Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Hello all

Glad that was cleared up, no it wasn't me Glad you've stopped lurking StarryShine, just break yourself in gently with us lot and you'll be fine

I do feel a bit better about things now, think I've just resigned myself to the fact that I can't do anything about it so I may as well make the best of it. We're hoping to go over to the hotel next weekend to have a nose around and book it. We want Saturday 9th June but will go for a later date if that one isn't available

Hello alligator good to hear from you

Squirrel hope you're feeling better today

Hello NAAM, how are you today? Is that June this year or next for the wedding??????? Dont forget we will have to have a virtual hen night

Next year FANC. Virtual hen night sounds good - fantastic idea I'm not having a proper one, doesn't seem right when no-one will be at the wedding

I'm OK thank you. Bit tired, I haven't had a lie-in since dsd came to live with us. DP says I should stay in bed at the weekend and let her go downstairs on her own and I have tried but I just can't get back to sleep. How are you?

How's everyone else?

Awwww NAAM you should have a lie in. I know wot you mean though, im the same when the kids stay with us, they are up at 7ish and I cant go back to sleep even though they are as good as gold and go downstairs to watch tv without disturbing us.

Im not too bad thanks, a bit achy and tired but looking forward to our first weekend off on our own in ages this weekend, cant wait

That'll be nice FANC, hope you have a lovely weekend. Are you going anywhere or just enjoying the peace and quiet at home?

Just enjoying the peace and quiet really , DP has booked me in for a facial tomorrow morning so that will be nice! Might go shopping tho aswell and get some things for the holiday...... ooohhhhhhhhh its sooooooo exciting!!!

Good, you deserve some excitement

I've started our packing too, we go 3 weeks today (not that I'm counting....much ) but we're actually going over 2 weeks on Saturday just for the night with dsd so we're going to take all our stuff then and leave it there. That way when we get there on 8th we'll have far less to do

Should be fun on 3rd, my brother and his 4 kids will be there too - his wife is going away with her mum so there'll be all 8 of us in the caravan!!

Blimey, it'll be like the Brady bunch! Lol - Sounds great fun though. I would love to buy a motorhome and drive around and see more of the country. I wouldn't mind a caravan, but DP hates them (the towing type that is). We have stayed in a static caravan twice before with the kids, and that was good fun!

lol at the Brady Bunch - probably more like the Adams Family with us lot

I wouldn't want a touring caravan either. My brother's is a static, it's quite big too - 3 bedrooms then another double bed in the lounge. There's lots to do, Butlins is just down the road and it's less than a 5-minute walk to \link{http://www.fantasyisland.co.uk\this} place. We love it there, it's one of the nearest seaside places to us - about 2.5 hours drive on a good run

Wow that place looks fab, I love places like that. There is a Butlins quite near us, we took the kids there 2 years ago, they loved it. Your brother's caravan sounds great, I love those big static ones, great fun, even if it rains!!! 31 days and counting until I go on holiday....... YIPPPPPPPPPPPEEEEEEEEEEE

I am very of you both going away on holiday; hope you both have a fantastic time.

dd saw the orthopedic surgeon this morning, not great news, a few of her vertebrae are degenerating, not a lot they can do, he was very unhelpful, we don't really know what the future holds for her now. I can see me having to research it via the Internet.

Hi Squirrel, great to see you how are you feeling today? So sorry to hear about DD , I do hope they can do something for her. Big hugs to you [[]]

Hello Fanc, I'm ok, got a very sore throat but at least I haven't got a raging temp now.

How are you? Hope your health much better now?

You are so lucky to have your dp book you a facial, my dp wouldn't think of doing something so lovely in a million years.

Hello Squirrel

Really sorry to hear about your dd. Can you ask to see a different surgeon? That's awful that they were so unhelpful

Hope you're feeling better soon, think you should have tomorrow off to fully recover

Agree about having an extra day off but my boss will have a fit!!!!!!

Dd is going back in 6 months, hopefully she will see somebody different. Meanwhile I will research and find out as much as I can.

6 months??!!

Really hope you find something out before then, that way your dd can take your findings with her when she sees the consultant

DP has had a sarcastic text off BM today saying he's sneaky and he's showing his true colours (wtf??). Think she must have been contacted about the Child Benefit, can't think what else it could be about. He's not replying though, it'd only cause a slanging match. She still hasn't been in touch with dsd. BMs parents keep saying to dsd that she's the child and she should get in touch with her mum. I actually think it's the other way round and that as the adult it's up to her mum to get in touch with her dd. DP asks dsd most days if she wants to ring her mum but she insists she doesn't want to, and I think DP is quite right not to make her phone her. She's certainly happy enough, which is the main thing

Of course it should be up to her Mum to get in touch first, after all she is the adult in this and is suposed to act like one and set a good example. Think it is really odd that they think it should be dsd's responsibility.

And your dp is entitled to the child benefit, she is living with you now, I would even go as far as saying she should be paying you some maintenance!

Yes, 6 months is a long time, they also told her they suspect that she may have some trapped nerves, no wonder the poor girl is in so much pain! All they seem to be doing is giving her stronger and stronger painkillers, she wont take them most of the time because they make her drowsy and she has two kids to look after. Still, I should be able to help out more if I haven't found another job soon.

Totally agree it's odd that BMs parents think it's up to dsd to get in touch, heaven knows how their minds work. Same as their dd probably, lol

I did suggest to DP that he should get maintenance from BM but he says he doesn't want to, which annoys me tbh. Since dsd came to live with us my shopping bill (I buy food) has gone up by about £30 a week!! I know that sounds a lot but honestly, it really has. I have told DP that when the Child Benefit and Tax Credits get sorted I'm going to stop the standing order I've got for him to cover it. He did say too that it probably wouldn't be worth trying to get maintenance from her anyway, she only works 30 hours a week so it wouldn't be much. Still annoys me though - I'm paying for her dd and she's not, grrrrrrr!!

I assume there isn't an alternative painkiller that your dd can take which wouldn't make her drowsy? Is her DP still around? Not that he's any help I know....

I know its not worth going for maintenance from her, but I understand your frustration, I would be angry too!

Unfortunately, the stronger the painkiller, the greater the side effects. No getting away form it really, we are both feeling a bit gutted because we were hoping that he would have better news today. Her dp isn't around ATM but as we all know that could change tomorrow.

Why can't we all have nice simple lives? Just for a couple of months, just so that we have time to recover from the next kick in the teeth.

Blimey, sorry that sounded so saaaaaaaaad and pathetic, guess I'm feeling a bit down....again.... dont take any notice I'll be back to my normal nutty self after the 2nd (by the way its my birthday two day's after that, I feel soooooooooooooooo old).

Know exactly what you mean about recovering before you get the next kick in the teeth, I can soooooo relate to that

Your dd deserves someone so much better, wish she could see it. Must be awful watching her waste her time on him

Only 2 weeks to go I was flicking through my diary last weekend and I said to DP that I'd have to say happy birthday to you early because we go away early on 3rd for the night and won't be back till late on your birthday. I will try though to say hello on the day

Blimey! Don't tell me you remember everyones birthday, I have trouble just remembering my own!!!!! I really hope that you have a lovely time, you deserve it.

lol - it's in my diary. And alligator's after I forgot last year Must put FANC's in, think it's 6th February but I'm sure she'll correct me if I'm wrong

naam

Can totally relate to ur probs with BM. SS lives with us and BM does not phone and says that he should make the effort to phone her. He does then doesnt hear form BM for months. Same applies to maternal grandparents. Why hasnt he phone etc on the rare contact we have. DH and i have instigated every single contact and holiday. DH has had custody since ss was 3 i have only been involved for last 6 years ss is 16. DH only started getting CSA when i said he should so BM didnt pay for 7 years. I would go for CSA. No differnt in my eyes whether its an absent father or mother.

Spot on with me birthday NAAM - You clever thing, im crap at remembering birthdays When is yours, now that I know when Squirrel's is?

Nicknack, I agree, maintenance should be paid by ANY absent parent whether father or mother. I do think that too much is made about the fathers that dont pay maintenance. People must remember that allthough not so common, there are mothers that do not have custody and do not pay maintenance too.

Hello, I take another day off to recover and there is nobody here!