Here we go!!!

[Nursed123]

It's that time again..... Step kid weekend!

I'm just sitting, with wine in hand, waiting for them to descend.

I really wish I could say I look forward to these weekends but I dread them for various reasons

Here's and for anyone else who can relate

Ahh mrsR I am pregnant too . How far along are you ? Blended families galore in this thread . Love it .
We have also had a great half term (bar the incident ) with lots of pumpkin carving and bike riding . All the things they never do at exs .

MotherofA - I'm 34 weeks, so nearly there! What about you? It's my first so it's gonna be a big change in our house

Oh my goodness wow congrats ! Do you know the sex ? I am 20 weeks , have a scan tues . Do you know the sex ? I bet your DSC will love their sibling and baby will come at the right time

Ah the pet thing our step children have a cat here they don't know a thing about... he hides in a cupboard.. I fear they will develop a phobia about the bathroom as they will feel they are been watched. They are by a cat

Hahahaha evil you do make me laugh lots ! I said I'm surprised ex isn't doing Halloween this year as she normally loves it so much because she doesn't have to dress up hahahaha woopsy!
That will probably be the sort of thing that the ex will do here too when she knows any is coming . Urgh gross woman . Haha

MotherofA - I'm having a girl, so poor DP is going to have another one to add to the clan I think he might have to build a shed! Good luck with your scan

I know the dsds will love the new baby. Although the oldest will definitely be more accepting than the youngest. Horrible exw apparently refers to the baby as 'baby'.... doing the inverted commas gesture with her fingers! No idea what that's all about.

It was an actual nightmare. I got induced the Monday night and one of my thoughts was shit what are we going to do with ss. I shouldn't have even had to consider it because any normal person would just swap bloody days.

Ss has gone home now.

Ex looks like she's permenantly dressed for Halloween we all must be upgrades

Mrs Raymond my partners mum does that the stepchildren are babies... the oldest is 9 it does my tits in

Hahahaha sounds like we are , I'm laughing out loud . Ah I am having a girl too (had an early scan ) so I will have DD , DSD and DSS and DD hahaha . Not to get started on in laws whatsoever but both their reaction was ah poor DH and DSS ?! Fek orf it's a beautiful blessing and grandchild not "another girl "
Most times I've seen the ex she is in pyjamas and dressing gown .... sometimes dressed hair always greasy . What a delight !

Dsd has just gone back today after being over for a few days (it would have been more but she wanted to stay with her friends for a few days instead- teenagers )

I'm really struggling between feeling sad and annoyed lately.

Sad because it doesn't seem we are close anymore at all. When dsd is here she absolutely will not come downstairs if she can help it when me and her siblings are here.

As soon as we are upstairs in bed she will spend all night downstairs with dh.

Which is fair enough, she wants time with her dad, totally understandable.

But it still really hurts. I try to organise stuff she'll like (not pushing her) and she just makes it really clear she doesn't want to be around us. Dd adores her and I hoped they would have a close relationship.

And it's annoying whenever she goes back. Dh and especially MIL make a big song and dance about how much dd will miss dsd when she is gone.

I end up sitting there just thinking 'Well no actually, she barely sees her when she is here why would she miss her?'

And then feeling shit that I'm thinking that.

Fuck breastfeeding. I wish I could have a drink!

This may just be a lot to do with teenage years / resentment / hormones / confusion etc . I was a very angry and resentful teen . Have you tried sitting and talking to her or even writing her a letter / email / text . Tell her you love and miss her and the bond you feel you have and that you always wanted DD to look up to her etc . I really feel that things like that get trough to teens because they have time to mull it over . All you can do is try and if she still treats you that way after that then I guess you have to leave her to it :(

MotherofA I have tried to have a conversation with her. I usually get as far as 'How are you dsd....' before she runs back upstairs,

I know it's very typical of teenagers, I'm going to give her her space and just hope it passes

I just have this sad gnawing feeling that it won't.

Although the sadness may actually be because this is the first Christmas in eight years that her Mum has said she wants to see her over Christmas.

It's going to be strange but we were lucky to get her that much over Christmas I think, I know others have had to fight for it.

Ah Mrs that is sad . I would try a letter or something . One last go can't hurt . Wow you were lucky to get her over Christmas ahhhh that's annoying the ex has done that !! My DP never used to get kids on Xmas day but we did last year and it's alternate from then apparently. Still a bit odd not having them , especially as their mother doesn't do much .

Wow.... haven't been on for a while and love that the little original post I wrote has become a safe place for SM's to chat and not feel guilty or worried they'll be hurled abuse at!

Have just read through the posts, sorry to those of you having a really shitty time and congratulations to new or nearly new arrivals!

Thanks nursed and congrats on your pregnancy MotherofA

User - I meant that the exw refers to my, as yet, unborn baby as "baby"....as if I've made up the pregnancy or something! Very odd.

My weekend turned out ok, the girls were here all of 2hours due to their mother. They wouldn't have come at all but wanted the muffins, toffee apples and glowsticks I'd bought them. Then they said the didn't want dinner as they were getting it at home. I'd just sat down and the eldest decided she wanted to try some of the soup, so I went and got her some sat down again and the other decided she also wanted some! So by time I saw to toddler and all the up and downing my soup was cold and I was pissed off. Then I couldn't put toddler to bed till they left as they're to noisy and our bedroom is off the living room. Plus side my husbands art is attracting attention worldwide :) very exciting!

Congrats on everyone's baby news! Also on the art that's amazing!

What an absolute vile thread.

ellie ODFOD.

I like this thread, it helps to know there are others out there with some of the same issue. As I have said before I love my DSSs to bits and we have a great relationship but I have never met their mum and from what I have experienced the past 3 years or so I never want to meet her!! The only issue I have is with her not my OHs boys.

Plus it's also nice to have somewhere to vent and get opinions from people in the same situation.

So I second sleepy Don't like it, hide thread and leave the rest of us to it

God forbid Ellie has any step children to deal with in future..

Also hope she doesn't become a psycho ex. Or perhaps she already is and it's touched a nerve

I personally find it nice to find others going through similar issues. As a step parent nothing is geared up to support us taking on other people's children's and families. The kids come with a real mum, grandparents, aunties and uncles. Someone else provides the rules and you have to live with them in your home and can't say anything when you don't agree with the rules

Hehe your replies were so much more articulate than mine.

ellie for a lot of us, this is the only place we can be completely honest with how we feel, and what we struggle with. You don't get to talk about shit like this in real life.

If you don't like it or find it helpful, as so many of us do, then don't read it and don't comment.