Calling all step parents - do you feel this board is a safe and supportive place to post?

[Bollss]

I would like to know, and would like @mnhq to know, how actual step parents feel about this board.

Do you feel you can be honest here? Seek support? Generally chat about the realities of step parenting?

Do you feel that this board is just used as a place to kick others when they're down?

I have complained to mn several times about this issue and they refuse to take me seriously, so I would like to hear from others who use or would like to use this board for support.

That's the thing isn't it you can disagree with someone and give your opinion, fine. But it's the comments about how his wife cannot possibly be mad, he must be an MRA and all the other ott comments. And then posters getting offended when he "turned on them" well I wouldn't sit back and say nothing if i was spoken to like that either tbh.

What's MRA mean?

If it were I wouldn’t constantly have to hear about how everything mammy does is better than anything I could do.

Urgh sod that. Mammy can bloody well do it herself then can't she if she's so perfect. That'd be my response anyway. I wouldn't even apologise for it.

@LouJ85

What's MRA mean?

Men's rights activist

In my house it would play out as follows: DSD sulks and refuses to eat dinner. She scowls at me if I say anything or do so much as look st her. Her dad comes in and there are crocodile tears (with ‘fuck you’ looks at me). I say to DH that I can’t do it any more. I can’t cook for her or eat with her. He gets upset and angry about it. Claims we are ‘a family’ and other such stuff. Says we just need to work together to improve her dinner time behaviour. And DSD’s behaviour becomes more entrenched and gets worse.

The key phrase is we just need to work together. It means being on the same page. But frequently, it is left up to the step mum to deal with something and then, afterwards, be told she hasn’t dealt with it in the right way.