Should they pay to replace it?

[CamelotPudding]

I'm pretty furious right now.

It was my DD's birthday a couple of days ago. She's only 2. She got a ride on elephant toy thing which she was really excited about when she saw it.

It's specifically designed for young toddlers (up to 36 months) and is only small. There is a seat on it big enough for small children but definitely not designed for older children / adults.

My SS can play a bit roughly sometimes and was trying to joke around and sit in/climb over it when playing with DD. I repeatedly said to him to stop because it wasn't his and was not designed for older children (he's 11) and he would break it.

Anyway lo and behold he's done it again and the side of the seat has broken and now my daughter can't sit in it properly.

I am so pissed off. We don't have loads of spare money. This was £60 and her main present. It's been two fucking days for Godsake.

I've said to DH I think we should tell SS he has to pay to replace it with the money he got at Christmas (he got over £200 from relatives). I repeatedly told him, he is old enough to know better and I am sick of him just getting away with everything (DH is a pushover).

So AIBU? I'm really annoyed.

[quote ldontWanna]@bongobingo43 so does that mean that no adoptive parent can really and truly love their child as their own?[/quote]
Sorry, I shouldn't have used the word biological, I just meant "their own children"

I would class adopted children as the couple's own children. But that's completely different to a step parent

Also, I can't speak on behalf of adopted children

However, I am a SM to my amazing DSD, who i love dearly. I spent years claiming to live her as my own.

Then I had my own DD and realised that while
I genuinely loved by DSD, i didn't in fact "live her as my own"

I'm always very sceptical as well of SPs who claim to love like their own. How I feel about my SC is nothing compared to the way I feel about my DC.

However, I think being in a child's life from 3 months old makes it possible.

@QuirkyTurtle

*Really and truly? Because im not a step mother but the idea of loving any child the same as my own - is totally and utterly baffling to me*

Yep really and truly! I've lived with his dad since he was 3 months old. He doesn't know a life without me, and I've spent almost as much time with him as his dad has. I've helped raise him since he was a baby. I'm sure it's different and much more difficult if you come into their lives at a later age.

I'm sorry you find that disconcerting. His parents both think he is incredibly blessed to have not two but four parents that love him unconditionally.

Do you have any children of your own?
I couldn’t ever love someone else’s child like I love my own....,except my 3 GD .....but that’s a different love again.....but maybe others can🤷

@CamelotPudding So you're expecting to give adult consequences to a child? I expect you'll be happy to treat him like a child at other times, when it suits!!