Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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DOS program???? Sounds painful to me

I've had to do some work today too!! Not good

DP has had to fetch dsd out of school because she was upset, he says she's OK now though. They're coming to see me at lunchtime we're going to feed the ducks

I suppose its the phone calls yesterday evening, hope she is ok.

Was BM having a go at your dp?

No, DP hasn't spoken to her Squirrel - yet! She tried to ring him 5 times this morning at about half 8 but needless to say DP was in bed asleep, she knows he's on nights!!

Spoke to DP again just, apparantly BM was asking dsd about the school counsellor she's been seeing, dsd told her she was at school today so BM went to see her and told her that dsd hadn't told the truth about what happened when they fell out she said dsd had attacked her but she didn't fight back. That's just not true - DP saw it! And when she came to us 4 days later she was still quite bruised. Needless to say dsd is angry with her now as well as upset because she's tried to make it look like she lied. Poor girl

Off to feed the ducks now, I'll let you know how she is when I come back but DP assures me she's OK now [hopeful emoticon]

Its dsd's parents evening this evening isn't it?

Poor kid, I don't understand why her Mum is being like this. I realy hope that someone can talk to her and get her to agree to mediation.

Yes it's parents evening, I'm leaving work at 4:15

dsd is surprisingly fine, she just said as far as she's concerned that was her mum's last chance. She said she's completely ignored her for 8 weeks and then she turns up out of the blue and calls her a liar poor, poor girl. But, as I said, she really does seem OK. Have to say, in the last 2.5 years she's had so much happen in her life, she just seems to take everything in her stride bless her. And I know this must sound awful but I wish her mum would just stay out of the way, dsd is fine until she appears on the scene then she gets upset again. As you said, mediation would be good for her - even if only to make her see that her dd is happy and we are not ogres! But that's just not going to happen

dsd may be brave but she's scared of ducks when they come out of the water and try to take bread off her

Can't help hoping that her Mum grows up and sorts this out properly with her dd.

But then again if she was grown up and handling things well you wouldn't be in this situation.

I wish my mother had tried a bit harder, if only to show that she did love me, just a tiny bit. I don't want your dsd to feel the same when she is older too.

Please don't think I am taking anything away from you Naam, you are brilliant, just what dsd needs atm, you are doing a fantastic job, I just feel really sad being the daughter of a Mother who didn't seem to care, I hope that it doesn't happen to your dsd.

Hope parents evening goes well Naam

Thank you squirrel

I hope they sort it out too. Do you know what I'd really, really like to happen? I'd like for BM to ring dsd and say something like "I miss you, I love you, I really want to see you. Can we just forget everything that's happened and concentrate on the future? I'm not going to shout at you, I'm not going to have a go at you, I'm not going to bad-mouth Dad and NAAM, I'm not going to try to tell you what you think or want, I just want us to be how a mother and daughter should be"

And if she did that I really think dsd would see her, but I know I've got more chance of catching Lord Lucan riding Shergar!!

In the meantime, dsd is happy and that's what matters

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Thank you, I'm sure it will

alligator I hope you got your DOS program sorted without too much pain

morning all a quick catch up before all hell breaks loose again today. .

You seem to be handling things so well and so calmly NAAM and so does dsd. Well done to you both. BM sounds like she needs some serious help tbh. esp with the whole jewellery thing and going to the school councellor like that. Ver strange.

Hows things today Squirrel? Hows ds's jobhunting going? got my fingers crossed hell get something soon Have you found out when your job starts.
Hows things going with your dp? Glad you managed to get through the party with your dad. Must have been so difficult. I can't even begin to think how hard it must be.
Dos program actually wasnt too bad to sort cos luckily I didnt have to do any actual DOS but in passing they mentioned they'd like access to an old paradox database so I installed it on my machine and managed to f**k up two other database programs which I spent all fixing!!!

Phew, so many questions Alligator,

I'm ok thank you, it would help if ds would actually look for a job rather than laying on the sofa watching kids TV! He is a bit of a 'science brain' and working for dp was only meant to be temporary and he wants to go into pathology but its really hard to get into.

Still haven't got a start date yet, I hope there isn't a problem with my references. [worried emoticon] Feel like I have been permenantly stressed for months now. Roll on the holiday, please pray for good weather for me {or I'll make you all do the good weather dance).

How was Parents Evening Naam?

Blimey alligator, I'm soooo glad I'm not a technical person

Parents evening was good thank you we saw 8 teachers, 4 of whom said that there had been a big improvement in dsd in the last couple of months - only one of these knew that she had come to live with us 2.5 months ago we were really pleased, it made us think we must be doing something right

Pathology?? Blimey that sounds technical too

Brilliant Naam, you must feel realy proud. (Now why haven't we got a proud step-mummy emoticon?)

I think I must have too much on my mind atm, just realised that I only shaved one leg this morning, one is as smooth as a babies bum and the other is like a Yeti's arm pit! PMSL!

Ds really wants to into Cytology (the examination of cells (looking for Cancer cells) using optical microscopy method, specimens derived from the human female reproductive tract, such as the cervix and vagina). I had cervical cancer when I was 21, it was only by chance that it was discovered early (I was having an op for something else). His best friends mother had it but it was discovered to late, he is quite passionate about women having regular smears. How unsual is that for a 20yr old male? He naggs dd about it something rotten, (he doesn't have to with me, I have tests every 6 months).

When did you have your last smear test? [squirrel looks over her glases in a stern manner].

PMSL at the Yeti's arm pit

Yes we were both very proud we saw my sister there (her ds2 is the same age as dsd) we told her what had been said and she said "they'll have to open the double doors to let you two out of here!"

Please Miss - I'm up to date with my smears Seriously, my last one was 2 years ago so I'll go again next year. It certainly is unusual for a 20yo male to be so passionate about smears, nice though I would never not go - my gran (Dad's mum) died at 61 of cervical cancer and my sister had part of her cervix removed in her early 20s because of abnormal cells on her smear. My sister's SIL (her DHs sister) died of it about 8 years ago aged 42 leaving two young sons. She never had a smear in her life - just refused to go. Silly woman, now those poor boys have to go through life without their mum

Has anyone seen the weather for the next few days? It's giving out a fantastic weekend - and it's DPs weekend off

Have a gold star Naam, your story and so many like that are why ds is so passionate about it. When his best friend was going through such an awful time (knowing that I had been so lucky it was caught early) he decided that is what he wanted to do. BTW his friend is now a cytologist, they both heard of the job at the same time but ds wanted him to have it so he backed out. His friend just has to pass 1 more exam then he will be promoted then there will be a place for ds, so wish him well (for both of them).

Oh and yep, really looking forward to the weekend. I have my grandkids on Saturday, I might just have to blow up this for them.

Of course with Lea being so young I'll have to get in too!

OMG, I have just looked at the price of it! When I bought it a couple of years ago it was £40!

I'm going to make the most of the sun before I get a start date, I'll catch up with you all later.

Oh dear what a pity youll have to get in too Squirrel. am sure you wont enjoy that at all at all

Well done to dsd NAAM

That's great about your ds Squirrel really hope he gets to do what he wants. Very worthwhile career, must give lots of job satisfaction

Ooohh that looks like fun and of course you must get in too, can't have them in there on their own in case they hurt themselves....any excuse I was going to get a pool for our garden but I've decided against it for this year - too much to do. Might get one next year. We've got a small one we bought for dsd a couple of years ago, we'll probably get that our for the weekend. We've got dsd's 2 friends staying on Saturday night, never had her friends overnight before. Hope they keep quiet when the match is on LOL

And, and, and!! I am actually going out on Friday night!! We're having a night out from work, not had one for ages so looking forward to that

Thank you alligator every 3 years for a smear. How are things with you atm? Hope you and yours are OK

Squirrel you have sun?? Lucky you - it's cloudy here, haven't seen the sun all day. Warm enough though and dry so could be worse

Morning all

Gorgeous day here in the sunny Midlands Hope it keeps up for the weekend

Hope everyone's OK

Morning all Have a feeling todays gonna be one of those days again. Havent had time to stop for a breath till about 5 mins ago. Am having a wee break now and MNing for 5 mins and all hell can break loose it likes.I DONT CARE

Alligator, you have been working far to hard recently, maybe its time to ask for a pay rise.

Don't they know I'll be back at work soon and I don't think I'll be able to chat to you from there?!?