Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Lucky for them they were at the other end of the phone.

Ooohhh how bloody annoying!!

Wouldn't you just love to have a day - just one day - where you could say what you like on the phone at work?? I know I would. I'm a receptionist and I get allsorts. The other day I answered the phone in my best posh voice (which is only heard at work!) and said "good morning (company) can I help you?" There was a long pause then a voice said "Oh, have I got the wrong number?" Then another long pause. Give us a bloody clue woman! At least tell me who you thought you'd phoned!

Wouldnt that be nice NAAM I'd certainly have a few things to say.

Me too

I'm off home now to sit out on the patio in the sun. Got to make the most of it, it's going to pee down here all weekend!!

Have a good one everyone

Have a nice weekend Naam

Blast - I had got last year's bottle of Pimms out in the hope of sunshine! I also fool myself that if I add Diet Lemonade, that it is calorie free -honest

Have a good one everyone

Hi, Everyone. Sorry I'm a bit late in the thread three celebrations but I've been busy. This horrible state of affairs I have been thru just got a WHOLE lot worse. I am pregnant and it isn't DP's. Have explained the issue to DP and he wants me to end it. It is understandable and the best course of action but it is against everything I believe in. I have a hard decision to make and one I'll have to live with for the rest of my life.
It has made one thing clear in my head tho. I do want to be with DP. Not the other. If I want to save my relationship I have to have the termination.
WHY DID I GET MYSELF INTO THE STUPID MESS IN THE FIRST PLACE.
I wish I could go back a year and just NOT go there.
Please don't think I am a tart or anything. Thiswas a stupid teenage accident. I have to deal with. Any ideas anyone.

Blimey workingmum, poor you So many questions you need to ask yourself

Are you absolutely certain that you want to stay with him?
If a termination goes against everything you believe in, could you really live with yourself if you did it?
Does the baby's father know about this? If so what has he said? If not, do you intend to tell him?
If you choose to keep the baby and lose your DP, it may mean you being a single parent - not a question as such but something you need to think about
On the other hand, if you do keep the baby and lose your DP, the baby's father may want to be with you - is that really a road you want to go down?

I don't have the answers I'm afraid

Really hope you're somehow managing to cope, thinking of you hun xxxx

I don't want a termination. Part of me is hoping DP will accept it but I know I'm living in a dream world. His reaction to this and other's reaction to other things show me who I should be with. My head has been battered for a while but I think I'm coming out of it now. DP has been a pllar for me. The right man. YES he annoys me at times and I could happily beat him senseless but that is a long term relationship for you
It gets worse tho. As I work in Gynecology the girls have pulledout all the stops for me. I have had many blood tests. They show that the hormone level is rising to much for a normal single pregnancy. This is either twins or an abnormal pregnancy. Won't know for a while.

I don't want a termination. Part of me is hoping DP will accept it but I know I'm living in a dream world. His reaction to this and other's reaction to other things show me who I should be with. My head has been battered for a while but I think I'm coming out of it now. DP has been a pllar for me. The right man. YES he annoys me at times and I could happily beat him senseless but that is a long term relationship for you
It gets worse tho. As I work in Gynecology the girls have pulledout all the stops for me. I have had many blood tests. They show that the hormone level is rising to much for a normal single pregnancy. This is either twins or an abnormal pregnancy. Won't know for a while.

workingmum I hope you can come to the right decision for all of you. Thinking of you, hope you're OK

How's everyone else?

Weighed myself this morning, only lost one pound this week but I can't really grumble because I had a bit to drink over the weekend. And a Burger King on the way to Manchester

Never mind, back to it now

Hope everyone's OK

Well Naam, a drink and a burger at the weekend is law (especially when you have just been proposed too!!!!! )

I'm fine thanks (a little p*ssed, just drank the best part of a bottle of veno!!!!)

Had an interview the other day, was offered the job on the spot, then they told me that is was only for 12 hours per week, but who cares, I am getting used to the idea of having the Summer off!

Got another interview on Friday Morning, not sure if I want it or not now, its a good job, good pay, but some time off is certainly appealing right now.

P.S. excuse the spelling etc, I don't usually drink this much.......hic, did I ever tell you how much I love you guys?... hic, hic... am off to buy a kebab with lots of chilli sauce... talk later.

Hey, the Squirrel's here! Lucky you. A bottle of wine and a kebab . I've had 3 GLASSES of wine in the past fortnight as I've joined slimming world.

I work 13 hours a week, it's great. I have absolutely no desire to work any more with the summer on its way.

Squirrel, summer off sounds wonderful

surfermum how are you doing on slimming world?

Hope everyone's OK

Shame I can't spend it lying on a white sand beach, drinking cocktails, with a \link{http://www.menshealth.gr/id/files/5636/Gay%20Speedo%20Muscles.jpg\hunk} rubbing in sun lotion.......

Anyway, back to reality....

How are you?

lol Squirrel

I'm OK thank you. Have to go and see my Dad after work, he was rushed to hospital on Tuesday night they thought he was going to have a heart attack but it's "just" inflammation of the heart which they can give him tablets for so could have been a lot worse. He's out of hospital now, think I'll feel better when I've actually seen him iyswim

It's an absolutely gorgeous day here. Going to be the same again tomorrow but rain all weekend again!! Seriously thinking of having a BBQ tomorrow night

How are you? And how's your dd doing?

How worrying for you, I hope he is ok.

Its a lovely day here too Naam, think we may well have a BBQ tomorrow evening too.

I fine thanks, dd has her appointment with the orthopeadic surgeon next Thursday (they keep messing about with the appointments) but we are hoping that he has some good news for her.

How are things with dsd?

Really glad you're OK, fingers crossed for your dd

Things are fine with dsd thank you. Don't know if you read my post last Friday but last Thursday night with her mum was an absolute disaster. DP and I really don't think she'll go back there now, and tbh we don't really want her to because even if she does we'll just be waiting for the phone call to say it's all kicked off again and she has to come back to us. I really do think she's better off with us. Her mum hasn't been in touch at all, I don't know how she can do that. dsd doesn't seem very bothered though, she said last night that she really tried last week to make things up with her mum but she was horrible to her so she's had her chance and that's it. We're currently in the process of applying for Child Benefit and Tax Credits for her, don't see why her mum should get them when she's living with us - we weren't bothered when it was temporary but we feel different now it's going to be permanent. DP has cancelled the maintenance payments and he hasn't had a phone call giving him a b*((ocking which we're very surprised at

I keep looking out of my window and thinking "wish I was out there....."

Of course you get child benefit etc for her, she is living with you now. I'm glad things are going well having her living with you, its a shame things have got so bad between her and her Mum though.

I must admit I am rushed off my feet trying to get this house in some sort of order today but I'm looking out of the window thinking "Stuff it, I should really spend the day relaxing in the garden!"

Yes it certainly is a shame. dsd knows that she can ring her whenever she likes but she insists she doesn't want to and I think DP is right not to make her ring her. Can't help thinking that her mum is the adult and it's up to her to sort it out. But I admit I'm biased

You should definitely spend the day relaxing in the garden, I certainly would if I could

Hi NAAM, Squirrel et al
Glad things are going well NAAM

Now, ladies a poser for you ......

DSS's maternal gran has died, the funeral is in Scotland next Wednesday and he and his dad are flying up on Tuesday, back on Thurs .... great timing as we fly off to Spain later on the Thurs !!
We have a good relationship with DSS's BM - she is going through a split at the mo - DSS does NOT get on with his Step-dad, so she and DSS's other sister often come up to stay so that they can see him (Step-dad will not allow him in their house ... not surprised she's splitting up with him !!) Anyway - My DH, DSS and DH's ex will all be up there together for 2 nights and whilst I'm being supportive and have even booked and paid for the tickets (DH is away at the mo) I feel a bit unsettled by them almost playing happy families with her relations that DH obviously knows well ..... God does that make sense?!
Anyway - am I being overly sensitive or acting almost normally !!??

Hello yiam

Could you not go too - not to the funeral obviously but just make the trip with them?

I can fully understand why you feel uneasy about this and would even go as far as to say that if it was me I'd go bloody loopy about it, even if BM and I had a good relationship! I can't really understand why your DH wants to go - it's not as if his ds needs his support as there will be plenty of family there to 'look after' him

Hope I'm not putting ideas into your head but I really think you're being an absolute saint here

btw - at the Stepdad!! Agree it's no wonder she's splitting with him!!!!

yeahinaminute, don't think you are being over sensitive at all, I would feel exactly the same.

Its daft really even though we know that our partners love us and have no romantic feeling towards the ex, the fact that they have a history, a family with them can drive us nuts at times like these. No real advice, but I can understand how you feel but try not to let it get to you too much. Remember he married you, he loves you and he will be coming back to you.

Have a great holiday btw.

Hi NAAM - well - no I can't go DD needs looking after and I need to get everything organised for our holiday on the 18th ( talk about bad timing !!)
So I am trying to keep a clear head about this - just had chat with BM - if necessary can her DH bring their daughter up to ours on the Tuesday and she can fly up with DH and DSS ... said yes OK !!
And DSS actually wants his dad there as he was very close to his Gran and feels that he would have to be strong and responsible for his mum and sister ...
God it's a right poser !!