AIBU to just have a photo shoot of one child?

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For context, this is for DD who is having a newborn photo shoot which I am paying for 100% myself.

I want to have only photos of DD at the session and not DSS as he has already had newborn photos, the session is 4-6 hours so will have to battle to keep DSS entertained and the photographer only does sibling photos at special request for an additional cost, which I have not budgeted for.

AIBU to want this, I am paying for everything at the end of the day.

@NeedsCharging

No I'm not being unfair that's how it is, DSS had a newborn photo shoot and his pictures are all over the house so we can have some of DD as well

He had photos alone because he was an only child!

I hope your DP pays for a photo shoot just for his son because as you say kids change so much...No doubt you will be on here crying because your DD is not involved.

Why would op even care about that?

Youre being unnecessarily mean.

Why would op even care about that?

Youre being unnecessarily mean.

No I am not. I am following the OPS train of thought. Her child is separate from her DSC.

How on earth can it take 6 hours? I just can’t fathom it!

@NeedsCharging

Why would op even care about that?

Youre being unnecessarily mean.

No I am not. I am following the OPS train of thought. Her child is separate from her DSC.

Yes, you are.

And yes, so therefore why would she care if her husband got photos taken of one child?

Dss would prefer not to hang around for 4-6 hours.

Get some done with your dc when dss isn't visiting. If dss asks (unlikely) then you can say you wanted similar pics to when he was a baby as they look so great. Done

If your h wants wants a sibling photoshoot then he should pay for it to be done on a different day.

That is her point. They are both his but not both hers

So?
Sorry but if you join a ready made family then you join it.
You have to accept things were done before or done differently. You cannot demand to have an only child when you join a ready made family!

No doubt you will be on here crying because your DD is not involved
Why would anyone cry because their child wasn't involved in something that wasn't for them or about them???
The DSS is as entitled as OPs DD to be the star of the show sometimes, it doesn't always have to become an emotional meltdown trigger

@NeedsCharging

Why would op even care about that?

Youre being unnecessarily mean.

No I am not. I am following the OPS train of thought. Her child is separate from her DSC.

Since when did I say my child is separate from DSS? Lol it's a NEWBORN photo shoot the photographer is known for NEWBORN photos and I'm not taking him out of school to have a NEWBORN photo shoot!!!!!!

And yes, so therefore why would she care if her husband got photos taken of one child

In all honesty because the OP seems that petty.

I am a SM.
I had a professional shoot done (won it in Asda) all DC were involved. It would never have occurred to me to exclude DSC.

At 6 hours it’s approaching time when such a young infant may actually look older in the later photos ! Possibly need for quick hair trim half way.

Op Apols the painting/sculpture post really made me laugh.
Congrats and hope it all goes well.

You're being perfectly reasonable. It's a newborn shoot for the newborn.

If your dp wants a siblings shoot, he can organise it.

@NeedsCharging

That is her point. They are both his but not both hers

So?
Sorry but if you join a ready made family then you join it.
You have to accept things were done before or done differently. You cannot demand to have an only child when you join a ready made family!

Ah yes, taking photos of a younger child alone clearly constitutes "demanding to have an only child" 🙄

As a younger sibling, it used to bug me how much of my baby photos and videos were focused on my older sister. It's good for younger siblings to be celebrated in their own right.

Ah yes, taking photos of a younger child alone clearly constitutes "demanding to have an only child" 🙄

It's not just candid shots done by family though.
These are professional photos which will more than likely be displayed in the home.

I would have newborn and sibling photos done. As it turns out I am in the minority. May explain why I have such a good relationship with my stepson.

*It's not just candid shots done by family though.
These are professional photos which will more than likely be displayed in the home.

I would have newborn and sibling photos done. As it turns out I am in the minority. May explain why I have such a good relationship with my stepson*

Yes, but it's a newborn shoot, not a sibling shoot. They are different things. If it were a "family shoot", then obviously both would be included. It's perfectly healthy to have newborn photos of both children in their own right.

@NeedsCharging

Ah yes, taking photos of a younger child alone clearly constitutes "demanding to have an only child" 🙄

It's not just candid shots done by family though.
These are professional photos which will more than likely be displayed in the home.

I would have newborn and sibling photos done. As it turns out I am in the minority. May explain why I have such a good relationship with my stepson.

I have a good relationship with DSS? Just cause god forbid I want pictures of my newborn on her own I now automatically am petty and have a bad relationship with my DSS lol give me a break! DSS gets a lot more than what DD gets, DP goes to all of his hobbies with him but doesn't do any with DD and I don't bat an eyelid but god forbid I want pictures of my DD!!!

4 to 6 hours is pretty normal for a newborn photoshoot. It allows time for the baby to be fed, changed and comforted, without rushing the photos. Sometimes babies don't want to pose and it takes a long time to get the shots.

How many hobbies can a newborn have?

@NeedsCharging

How many hobbies can a newborn have?

Baby clubs, swimming? The fact that you couldn't comprehend that statement and were sarcastic about it says a lot.

I did this with DS when he was about 9 days old. He slept and fed and shit as usual - there was no endurance for him!

YANBU

They are not hobbies 🤣

OP seem aggravated as dad takes DSS to his hobbies. I doubt the newborn has signed up for swimming or tots club! It's not exactly scouts ot gymnastics.

@NeedsCharging

They are not hobbies 🤣

OP seem aggravated as dad takes DSS to his hobbies. I doubt the newborn has signed up for swimming or tots club! It's not exactly scouts ot gymnastics.

Oh FGS, it's fairly obvious she means he dedicates a lot of time to DSS but isn't as hands on with the baby.

@NeedsCharging

They are not hobbies 🤣

OP seem aggravated as dad takes DSS to his hobbies. I doubt the newborn has signed up for swimming or tots club! It's not exactly scouts ot gymnastics.

Are you being serious? I genuinely am glad this is online cause I think if you met me In person you'd start an online hate club for me and my DD

Are you being serious? I genuinely am glad this is online cause I think if you met me In person you'd start an online hate club for me and my DD

Have a word with yourself you!
You are othering your DSS in my view. That doesn't mean I hate you but the fact you are playing the none existent victim says alot.

@NeedsCharging

Are you being serious? I genuinely am glad this is online cause I think if you met me In person you'd start an online hate club for me and my DD

Have a word with yourself you!
You are othering your DSS in my view. That doesn't mean I hate you but the fact you are playing the none existent victim says alot.

No, it really doesn't. Read the room, you're making yourself look a fool.

DSS isn't being "othered" - he's being treated as Not a Newborn Baby, and apparently a victim of something awful.