Step-Parents Wine Drinking Club

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It seems the logical move.

DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Midori - I just had a glance back at the AIBU thread and I am so, so sorry to hear about the loss of your babies.

After reading on, I am just astounded that you are still standing. I can't actually believe that one of the more vitriolic posters actually replied to your post where you mentioned the loss of your twins by attacking you about criticising the BM and then, only as an after thought, posted another message to say "sorry about your twins".

The fact that you are still on here and in one piece makes you a far, far better person than I am.

Personally, I think you sound like a very loving and caring WSM (w = wonderful btw) and I am raising a glass to you right now.

Some people are just bloody nasty. Here have another .

here, have half my bottle! Hope your dh gets it sorted xx

how have i not seen this before? may i join please?

i've always got wine.....

welcome! Grab a gass and have a moan!!

I've just had my second glass (hic!) and amazed that dsd went to bed at 9! Normally she hangs around with dp until 12/1am!..... Must be cause we're getting photos done tomorrow....

Anyway, now i have to creep into my own room to sleep staying really still as dd (11months) is in with us while dsd stays.... Hopefully she wont go back to waking every 2 hours!

Have a great night ladies xx

oh , i have just squeezed my bag (box wine - don't judge - we are poor atm)

and cracked open the mateus which was a thankyou gift to my dh.. anyhow he only drinks redd

midori, a young woman at my ds school has just lost hers at almost full-term due to gest diab (i think) and i just want to squeeze her every day but i don't know her well enough

my hugest squeeze and thoughts for you my love, you are a trooper (as my granny would say, so meant in the best possible way)

I never judge box wine....not until I've drunk it to make sure I'm certain I disapprove. I believe we have a box of Julio Gallo White Grenache in the kitchen right now.

I know, I know I deserve beating over the head with a bottle of £20 Merlot, but I like Gallo White Grenache!

Wine for me today lunchtime and evening.

DSS is off to stay with his mum for a couple of days so get a break. (He lives with us full-time now).

Not that i am celebrating or anything :0

I can't suss these smileys. Will try again :o

and I haven't been at the wine yet - honest.

So sorry to hear about your friend Jonesy. People so often think things will be fine after 12 weeks (we did) and they so often aren't.

On a slightly more cheery note, no more wine for me, as I have found out I am pregnant this morning. I have no idea what is going on, as I am only on day 23 of my cycle, but I have only had one period since my last miscarriage (not my girls) so maybe I ovulated early. I am really hoping it will be OK this time. They have me on Asprin and I now have to start heparin injections, so I am keeping everything crossed and hoping for the best. We are far away from family etc soaren't telling anyone we don't have to (except my sister) until 24 weeks.

Only, I didn't discuss with the ex w first, so am I over stepping the mark here?!

So, decaff for me from now on...

oh midori that's wonderful, I am keeping everything crossed for you too.

You must of course stay in this club (even though you are now in another ) I will be happy to drink your wine for you.

Midori, that's brilliant news and I've got everything crossed for you as well.

Here, have a grape juice :)

Congratulations Midori.

I hope all goes well for you and all your family.

I read your thread on AIBU and at some of the comments!

I too get sick of people slating step mum's and by doing so, often saying that birth children in second families and birth children of the step mother, should lay down and be walked all over for fear of upsetting a birth mother or the step children who often are getting the best of both worlds.

Some people are incapable of seeing the bigger picture, and some people can. I like to think I am the latter.

Congratulations Midori. Everything is crossed for you.

We will all drink the wine for you :)

And surely the ex would be delighted for you when you finally announce the news :o

Congratulations Midori, so pleased for you!

Am also happy to drink for you

Congratulations Midori - I remember you from when you lost the twins and you always seemed so strong.
Good luck with this pregnancy.

DSS coming tomorrow for the rest of the half term - am really looking forward to it to be fair and his mum, who up to now has always hated me seems to be mellowing and I apparently have a gift for the new baby making it's way to me.
My DH has also reassured me umpteen times now that there will be no problems for my DSS to be taken back to his Mum's as and when I go into labour. We'll see but I can't keep banging on at him so am going to detach and believe!

Big cup of tea, some biscuits AND some chocolate for me this evening... hey I am 36 weeks pregnant afterall!!!

Hope everyone else is ok
xxx

congratulations! Another excuse for me to hit the bottle!!! Xx

The step children go back to Mum's tomorrow morning, so tomorrow evening will be my second evening in 10 days where I haven't had 5 kids here.

I was dreading it and was feeling really low before they came but thanks to them and mostly to DP I have enjoyed having them here and have relaxed and slept well.

I'll actually be a bit sad to see them go back to Mum.

Still might have to have a glass of red though.

congrats midori! :) wish you all the besyt

have dss coming tomorrow for the rest of half term, it means dd will have someone to play with so thats good... wish he didn't wake up so early but hey ho

relaxing with my wine now

enjoy you time off redhen

*best

*your

too much wine [grein]

Evening all. Wasn't going to have a glass tonight, but it is Wednesday after all.

I don't venture much away from here - its a scary old world out there on the forum but I was reading an AIBU thread about someone who'd seen two children out without shoes or coats, in their nightwear in October. Most of the posters were falling over themselves to show how non judgemental they are.

...And I wondered if they would have been so nonjudgemental if the OP had said the mother was a step mum .

Remember everyone. It's fine to take your kids out without coats or shoes, but don't whatever you do change access by even an hour, suggest you change your maintenance, say your DSC behaves badly, because now, that would be evil.

Sorry all. I have had a difficult day and I have a large chip on my shoulder...now where's my wine .

BH, I'll join you- quite an eventful week here got both DSDs and DD's BF is visiting!

Totally agree there is some sort of consensus that SM are bad from the get go...so much for solidarity! witches hunt more like...

Ah thanks for our safe thread is what I say!

A big fat Sluuuuuuuuuuurp !

i hid my wine from dsd in my chilli tonight!

You are right, we sm are the true underclass, our feelings and opinions don't count!!

now where did i put the bottle....

Yes never ever post on AIBU as a stepmother.

Seriously it is a very bad idea, because it will be automatically assumed you hate your stepkids and want to do them harm, and the stepkids's mum is always a paragon of virtue (even when it is revealed that her relationship with the OP's DH broke down because she was the town bike )

There are some right fucking hypocrits on here unfortunately, if you posted about something that you did to your own child, everyone is very laissez-faire about it and says "oh yes I did that too to my dc", but if you mentioned the word step you get called evil and cruel.

I stay well away from such threads.

No DH, DCs.

Bottle of wine - check.
Chocolate - check.
Internet - check.

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