AIBU to just have a photo shoot of one child?

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For context, this is for DD who is having a newborn photo shoot which I am paying for 100% myself.

I want to have only photos of DD at the session and not DSS as he has already had newborn photos, the session is 4-6 hours so will have to battle to keep DSS entertained and the photographer only does sibling photos at special request for an additional cost, which I have not budgeted for.

AIBU to want this, I am paying for everything at the end of the day.

This is nuts. They are NEWBORN pics. Celebrating the arrival of that baby.

DSS had ones of just him in.

DD will have THE SAME.

THE END.

Also - you need to make something very clear to your DH.

Just as you have to respect the fact that he has an older child, HE has to respect the fact that you do not.

For every time you show sensitivity to the fact that he's done it before and has a different perspective to you, he should be showing you the same respect.

Life isn't neat and equal and fair without effort.

It's not fair for your DH to say to you, this experience for you must be as if DSS is your son too. Because what does that translate as? - it basically means you never get a first, a PFB, a moment with the one baby. He had it with his DS, but you aren't allowed to have the same experience.

You are.

You should.

Part of his gratitude to the sacrifices you will be making every day, by being a stepmum - they should take in things like this. The recognition that this is the first for you. And to make that sacrosanct for you just as it was for him and his ex. Not to make it lesser for you and one big eternal compromise.

That way lies resentment and another divorce.

The unreasonable things the time, well and cost. I had mine photographed and it was around £20 (years ago) and took 30 mins

YANBU.

The clue is in the name. Everyone I know who has had newborn shoots have only had the newborn in the photos. The siblings have already had their turn.