Can bio mum do this?

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Tonight my partner has been honest with BIo mum and told her he took there daughter to my house which she hasn't allowed to do by her rules, there's no court orders or anything. She's not happy now and is saying he has to stay at hers until she can trust him again and will FaceTime him randomly when he has them overnight.
they was going through mediation but she backed down and admitted she couldn't afford it and came to a mutual agreement but now she's changed her mind yet again. She also took him to CMS which you know, she is within her right to do.
Mediation has said to SO because he has PR he can do what he wants with the kids and meet who he wants (aslong as it don't cause danger).
im just sick of the dramas now, I'm so close to ending this crap. I said until this crap is sorted I'm not being part of this.

The father can parent how he sees fit and introduce the children to whoever he wants to without the mothers permission (just as the mother can do what she wants).

She’s being unreasonable.

You're going to get flamed for using the term 'bio mum'

I have no say who my dds Dad introduces her too and vice versa. I keep out of his business 🤷🏼‍♀️

How about just mum? Not bio mum. Just mum will do fine.

During his time he can do as he pleases and she has no say legally. However, I think there should be discussions and agreements about how to jointly raise the children and staying at partner's houses should be discussed. That only works of course if the parents are reasonable and civil, and it doesn't sound like she is. She can't dictate what he does in his time, and if she starts interfering with it then it might be time for a court order.

Why did you even mention child maintenance? It has nothing to do with anything, and any man or new partner who gets angry about being made to pay really doesn't deserve any sympathy.

Poor kids.

He can do whatever he wants, but I suppose it depends on how long you’ve been together. If you’ve only just met I can see why she’s be annoyed. I’m not sure what CMS has to do with any of this?

She’s their mum.
She made them, carried them, birthed them, has them full time.
I think your attitude towards her sucks arse, you need to respect her and her opinions in what sounds like a raw and emotional time. Poor kids. Her poor kids.
If she doesn’t want them near you, I can’t say I blame her if you can’t even refer to her as their MUM.

@OhMyDarling sounds like you know her and you have taken my profile on just by me posting that. Wtf!

@OhMyDarling sounds like you know her and you have taken my profile on just by me posting that. Wtf!

@TilandPop we have a child together, she is 7 months old

I doubt ohmydarling thinks she knows you. It just grates pretty heavily when you use the term ‘bio mum’. But I think you know that.

Do you live together? And again, what does CMS have to do with this?

Why doesn't he live with you?

She is THEIR MOTHER.

She's the mum, not 'bio mum.'

If your DP knew this was going to create a massive issue why did he do it? Why didn't he speak to her first?

So you’re a bio mum too. I expect he will be taking your baby off to another woman’s house soon enough.

You get some evil, controlling mothers out there who make spiting the children’s father their main priority in life, often in many cases at the detriment of own children. These types of individuals well and truly deserve the term BIO ‘MUM’.

I wonder if some posters just sit here on this board waiting for someone to post the term 'bio mum' . When it appears they leap into action to unleash their vitriol.

Forgetting the distraction of BioMum ... Unless there is a risk to well being safety or health, Mum cannot dictate where Dad takes the kids, who he sees, or what he does. He can buy into her threats or he can see a Lawyer. Then End.

I wonder if some posters just sit here on this board waiting for someone to post the term 'bio mum' . When it appears they leap into action to unleash their vitriol.

I think you are correct.

The word you need here is 'Mum'

Dear lord. Grow up.

"I wonder if some posters just sit here on this board waiting for someone to post the term 'bio mum' . When it appears they leap into action to unleash their vitriol"

Nope.

Mum is a good enough descriptor. 'bio' Mum, as referred to by pissed off girlfriend? Nar.

No I don’t know you, I doubt I would be able to sustain a friendship with someone that has such little regard for a fellow mother.
I am offended by the tone of your reference to someone going through a difficult time in which she is being shown no respect.
Yes they are both their children, but respect between adults is the least the children deserve.
If you can’t even call her their mum on an anonymous forum, I dread to think what you call her in RL. The children will pick up on this and the situation already sounds damaging.

No northernsoullover as I have a life.
It’s rude and uncalled for so I pointed it out.
Not against the rules I’m sure.

Bio mum to distinguish from step mum. What's wrong with that? OP is trying to get some sensible advice here, and everyone's hung up on her wording. She doesn't mean any harm.

Bio mum is the term for a woman who gives up a child for adoption. It appears the children’s mother is still their resident parent. So mum is fine. The OP isn’t even living with her partner so doesn’t really count as a step-mother either.