family.
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