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teen stepdaughter wants a baby!

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talcyone · 22/03/2007 13:46

Just wanted to share
16 year old sd wants a baby
plans to be pg by september
Wants to know if i prefer gran or nan
bugger!

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Charleesunnysunsun · 22/03/2007 13:48

I wanted a baby at 16 nd i had one! I turned out fine!

I was (and still am) in a stable relationship though.

Did you ask her why she wants a baby.

misdee · 22/03/2007 13:49

why does she want a baby?

NormaStanleyfEGGcher · 22/03/2007 13:49

Do you want me to lend her mine? It might put her off

Rhubarb · 22/03/2007 13:50

Arrange for her to look after one for the day. Have you any friends willing to hand their babies over for a bit?

Also, have a word with her boyfriend and make him aware of her plans and his responsibilities if she does get pg.

Tortington · 22/03/2007 13:51

becuase shes got fuck all else to do than be poor for the rest of her life?

one assumes.

her educational achievement - poor?

doesn't like school

doesnt like the sound of working for a living?

why why oh why? how terribly sad that she has no further ambition than exceedingly ordinary.

Iklboo · 22/03/2007 13:52

I'd say get her involved with some childcare classes, babysitting, anything. Having a baby is fecking hard work as we all know. Some teens see the TV version of motherhood where everything is pink (or blue) & fluffy

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talcyone · 22/03/2007 13:52

She's talked about wanting baby since age 8
That's what she wants to do!
Only told me 'cos she knows i won't judge her
Think she wanted a bit of balanced advice.
Mum has told her she will kick her out.
Terrified of gg and gd response.
Wanted to know if dh would be cross?

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ScottishThistle · 22/03/2007 13:53

Borrow a baby quick & the more grouchy the better, that'll soon put her off!

I think I'd also make her bf aware of her plans!

KittyLetteMeEatAnEasterEgg · 22/03/2007 13:53

so being a mother is exceedingly ordinary custy?

i think being a mum is the most important job you can have, you are shaping and raising another life FGS,

Charleesunnysunsun · 22/03/2007 13:53

Hey!

Rhubarb · 22/03/2007 13:54

Def have word with bf. You have responsibilities here. Make sure she knows all of hers too.

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talcyone · 22/03/2007 13:54

Thanks
Boyfriend wants one too
Will live in hostel

Spent whole day telling her how hard it is

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ScottishThistle · 22/03/2007 13:54

Buy an alarm & put it on snooze in her bedroom every 2 hours, she'll soon think waking several times a nights not fun at all!

NotanOtter · 22/03/2007 13:55

wake up kitty

Rhubarb · 22/03/2007 13:55

Stupid and disillusioned. She probably thinks it will all be romantic and nice.

I would have a stern word with BOTH of them.

Silly silly children!

ScottishThistle · 22/03/2007 13:55

Do Hostels take on people with tiny Babies???

Mumpbump · 22/03/2007 13:56

See if you can arrange for her to spend a few days with a friend with a young baby so she experiences the whole overnight thing. You can only ensure that she is open eyed about what she is letting herself in for and then support her in her decision, imo...

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talcyone · 22/03/2007 13:56

Told her she has romantisised sp? it all

Don't want to isolate her as she's really serious

Told dh
BURIED HIS HEAD

did the same when he was young

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misdee · 22/03/2007 13:57

live in s hostel, and then what?

borrow an electronic one.

Iklboo · 22/03/2007 13:57

You know what will probably happen? You'll be the one looking after baby while they go out as usual

flamey · 22/03/2007 13:58

Anyone got a copy of that prog with the teens borrowing babies?

Yes Kitty (thought you were madameweb?) - it is an important job... but at 16 you are meant to be filled with all these fabulous things that you can do... not stopping your growing up to raise a child.

NormaStanleyfEGGcher · 22/03/2007 13:58

also - can you give her some positive examples of stuff she might want to do that would not be possible with dc's. ie my sis in law went on a round the world trip last year.

Charleesunnysunsun · 22/03/2007 13:58

Like i said i had a planned baby at 16.

My life aint petfect but i am not poor, i have an education and i liked school.
I havr no problem working and have had jobs.

I wanted a baby since i was young snd my smbition was to be a mother so DP and i decided to have a baby and years later we are very happy with 2 children.

Tortington · 22/03/2007 13:59

i am entitled to my opinion. and i think that having children is something most people can do whilst fucking ( exceptions like every rule)

i think it is exceedingly ordinary - esp. if - they want to live in a hostel - wait for social housing and be on benefits for the rest of their lives or a great proportion of it - have another kid at 18 maybe start all over again.

i think the extra ordinary would be to get a great education, career, advice, support and built your self a life around YOU rather than try to attract love an attention through having a baby.

so yes. exceedingly ordinary for a teenager to have a baby when they feel unloved or not special and are too fucking lazy to do anything about it

exceedingly ordinary to be on benefits in a council house becuase you have no further LIFE AMBITION than THAT than THAT

thats what she wants from life?

i pity her.

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talcyone · 22/03/2007 13:59

Big problem is she in bedford
we are in norfolk
She has a friend in her 30's who seems to be influrencing her.......'you can use my old pram etc'

Think i might soeak to her mother?

Thanks for your responses

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