Sorry, this could be long...
dsd's nan phoned yesterday afternoon and spoke to DP, dsd was out, she was fine with him - just asked about dsd and said she'd like to speak to her. She also asked if dsd was still going up in August "seeing as you've made arrangements and you've got no alternative for dsd" DP told her she was coming with us, he said she was quite taken aback and said "but that's not fair on you - that's your holiday with your parents" to which DP said we were more than happy to take her with us, it's all arranged and it's not a problem. dsd phoned her back when she got home, she was OK with dsd too, she got a bit upset on the phone saying she missed her nan and the dogs. When she got off the phone we thought 'well it looks like she's going to make it up with her nan so that's good'
Her nan then phoned BM and said "dd is in a state you'd better ring her"
dsd had a brief conversation with BM, she told her she was happy with us and didn't want to go back, she wasn't on the phone for long but DP had to go to work whilst she was talking to her. BM said "do you really want to be there all night with NAAM?", dsd said "I'd rather be here with NAAM than there with you" sorry She was a bit upset when she got off the phone but we had a chat, she said her mum keeps saying "you're not happy there, they are not looking after you properly". When dsd got off the phone, she phoned her nan and said she had no right ringing her mum, she was only upset because she missed her and she shouldn't have involved her mum (I was secretly pleased that she did this, I was bloody annoyed at her nan)
BM text dsd this morning saying could she take her to school, which dsd let her do. I phoned dsd just before school started to make sure she was OK, she says she's fine and that her mum is just trying to make her go back there but she's told her again that she doesn't want to and she's happy with us
I just can't understand what BMs trying to do. She'll never get her back by trying to put words into her mouth and slagging us off. I really think that if she was nice to dsd she would see her - I don't think she'll ever go back - and I absolutely don't want her to either - but I do think she'd see her regularly. She actually said to her last night "you'd be a really nice person if it wasn't for your cocky attitude". Well for once I almost agree with her - dsd has got a cocky attitude. But she's a teenager fgs - haven't they all? It doesn't make her a bad person, she just needs reminding from time to time that her attitude needs to improve - again, don't they all?
I'll ring dsd again when she has her lunch just to make sure she's OK