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Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

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Squirrel3 · 03/05/2006 17:58

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory! Grin

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NotActuallyAMum · 23/06/2006 16:23

Have a good weekend everyone

Surfermum · 23/06/2006 19:50

You too NAAM - and everyone else. I think you should be really proud of how your dsd feels about being with you, because that's down to you and your dh. She is very lucky to have you.

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 06:59

Hello everyone, (not that anybody will be up at this hour)

The party was good Naam, I was very scared at seeing my Father for the first time in years, but he was ok. Got a bit of a shock really, he looked so old, it was hard to believe that he was the same man that used to beat me within an inch of my life. Very confused feelings about him atm. I introduced him to his great grandchildren (he has never seen or acknowleged them). Still at least my mother didn't turn up, now that really would have messed with my head!

The weather was good so the dress was fine, infact I was boiling. DB and SIL looked really 'loved up', mentioned it to dp saying how it seemed to have refreshed their relationship, he replied "Well they will probably be divorced within the year". Which reminds me, Cruella (my wicked step-mother) kept going on about dp and I getting married, she had only just met him and she was going on about it, asking what we were waiting for etc!!! I was really for dp!

Don't know why I am calling him DP atm, we had a bit of a row yesterday, still not talking.

Surfermum, we don't know where we are going yet, dp seems to think we can just turn up right at the beginning of the Summer holidays and get a pitch with electrical hook-up, swiming pool, entertainment, well just about everything!!! I'll have a look around the internet today to find a camp site. Any recomendations?

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 08:34

Hope your weekend was good Alligator.

Are you nursing a sore head?

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 10:34

Hello all

Squirrel that's awful I know men can forget things but to forget that is truly awful. Have to say I'm not too surprised at your stepmum's comments - my ex and I used to get that sort of thing all the time, it certainly is bloody annoying. at your DPs comment about your DB and SIL though!! That's a horrible thing to say when they've just got married

Not surprised you're not talking to him hope you manage to sort things out soon. I can't help thinking that he does remember you telling him but he just doesn't want to talk about it - typical bloody man, just brush it under the carpet and pretend it hasn't happened

Hope everyone is OK and had a good weekend. Alligator, hope you didn't get too flootered

alligator · 26/06/2006 10:53

Morning all. We had a lovely weekend thanks and didnt get to flootered at all as didnt really ahve time. We nipped out for a few pints Sat night when we got back fromthe coast but that was it really.

I'm glad you managed to get through the party ok Squirel It must ahve been very difficult for you. Am very ed at dp tho. I hope that he apologises to you later. I know I am forgetful but not sure I could forget something that significant and if I did I'd be grovelling not getting indignant.

Well I've got to head of fnow. Might try to get onto my computer later and see if I can fix it and have a chat to everyone (depends on whether himself indoors has got all the housework done or not theo ). hte house is a bit of a 2&8 atm.

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 14:35

Yes alligator, I think dp should be groveling, if he doesn't apologise there will be trouble. If he still insists that he can't remember me telling him I will make an appointment for him with his GP as he is obviously suffering from an early onslaught of senile dementia.

How was your weekend Naam?

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 14:45

It was OK I suppose....DPs on nights atm so it's never great - not for him either, he hates nights as much as I do. AND my internet connection at home has gone tits up so that didn't help!! That's usually my one saving grace when he's nights. Thanks for asking

Agree your DP should definitely be grovelling big time, and if he doesn't he'll have us to answer to!!!!

My sister gave dsd a lift to her friends house yesterday and dsd told my sister that she didn't have anything to do with her mum any more but she's not bothered because she'll have me as her stepmum soon so that was nice. Brought a tear to DPs eyes when I told him

Can't believe your DP thinks you can go away in August and expect to find somewhere to stay easily! Typical man again!!

NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 14:46

Forgot to say, DP has asked me to go to parents evening tomorrow

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 14:53

Blimey Naam, well done!

Speaking as a Mum myself I still think she should try to have some contact with her Mum though. There is nothing you can do about it, it has to come from her Mother, sadly it doesn't look like that is going to happen though.

Keep up the good work with dsd Naam, you are doing a brilliant job!

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 15:10

Thank you

Agree with you about her mum, but agree again it certainly doesn't look like it's going to happen. And there's no way we're going to make dsd phone her - I really think that as the adult, and as a mother, it's up to BM to get in touch. She hasn't had any contact whatsoever now for nearly 8 weeks, I just can't understand how she can ignore her own child like that. dsd hasn't heard from her nan either, her nan has said all along that it was up to dsd to get in touch with her mum and not the other way round so no doubt she thinks the same applies to her too. We're taking dsd on holiday with us now August bank holiday week, DPs mum was fine about it. We've booked her a room at the hotel, she'll think she's all grown up but she'll be fine, it's en-suite so we'll just make it clear she's not to leave her room without us or PIL. The hotel only has 9 rooms anyway, and we'll be in 3 of them LOL. We haven't told her yet, we're going to wait until she asks if we're still going (we said we probably wouldn't go). If she does happen to make it up with her nan and she wants to go and see her during the holidays, her nan will just have to fit in with us and our plans

btw, remember me saying that dsd's half-sister had cleared off from BMs house and taken all their jewellery? Well apparantly she hadn't!! dsd told us the other day that whilst she was at her nan's during whit week her nan said that BM had 'found' the jewellery and said that she must have misplaced it!! How on earth can you 'misplace' all that jewellery?? And to accuse her own dd of stealing it and having the police round?? The woman really is chuffin' barmy!!

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 15:18

I can't understand it either Naam, but my mother will (and has done for years) walk over to the otherside of the road to avoid walking past me on the pavement, then again I wouldn't speak to her if she did come up to me and say hello.

Its really sad, which is why I feel so sad for your dsd, mind you she is luckier than me - she has you as a step-mum, I had Cruella!!!!!!!

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 15:38

That's awful about your parents Squirrel But it's a huge credit to you that you've grown up to be the person, and the fantastic parent and grandparent, that you have - you should be proud of yourself

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 15:45

The way I see it, I could become bitter and twisted but what good what that do? It would only serve to make the kids and I miserable.

I know I had a crap childhood, I know it does bother me from time to time but there is no way I would let it effect my kids. I haven't done anything to be proud of, it just makes sense not to become bitter about it, it wouldn't hurt those who made my life miserable, it would only make me and the people who I love miserable IYKWIM.

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 15:52

DD's mobile phone has broken, so I bought her a cheap one on Friday. It still isn't up and running, some idiot in the tech dept made a mistake trying to register it and I am really I have phoned and phoned, they keep telling me it should be up and running in 30mins, FFS its 3 days later!

The last time I phoned I tried to get them to re-emberse (sp?) me (in credit on the phone) for the money it has cost me to keep phoning them, they refused! I suppose it was a bit of a cheek but then again......

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 15:52

You're absolutely spot on there, but even so it would have ruined some people. I still think you should be proud of yourself

Have you heard from your DP today?

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 15:53

Nope, haven't heard from him.

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 15:54

No it wasn't a cheek! What is a cheek is them keep telling you it'll be working in '30 minutes'

Absolutely appalling service! What network is this?

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 15:56

OOOOOOOooooh! Name and shame!!!!!

T-MOBILE!

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 16:06

I used to be with them - they were crap then too. Then they had the cheek to be really surprised when I changed to O2 and wanted to take my number with me. In the end I had to say in a very stern voice "look, I'm not going to change my mind, I am leaving your network - please just give me my PAC and stop wasting my time" (PAC = port authorisation code, needed when you take your number to another network)

Do you normally hear from your DP during the day?

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 16:11

occasionally he will phone, but he knows I am not too happy with him atm. On the other-hand he is being all indignant because I dared to tell him that I felt he didn't care enough about me to remember what he had been told.

Will see what he has to say for himself when he gets home.

I really can do without all of this atm, got enough to worry about without him acting like a spoilt brat! Men!!

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 16:15

And he knows that only too well, which makes his behaviour all the more unreasonable!! Men indeed!!!! Do you know when he'll be home or is it a case of expect him when he turns up?

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 16:22

Its a case of wait and see when he turns up. his work is like that, he can't leave the customer without water or a cooker for the night so he has to make sure that they are plumbed in before he can leave work and it takes as long as it takes.

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NotActuallyAMum · 26/06/2006 16:29

I thought that would probably be the case, usually is in his line of work

Hope he turns up with some flowers and a big apology

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Squirrel3 · 26/06/2006 16:30

PMSL!

If that happens I'll eat this PC!

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