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DH’s Ex Wife MOVING IN???

189 replies

Bookaholic73 · 17/07/2020 18:47

Oh. My. God.
Seriously..I don’t even know where to start.
Ok, backstory

DH’s kids moved in with us last year, as their Mum moved abroad to be with a man she met online. She’d onlyknown him 3 months.

Things are JUST starting to get good with DH’s kids, they are settled into a routine after a year and a bit, and our (SC and I) relationship is really starting to form.

Today, DSD (14) excitedly says that their Mum told them that she is MOVING IN WITH US!
Apparently things haven’t worked out with her boyfriend abroad, and she gave up her Housing Association house to move abroad, so has nowhere to return to.

Excuse me while I pour a whole bottle of wine into 1 glass.

OP posts:
Redshoeblueshoe · 17/07/2020 20:50

Arther Grin

Itsjustabitofbanter · 17/07/2020 20:52

Fuck the wine. Where’s the tequila?? What an absolute twat waffle 🧇

Alsohuman · 17/07/2020 20:52

I’m speechless. It takes a lot to make that happen.

Lillygolightly · 17/07/2020 20:58

I’m sorry but Shock she’s is absolutely nuts, surely she couldn’t have really thought this would ever really happen!!!

The poor kids though Sad

saltycat · 17/07/2020 20:59

What are the Covid rules now, I get so confused.

On the offchance, would she be allowed to just move in under the rules.

Not that it matters, the lady needs good psychiatric help from what I am reading, and other than that, it is so hilarious it has to be true.

The kids will cope but tell them now that she will NOT be moving in to your house. Prep them.

WanderingMilly · 17/07/2020 21:08

I hope your DH has told her no, and also that she's responsible for herself, since she's an adult.....

However, I did once know a family where the 2nd wife ended up looking after the 1st one. Seriously! Children grew up, left home, husband died of a heart attack, 1st wife fallen on hard times and 2nd wife spent her days looking after her. For the children's sake or something....

Not a route you need to go down!

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saltycat · 17/07/2020 21:15

YouUselessTwonks,

Perhaps it is all untrue. Doesn't really matter, it's Friday night in the time of Corona, and every little bit of fun/gossip helps.

But it could be true. Who knows about any single post here anyway.

LittleDonk · 17/07/2020 21:19

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Justaboy · 17/07/2020 21:20

However, I did once know a family where the 2nd wife ended up looking after the 1st one.

Seen that happen too, it worked out quite well in the end she sorted her out and found a bloke for her they moved out and all lived happy ever after!

Tis all true!!!

romeolovedjulliet · 17/07/2020 21:21

she sounds asmad as a box of frogs but i for one don't care if it isn't true, busy day and am now chilling and thinking thank fuck i have a normal boring to some life and a great dh.

CloudyGladys · 17/07/2020 21:24

If you are living in what was the family home of their marriage, you need to find out who owns it now, i.e. did DH buy her out properly so her name was taken off the deeds. Whether or not it's legally still partly hers, you may need to get the locks changed if she might still have a key.

Even if it's not a house she lived in with DH, do the DC have a key, or are they ever home alone? Do they know what to do if she asks them to let her in?

anon5000 · 17/07/2020 21:29

[eye roll]

Crafting1Queen · 17/07/2020 21:30

Is she, Aye?

Hint. Naw the fuck she isnae!!!

For the second (& subsequent) bottle(s) of wine after that bombshell announcement, never mind the glass, just get a straw. Or if it's a box of wine, just position yourself under the table, and have your DH (who sounds amazing btw) on hand ready to press the dispensing button on your command of POUR!!!!

Giespeace · 17/07/2020 21:32

Could she not sell her story to Take a Break for £500 to help towards a rental deposit?

‘Tis a plan, and a sound one at that Grin

VimFuego101 · 17/07/2020 21:33

DH's ex pulled a stunt similar to this and ended up staying with him for a while. It really messed with DSD's head (still does 11 years on) to have had a glimpse of her parents playing happy families, as she viewed it, only to have to come to terms with her mother moving out all over again when she'd had her around full time for a few months.

romeolovedjulliet · 17/07/2020 21:36

op has a history on mn if you check out advance twonks

MusicWithRocksIn1t · 17/07/2020 21:40

Those poor children!

MusicWithRocksIn1t · 17/07/2020 21:41

Poor kids

unlikelytobe · 17/07/2020 21:43

What on earth did your DH see in her that he married her and had kids? Was she sane once 'cos she sounds like she's off her trolley now!

jessstan2 · 17/07/2020 21:43

Get on to Rightmove to see what is available to rent in your area, or rather your husband do it; please do not delay!

Rubytinsleslippers · 17/07/2020 21:45

She is batshit

SchadenfreudePersonified · 17/07/2020 21:45

That said, could you not let her move in with you, just for a few days so that you could update us hourly and tell us how it's going?

Ooooh - please do as Arther suggests . . . could you afford to buy her an old banger that she could park in front of an awkward neighbour's house, preferably with gangsta rap belting out of the radio all hours of the day and night?

It would add another, richer, dimension . . . Grin

BEANBAG765 · 17/07/2020 21:55

@Arthersleep

That said, could you not let her move in with you, just for a few days so that you could update us hourly and tell us how it's going?
I second!
BumbleBeee69 · 17/07/2020 21:56

okay..... I'm literally speechless Grin