DSD eating all my kids pack up food

[ChocolateFlamingo]

I'm getting really annoyed now. DSD is 16 and she keeps helping herself to the food I buy for my kids packed lunches for school!!
Now they don't have enough for tomorrow or Friday!!
I can't afford to keep forking out, she gets bought her own food but she stuffs it all at once and then moans that there's nothing for her to eat!!
Am I right to feel frustrated here?

@TwinsandTrifle you very nicely voiced pp's concerns very methodically and got to the bottom of the problem. There is "her" food and the OP's family food - the food for OP's first rate people...

The OP sounds controlling, judgemental and frankly, miserly towards her DSD. Just buy or make enough food for goodness sake! You clearly have got this wrong, as the girl is hungry. You sound so judgemental towards a 16 year old buying McDonalds.

[quote Teenyton]@TwinsandTrifle you very nicely voiced pp's concerns very methodically and got to the bottom of the problem. There is "her" food and the OP's family food - the food for OP's first rate people...

The OP sounds controlling, judgemental and frankly, miserly towards her DSD. Just buy or make enough food for goodness sake! You clearly have got this wrong, as the girl is hungry. You sound so judgemental towards a 16 year old buying McDonalds.[/quote]
I cannot face palm hard enough for this comment.

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Those having a go at the OP are missing the point that other food is available and the food that is being selected is small drinks cartons and individually wrapped items that are ideal for packed lunches.

If OP gets her DP to buy loads of mini cartons and individually wrapped items for his DD that is fine, but it doesn't make sense when other food is available. He should tell his DD not to eat the individually wrapped items and make herself a sandwich as he is her parent!

sorry my comments annoy you @aSofaNearYou, i just have different opinions than you, and this is my reaction to the OP. You might feel different and that's fine. I dont know what face palm means, but probably not a good thing. please dont explain it to me though.

sorry my comments annoy you @aSofaNearYou, i just have different opinions than you, and this is my reaction to the OP. You might feel different and that's fine. I dont know what face palm means, but probably not a good thing. please dont explain it to me though.

What are you trying to say?

Facepalm.

oh im sorry, you thought i actually cared about what it meant! im face palming a bit too now :D

@Teenyton

sorry my comments annoy you *@aSofaNearYou*, i just have different opinions than you, and this is my reaction to the OP. You might feel different and that's fine. I dont know what face palm means, but probably not a good thing. please dont explain it to me though.

Your opinion was just a massive cliche ignoring all logic and context.

YANBU - she’s old enough to know better.

I’ve given up on doing a big food shop before my two SD arrive. They are absolute bottomless pits and within 24hours of doing a (very big) food shop the cupboards and fridge would be stripped. Like your situation, they would even take the toddlers snacks.
When they’re here I buy just enough to get through the time they are here otherwise it gets ridiculous with the amount they scoff.

you might try to put those thoughts down as a "cliché" - what that means is that most people think that way...

and they are correct in this particular instance. One must feed teenagers, even step-children. No brainer really...

Brand new posters that cant read ops posts properly 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@Teenyton

you might try to put those thoughts down as a "cliché" - what that means is that most people think that way...

and they are correct in this particular instance. One must feed teenagers, even step-children. No brainer really...

Everyone has lunch. Then there are the snacks, which are separate. I'm not seeing the big division between step children and "first rate" children here, that's the cliche.

@Teenyton

oh im sorry, you thought i actually cared about what it meant! im face palming a bit too now :D

No need to be a rude arse. I wasn't the poster who said it so wind your neck in.

[quote Teenyton]@TwinsandTrifle you very nicely voiced pp's concerns very methodically and got to the bottom of the problem. There is "her" food and the OP's family food - the food for OP's first rate people...

The OP sounds controlling, judgemental and frankly, miserly towards her DSD. Just buy or make enough food for goodness sake! You clearly have got this wrong, as the girl is hungry. You sound so judgemental towards a 16 year old buying McDonalds.[/quote]
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@Enough4me

Those having a go at the OP are missing the point that other food is available and the food that is being selected is small drinks cartons and individually wrapped items that are ideal for packed lunches.

If OP gets her DP to buy loads of mini cartons and individually wrapped items for his DD that is fine, but it doesn't make sense when other food is available. He should tell his DD not to eat the individually wrapped items and make herself a sandwich as he is her parent!

Agree with this.

Obvs the packed lunch stuff is quick to grab so I can see why she does it, but at 16 she's old enough to take a look and work out if there's enough spare for her to have one and leave enough for the lunches too.

She could do herself some toast or a sandwich rather than finishing off the stuff she knows is for packed lunches.

There was another thread on this recently where all children were OP's though so it's not a step issue at all....just a typical selfish teens issue!!

I read a very funny teens thread on MN a few months ago. The bits that stuck in my head were:

Horrified teen DD looks in the fridge and exclaims 'There's no food here, only ingredients!'
and
'Those aren't snacks, they're old peoples' snacks' (olives, houmous etc)

Yes, it's like the DSD looks in the fridge and grabs a mini carton because she cannot be bothered to fetch a glass down to pour a larger drink. She eats the individually wrapped items as it's quicker than putting bread in a toaster. It's pure laziness!

I sympathise, my son is a bottomless pit. We now do things like buy three packs of bacon and tell him which one is his and when his is gone he’s not to eat ours. Otherwise he’d scoff his in a day or two and then eat ours! If we were lucky we might get a bacon sandwich but sometimes we wouldn’t get anything. Same with treats, he has his own separate treat tin and we have ours. Sometimes it feels like living in a student house but otherwise DH and I don’t get a look in.

Where is her Dad if he has to send the money?

@newomums

Oh this seems like a red herring op. Teens eat you out of house and home but your DH also isn't feeling the financial consequences of her snacking.

I would every time go ok I need you to send me over X because DSC has eaten A B lunches. No matter how much he grizzles, how little amount. Every single time.

Make him responsible for not parenting his daughter. He will soon learn to take action if he feels the consequences .

I would go one step further, send him a list to be replaced by him before school the next day. Moneys not enough, you shouldn't have to be trying to find time for extra trips.