Do-gooding clique thread

[ArsenicFaceCream]

Thanks for the name dozie

Thank you ArseFace

An invisible hat would go some way to explains my hair Flossy.

Thanks Iorek. Join us?

I'm completely lost what's this thread all about?

Hello Happy you can follow Arse's ArseFace link to the thread where it all started but it is 1000 posts and you do kind of have to read the whole thing to get the general point but feel free to don a hat and pop a popper

I like Pag's summary myself

It's a long story.
There was a bit of drama, a musical, some hats and a few humongous egos.

The musical was actually The Sound of Music but no one guessed correctly.

We're hoping to promote positive step parenting and general fluffiness HappyBeard

I'm with the poster who suggested that the musical was Les Miserables.

Arsenic, I was a bit annoyed that your lovely hat was deleted. I can't think why such a superior hat should not be allowed to be shown in its full glory.

BTW and FYI Arsenic, I do have a brother in law and he does attend BBQs but I've never bought him a hat.

I was in the audience but I was asked to leave because I was too reasonable [sadface]

Oh I see if you're managing to step parent and still feel fluffy id love to join and find out your secret!

We're hoping to promote positive step parenting and general fluffiness

We now have a mantra

We don't hate our SDC's Happy is one secret I think

I'm here!

Yes and we don't think they should be called hateful names or described as "mini wives", that kind of thing.

Hello Im so glad you are here to help out step parents.

I wondered if you had any advice for me my former step son has been prosecuted for abusing one of my children - its devasted the last 3 years of lives and haunts us still.

im not sure Id have made it through the last 3 years without the ladies of the SP board who have held me up in the blackest of times and who were there when few others were.

only no one would believe the things I used to worry about - I was dismissed by many from other sections of the board as a wicked step mother.

only it seems to me that the entire point of this rather nasty little "cliche" is simply to take the piss out of the vunerable and those who are struggling.

It would be nice if you left a very supportive section of mumsnet to do just that instead of acting like a group of extremely immature playground bullies.

Walter! We'll have none of that talk here! I'm reporting you for... for... for...

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if you're managing to step parent and still feel fluffy id love to join and find out your secret!

Can't promise 24/7 feelings of fluffiness. Just believe that it is better not to validate and codify and give in to the negative feelings (learnt the hard way, step-mother, 2nd class, semi-retired)

I'm sorry that happened in your family, I could not be more sorry.

I know this space is supportive to those who need it, but there are also unwarranted attacks on posters including stepmothers, who do not agree with a certain way of thinking with regards to step parenting. I don't think anyone can argue that is not a problem here. Posters who would benefit from being here are chased away.

I'm sorry you're upset by this but it's not meant in the way you think. Please believe that the nastiness was left behind on the thread that this is a result of.

only it seems to me that the entire point of this rather nasty little "cliche" is simply to take the piss out of the vunerable and those who are struggling

Of course it isn't. The point is to debunk insidious myths like 'mini-wife syndrome' which pathologises perfecty normal little girls and is being bandied about and passed off as a medical/psychological diagnosis (it is no such thing.

Most step families are perfectly happy and healthy and consist of happy healthy individuals.

For the few that aren't, obviously professional intervention is appropriate.

I am very sorry for what happened to your child.

whyonearth, someone's going to post ahead of me and say it a whole lot better than I but hear me out, please.

A. This is a lighthearted thread, not intending to paint all SC as angels any more than it is meant to paint all SP as villains. It's a joke, we're here playing silly buggers and support is aplenty elsewhere, as you rightly said.

B. No-one is out to belittle your personal experience or to dismiss the solemnity of such a distressing situation. This thread came about as a result of the words and behaviour of one SP who gave a bad name to those who are in genuine distress and whose SC who are genuinely a huge issue to them.

I won't be told where or how to post but I'm sorry you feel as you do and am glad that you can find great support in threads other than lighthearted ones like this.

Oh I see now. All seems a bit passive aggressive and smug. Think I'm with a Whyonearthdoyouthink on this one.

Shame really.

I don't think it's passive aggressive but tbh I'd prefer passive aggressive to aggressive aggressive. Plus who doesn't like a nice hat?

Well quite Pag. It's all about the hat.

Do people think mini-wife-syndrome is a medical condition? Really? That's quite insulting to the intelligence of the average poster on here. Of course it happens, "mini wife" explains how it feels perfectly. When I first read that phrase I was like "yes! It's happened to someone else! I'm not mad"

Fortunately if have reached a stage where I don't need it validated so I couldn't care less if someone thinks it's made up. But there are newbies who need this stuff so I think less judging please.

And about the