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Son caught Corona, is my partner being fair ?

97 replies

AlohaMora123 · 14/10/2021 22:19

Hi,

Son went to his dads on the weekend, his dad tested positive on Monday, son tested positive this evening so we’ve had him do a PCR which should come back soon.

My other half just told me he is really pissed off because my son didn’t do a few things when we got back home like wash his hands before dinner, but my son spent the evening by himself in his room and went to bed. OH suggested my son goes back to his dads.

All night he’s been saying “don touch this, don’t do that” which I get it, my OH doesn’t want to catch it. I feel like he’s being harsh.

He’s 8 after all, yes he’s got corona but not once has he asked him if he’s ok, he’s just told him not to do literally anything at all… Should he have reason to be pissed of or am I in the wrong telling him to cut my son some slack ? After all we’ve all been together the last 4 days chances are if he’s got it we will get it.

Thoughts ?

OP posts:
LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 14/10/2021 22:21

He should be washing his hands before dinner anyway. Did your partner wash his hands before dinner?

And if you're eating together, it doesnt really matter does it as youre close contact.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/10/2021 22:23

Your partner is an arsehole and bullying your son. He's an 8 year old little boy, ffs, and not his fault he caught a virus. Does your partner have form for this type of behaviour?

Original poster
AlohaMora123 · 14/10/2021 22:25

Well of course but he forgot. Partner only noticed because the soap bottle was still in the same position he told me.

OP posts:
KatySun · 14/10/2021 22:25

I don’t think you are wrong for telling him to ease off your son. I think he needs to be the one to find somewhere to stay if he thinks your son should go back to his dad’s.

dementedpixie · 14/10/2021 22:26

FFS it is not really spread by not washing hands; it's spread through the air. Has he to stop breathing too?

Menmy3 · 14/10/2021 22:26

Just tell him if he’s that bothered he needs to go somewhere for a week the kids 8 and needs looking after! FYI my kids very rarely wash their hands before they eat 🤦🏼‍♀️They’re also never poorly so I’m saying the germs are good for them🤣

SnugKnights · 14/10/2021 22:26

He’s 8 he’s not going to be thinking about contaminating things. If your partner is that bothered he can get the cleaning stuff out. Plus the chances of catching it from surfaces is really low, it’s breathing in the aerosols that’s the issue. I’d be telling him to lay off your DS and if he can’t manage that to fuck off somewhere else!

ApolloandDaphne · 14/10/2021 22:27

He is just a little boy and still need a bit of gentle encouragement to do things like wash his hands. Your DP is being ridiculous to think he should think through all this for himself.

dementedpixie · 14/10/2021 22:27

I dont nag people to wash hands before eating either unless their hands are visibly dirty

Original poster
AlohaMora123 · 14/10/2021 22:28

@Aquamarine1029

Your partner is an arsehole and bullying your son. He's an 8 year old little boy, ffs, and not his fault he caught a virus. Does your partner have form for this type of behaviour?
I just think he’s being unfair, his mood the whole night has been so “off” so I asked him why he was pissed of and he told me what I mentioned above - my son spent the evening in his room and then went to bed, I know he’s caught the virus and I’m worried. I feel like I’ve just been on my partners case all night to chill out, it is what it is. But wanted to know if I’m in the wrong x
OP posts:
nimbuscloud · 14/10/2021 22:30

Was your 8 year old alone in his room all evening?

nimbuscloud · 14/10/2021 22:30

Does he like your dp?

dementedpixie · 14/10/2021 22:31

You are not wrong and your partner is being unfair
Take care of your son the way you want to

KatySun · 14/10/2021 22:31

You are not in the wrong. You have an ill child and you also have a duty to protect your child, regardless, from bullying behaviour.

SnugKnights · 14/10/2021 22:31

You are definitely not in the wrong. I’d be making very sure that your partner isn’t going to make your son feel he’s done anything wrong, or that he’s not welcome in his own home.

Arubaa · 14/10/2021 22:39

I hope you didn't leave your 8yo in his room alone. That seems cruel. If you've been vaccinated you can care for your son as you normally would do and still go out/go to work.

Bagelsandbrie · 14/10/2021 22:41

Your son spent all evening alone in his room?! Wtf!

Your partner is vile.

SanFranBear · 14/10/2021 22:42

my son spent the evening by himself in his room and went to bed

Was he told to do this by your partner because otherwise, this makes me feel a little sad. Why did he spend the evening on his own - he's only 8!

SanFranBear · 14/10/2021 22:45

To be clear - if your partner made him be alone, that's just cruel. But if he chose to be alone, that makes me sad.

NotStayingIn · 14/10/2021 22:48

God I feel so so sad for your son. Your partner is a complete dickhead. You're not in the wrong.

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AlohaMora123 · 14/10/2021 22:58

Can I just say that it was pretty late once we got home after a last minute PCR, we made dinner and then my son went to bed when he wanted to.

I could have worded that better originally… Son is very well taken care of Grin

OP posts:
Chloemol · 14/10/2021 22:58

Your partner is a bully, how horrible he is being to your son, who is ill

Rather than you son going back to his dad, your partner can find somewhere else to stay if he is concerned

But he is now showing his true colours so be warned

Your son should always come first

Original poster
AlohaMora123 · 14/10/2021 23:02

@Chloemol

Your partner is a bully, how horrible he is being to your son, who is ill

Rather than you son going back to his dad, your partner can find somewhere else to stay if he is concerned

But he is now showing his true colours so be warned

Your son should always come first

And that he does 100% - This post was more for clarification on whether I was in the wrong or not. I’m glad it was confirmed I wasn’t.
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Mydogmylife · 14/10/2021 23:13

Your oh is a dick

Tattler2 · 15/10/2021 01:20

It is not unreasonable for your partner to be concerned about basic hygiene around someone who has tested positive for COVID.In my kids school they are required to use hand sanitizer and to wash their hands several times a day. Teachers are not considered bullies for enforcing these rules.

Pre school and elementary schools are petri.dishes for germs and bacteria because many young children don't wash their hands, cover the noses when they sneeze, and often spray when they speak.

It is not mean ,unreasonable , or uncaring for her partner to want basic hygiene and some reasonable level of isolation around a sick child. If the OP has other children or elderly people in the home, it would be irresponsible not to insist that these things be done.

Being responsible an observant of basic hygiene does not make you uncaring or a bully. Obviously, if the partner saw enough of the child to know that he was both ambulatory and eating, perhaps he had reason to think that he was pretty much aware of the child's status.

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