Step son driving me nuts on holiday

[MichelleC69]

So we're in Spain for a couple of weeks, with my daughter(16) and step son (18) - this is a final holiday with his dad before he goes off to Uni in Sept. We're beach holiday/chilling out kinda people, and he knew this before he came with us. We work hard all year and the holiday is our chill time. My problem is he is expecting us to entertain him and have things planned every day (other than going to the beach which is apparently boring). My husband has planned a couple of day trips just for the two of them but has made it clear to him that if he wants to do anything else he can go off and do it - he doesn't have to be tied to us, he's an adult! But he has zero drive and is just sticking to us like a limpet, to the point where I had to specifically day this afternoon that I'd like a drink with his dad on our own when he threatened to tag along. Don't know what the answer is but I just needed to offload.

When I was a student I worked for 3 months and earned the money to go on holiday with friends before I went back to uni. However, those were the days of full maintenance grants and easy to get summer jobs.

It does cost an arm and a leg to support dcs through uni. Mine only get minimum loans (around 4K pa) and I think 2 had rents pushing £7k in first year. They've also struggled to find more than a bit of bar work - not enough to fund a holiday. But we cut our cloth accordingly and normally just book a big cottage for anyone who wants to join us. I certainly wouldn't normally be paying to take them all abroad post 18.

Nope . Can't afford to support kids through Uni AND holidays. They sort their own holidays once at Uni.. step and own children.

Occasionally we might book a cottage in UK for any that might want to join us.

I’m not judging at all! You’ve just said your DD has been lucky enough to enjoy 3 foreign holidays a year so you don’t sound skint!

And the debt for uni is the students, not ours. I’ll be topping up my daughters maintenance loan in sept as the loan doesn’t even cover her accommodation, but she’ll have to get a weekend job as well. There’s no way she could earn enough to pay for food/other stuff and a holiday.

@BigSandyBalls2015 she has several holidays with her dad. Again, you're making assumptions. You may see from my other posts that her dad also pays for her to go to private school.

Plus it sounds like you are maybe funding less of your daughter's uni costs than I plan to. Entirely your choice of course. But my point is that there's only one pot of money and how we choose to spend it is our choice.

Fuck me no one paid for my holiday at 18, let alone held my hand the entire time.

I’ve only got to page 5 and gotten fed up of all this crap.

OP I get you, I love an hour away from my 3 month old nevermind an 18 year old.