Do-gooding clique thread

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Thanks for the name dozie

Nicki I am too much of a scaredy cat to go for a full hat cos I look a twat but I do quite like a fascinator

I dont like it thanks perhaps I didn't make that clear enough - after what I have been through - I NEVER do anything anyone else wants me to - unless it directly and positively impacts me, my husband or my biological children.

Arsenic when you were asked what it was about you linked a thread as explanation. I started to read it - didnt read much of it as it was too triggering and too familiar, the OP from that threads feelings and the reactions she received.

So you are refusing to read the thread?

No wonder you don't understand.

So, need the Bingo thread turned into an attack on a specific poster because she didn't like it, but that was hilarious.

This thread though, because we're not all pissing on about how our sc are evil incarnate and we're talking about hats, this is not funny.

Have I got that right?

I guess it depends on what side of the fence you come down on.

Me? I would rather support everyone who posts here.

And, why, there are NO similarities between your situation and Tapper's.

Tapper has never, ever said she suspected her sc of anything other than just being teens.

Her problem is that they're in her life. That's it. How you see any sort of similarity is truly extraordinary.

I do quite like a fascinator

But they flop.

Anyhow.

Flossy, I'm entirely with you. The links to materials which showed the extent to which some SP consider SD's as mini wives was shocking. I wasn't aware of just how low people could go.

I'd be very interested to hear not the would be journo's wannabe psychologist opinion on their DH's "mini wives" but a genuine psychologist's view of them!

The opinion that SDs are competition as "mini wives" surely goes beyond simple jealousy?

Ah, so you didn't read the thread!

I love someone who thinks being told something is triggering = refusing - thats just about sums up the depths of your levels of empathy and understanding. I feel more enlightened by that comment than anything else I have read so far.

Really maybe you should spend a little time researching the impact of abuse on primary and secondary victims - would probably benefit you immensely.

walter I NEVER posted that I suspected my SS of anything - because I didnt I just thought he was a pain in the arse teen - and that was hard enougj - I didnt suspect him - but I did post I hated his guts after I literally put my hands in his (17 year old) shit becuse he dumped his shit stained jeans on top of my wasging basket.

And I havent forgottten the slating I received for it.

Well, why are you on this thread need?

Why I don't know who you're addressing in your posts, you seem to be ignoring mine!

Whatever your reason for not reading it, why, the result is the same fgs! You're speaking from the perspective of someone not in possession of the full facts because you haven't read the thing!

I shall leave it at that.

Hats. My DD1's first word was "hat". She was in the bath, put a bath toy on her head and proclaimed "Hat!".

Not Mummy. Hat. I was quite offended!

Ah now Walter you have deceived the clique and followers by revealing names, when earlier on it was said that this thread was about nobody in particular. How hypocritical! This has been reported to MN btw

I played a part in the play of your namesake once. What a great liar and dieceptor Walter was. No I wasn't Walter.

I don't need to whyonearth. I have had treatment for PTSD after DV.

I am struggling to understand why you are commenting if you can't (or won't) read the thread, though. The 'clique' was formed at the end of page 10, how can you insist it was aimed at an individual after a quick glance at page 1?!

Hopefully my summary just now helped a bit. Your assumption (and it is an assumption) is completely incorrect, I promise you.

That's brilliant hooby

Dd designs hats, the one she drew yesterday looks just like a rainbow to put on your head.

Wait! THATS my hat for this thread, a rainbow.

I see a whole group on one hand and me onthe other disagreeing with you - but tats bullying - what you mean is I wont lay down and agree wth you all.

You have no idea at all how similar Tappers original post and the life I lead are - I read enough of the pinked thread to see a strugglimg poster who deserves compassion. Poor woman.

Ah Tapper. Welcome!

Sorry, x-post.

I did post I hated his guts after I literally put my hands in his (17 year old) shit becuse he dumped his shit stained jeans on top of my wasging basket

I can guarantee you would have received sympathy from me.

I would have said what he'd done was truly awful and completely unacceptable.

I would have said that you were using emotive language and wondered at it.

TAPPER'S SC HAVE DONE NOTHING SIMILAR WHATSOEVER.

Why are you trying so desperately to defend her? Why can't you and others just acknowledge that her being a step doesn't make her automatically worthy of sympathy?!

Linked thread. I felt sorry for Tapper at page 1.