Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Hello - thanks for the invite. Think I'm going to lurk for a bit.

I'll be over in the corner licking my wounds.

Note to self: should have lurked before posting!

Don't worry Starryshine, you'll soon get used to us

Have to say I lurked for about 8 months before I joined

This site has been a godsend to me, I can honestly say I don't think my relationship would have survived without it and I know at least some of the other stepmums feel the same

We like to have a \link{http://www.123greetings.com/stay_in_touch/send_a_smile/stsmile19.html\laugh} on here, and virtual alcohol is compulsory

Welcome Starryshine. Just read your post with interest. Please dont take it personally, there are some people on Mumsnet that like to "bite" a bit, but the majority will give you good honest support and advice.

Good morning NAAM, long time no speak to, how the devil are you?

Hello FANC

Good to see you on here again

I'm OK thank you, have to say things are ticking along quite nicely with dsd so far. It's bloody hard work though - honestly the amount of extra cleaning/ironing/shopping she's created is unbelievable! She does help out though - we have a work rota for her - and of course DP does his share, as he always has

DP and I are going to Ingoldmells 3 weeks on Thursday for 9 days and I soooooo can't wait. Hope that doesn't sound selfish but we don't get any time on our own now, and dsd will be fine and happy with DPs parents

How are you?

Hi NAAM, so glad to hear things are going well with DSD. Sounds like you have things going great with rotas etc. She sounds like a model DSD if I asked mine to do some house work I'd probably be laughed out the house lol

Ingoldmells, wheres that? sorry. Sounds fab though, you deserve some time together. DP and I have just booked 2 weeks in Cyprus (2 weeks for the price of one) yippeeeeeee!!! Going in 5 weeks time and I soooooooo cant wait. DP doesn't have enough holiday left, but it was too good an opportunity to miss so he is doing loads of overtime to get extra time on his card! We are taking youngest DSS and DSD to Florida next year with DP's parents (they are renting a villa) and I am soooooooo looking forward to that too as DSD has never flown before and DSD has only flown once when he was a baby and doesn't remember it! I have always wanted to take them to Florida and I can't wait to see their faces when they get there

Don't know about model dsd, she still has her moments talking to DP like you wouldn't believe (don't they all?) but at least now he pulls her up on it

Cyprus sounds wonderful, I'm sure you'll have a great time And you'll love Florida - never been myself but everyone I know who's been there has said it's fantastic

Ingoldmells is on the Lincolnshire coast, just a little bit up from Skegness. My eldest brother has a caravan there - we love it. We go the day before the World Cup starts so it'll be 9 days of football for us - perfect

Ingoldmells sounds lovely NAAM, Ive never been to Skegness but have always wanted to. I dont think it matters where you go if you have quality time together. We went to Cyprus 3 years ago and loved it so much that we are going to move there when DP retires

Ive been to Florida twice before (with ex-p) and loved it so much. I am a big kid at heart and although DP wont admit that he would like it, I know he will.

Of course he'll love it. Retiring to Cyprus eh? Can I come too

Totally agree it doesn't matter where you go as long as you have time together. I'm on countdown already

Of course you can come NAAM!!! All welcome, as long as you dont mind waiting another 15 years! Lol

Sounds good, means I'll be retired before I'm 50 - just

Same here NAAM lol Although DP will be 55 as he is so much older than me

Ditto on that one too FANC

DP is 40 next year, tee hee hee hee

Spring chicken lol - DP was 40 in January!!!! Whereas I was a mere 35 in February! Lol Its lovely being the youngest isn't it?

Where is everyone???? Typical, for once I get a couple of hours to chat and no-one is on here! Lol

I'm here!! Didn't think anyone else was around today

Hello NAAM! I was just about to give up hope! How are you?

Is it me or is this website running slow today too?

So glad you said that FANC - it's definitely slow, I thought it was my computer!!

I'm OK thank you, rather stressed out with wedding plans though ~~sigh~~

How are you?

Cool, hows the wedding planning going? I would be sooooooooo excited if I was planning my wedding!!!! [grin}

It's going pretty badly so far I had my heart set on just the two of us going to New York - we can't afford a big 'do', and we really don't want a fuss anyway. But DP wants his dd to be there so yet again I'm having to give in to suit them. And I've already had my mum tell me that I've 'got to tell X that we won't be speaking to them' - X being my eldest brother who she fell out with 7 years ago, we being her and my dad

Looks like we'll be getting married \link{http://www.sarova.co.uk/sarova/weddings/abbey.cfm\here} which don't get me wrong does look lovely, but my heart's just not in it because it's not what I want. And yes I know I'm being selfish but I thought that just this once in my life I might come first. Think I might just forget about it for a while and hope everyone forgets we said we were getting married

How are things with you? Have you had your hospital appointment yet?

Awwww NAAM so sorry to hear that, and no you are NOT being selfish. In my opinion and girl's wedding day should be the most special day of her life and you are entitled to do what YOU want. Im sorry, but if it was me (and I know it's easier to say when it's not) I would tell DP that it is New York or not at all. This is YOUR day and I am afraid if it was me I would say that it was my way or the highway iykwim! Sorry to be all doom and gloom, but it is such an important day. Can you not have it your way in New York and then throw another party for DSD etc. on your return? That way everyone will be a part of it and you get to have 2 parties???

Trouble is if we do that the party when we get back would turn into something bigger than we'd want it to. And anyway DP wants her at the wedding. It's weird because at first I was soooooo excited and just thrilled to be getting married, but now I've had chance to sit and think about it I just feel bitter that yet again I'm having to give in to please DP and dsd but I really don't see any other way around it - either I give in or we don't get married. And my flippin' mother isn't helping. Thanks to her - assuming we do get married - I'm going to spend the day worrying that there's going to be an argument!!

To be perfectly honest, and sorry if this sounds really blunt NAAM - But if I was in your situation, I wouldn't get married. I know its a case of cutting nose to spite face and all that, but it would be principal with me im afraid.

Dont get me wrong, if I get married, I really would want DP's children there, whereas DP is quite happy for us to elope and have just 2 strangers as witnesses at our wedding! However, if you feel that strongly about it, then I think you have to stick to your guns. If everyone else does what they want then you will only resent him/them/it and trust me, it will ruin your day, especially with the impending problem of your parents! It is meant to be the happiest day of your life, and if you are on edge about things not being how you want, then I worry it will be ruined for you.

hi just joined to day step mother to teenager who lives with us. I have found the site quite theraputic and i have always thought that the feelings i have re ss was abnormal and now i know that it is not!

Hi NickNack, welcome to the nutty stepmums thread! You will find a lot of helpful advice on here on all levels!