what would you say........

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I saw this on another forum and it was brilliant, so I decided to blatantly steal it. Some was hilarious, some was brutal but all a great vent no judgement
What would you love to say to your step kids but cant in real life??
I would say to SS7, when you get caught out in a lie, laughing and saying I was joking doesn't make it cute, its still a lie.

I couldn't agree more 3phase. As I say repeatedly there's always an adult at fault when it comes to difficult step child/parent relationships and it's not always the step parent.

Personally I think in this instance ALL the adults are failing this child but catch's insistence on demonising normal child behaviour is why emotions are running so high.

Sorry cant

not sure what happened there.

Mmmm that's what I think. Can't clearly shouldn't be around this little girl but wtf are her parents doing about it? Nothing by all accounts. That's just as unforgivable. Actually it's kinda worse

You are all reading so much in to this it's unbelievable.

Her parents/her grandparents all agree that sometimes her behaviour is a lot to be desired and she can be quite spiteful/sneaky. I'm not picking on dsd, I'm just saying what everyone else has said/thinks. At Christmas it was horrible to see her cousin so upset because of the way dsd was with her. DP and her nanna both told her off for it much worse than when I told dsd to shut up.
Her mum has had words with her over her attitude and selfish behaviour. And her nanna called her a princess.

We can all see it. But none of you can because for one you don't know her and you are behind a screen, for two you don't have the willingness to comprehend that a child living in a stable and happy home would be like this, and for three it is me rather than her mum/nanna/grandad/uncle/auntie posting it.

I have no choice in the matter. DP works.

Swap then cant, you go to work and leave DP with his children, presumably he likes her? If you dislike the situation so much, change it!

DP is too lazy to look after his children properly. You will have gathered that from my previous threads. Or do you just cherry pick?

"Too lazy to look after his children"
? in what world do people tolerste thst kind of nonsense?

Oh no, I've read them, but for someone who pipes on soI j about being soooo hard done by, you do absolutely nothing to change it.

Either leave him, or make changes to your relationship. Don't just fucking whinge about that poor girl for the next 10 years!

IAm well the last time I left him to take responsibility, I went out to get a few bits from the supermarket. It is the LAST time I will ever do it.
DS1 was out swimming with my dad and DS2 and 3 were at home with DP. He was up when I left.
Tried phoning him whilst out, no answer. Messaged next door neighbour to knock on the door, no answer. Tried ringing again and again until my phone died. In that time my dad arrived to drop DS off home and he didn't answer the door. My dad had somewhere he needed to be and was annoyed.
I cut my shopping trip very short and rushed to my dad's to pick DS up, rushed home and DP was asleep in bed whilst DS2 was running around upstairs with he safety gate on the stairs unlocked and ds3 was crying in his cot. My anxiety was through the roof.

Can't FGS just refuse to look after your DSD. It seems that would be the kindest solution all round. It's not working for you and I doubt very much it's working for her. And you've also said it's not working for your DC.

Leave your DP and his ex to sort out the repercussions of that. Maybe Mum can have her more and your DP can pay maintenance to help cover childcare. Maybe her grandparents can help. Whatever. Change something.

That's why I will not agree to him being at home whilst I work. Last time we had that arrangement he couldn't cope.

cant why don't you see if you can get some counselling via your gp?
Life really doesn't have to be this hard and horrible.
Who the fuck does he think he is?
Laying in bed while his kids are unsupervised?
What is wrong with him?
He sounds like an utter waste of space.
You'd be much happier alone.

Ledkr My HV has told me to see my GP as well. I will do.
And I agree I would be much happier alone. I (we including the boys) have nowhere to go though until we get offered a house. I've take DP off the application.

No he won't go. The tenancy is in his name so he is control of that not me.