Step-Parents Wine Drinking Club

[cobbledtogether]

It seems the logical move.



DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[WildistheWind]

moving on to the Rioja now- [hgrin]

[notremotelyintofootie]

had a lovely omlette and now having a nice glass of red, no idea when dsd is coming and tbh i don't care! Ha ha ha.... I'm such an evil stepmum!!

[theredhen]

Petal, I will never understand why BM's want to palm their kids off onto another woman. If the father of their children can't be with them, they should be with BM. Or wouldn't it be nice if BM asked you if you would mind "babysitting" her son?

"My" BM been posting on facebook how much she missed her 4 children when she was in hospital for a night (we had them for 2 nights, wasn't asked, just told at the last min and not kept informed by grandparents) and how ill she is and how she can't leave the house etc. etc.

Turns out she's out with the new boyfriend for a meal this evening and is quite happy to only see her kids for 8 hours in 9 days.

Please allow me to rise above it and not post on facebook what I would really like to say!

Slurp slurp.

[cobbledtogether]

Hi ladies. DH is with DSD all next weekend. This weekend I went out and drank cocktails and he is apparently going to get up with DCs. won't post more right now as embarassingly drunk

[onionlove]

hi can I join you all. Can totally relate to many of you and so glad I found you. I have DSD of 10 and DS of 1 year. Have to admit I don't enjoy being step very much for many reasons although I like my DSD personally i find it irritating that our routine is turned upside down when she is here and DH treats her like a cross between a mate and a baby. They are texting each other since shegot a phone hope that novelty wears off as I feel like we have no space sometimes. Why do I find it irritating that DH has to report everything we are doing to her I feel. Have no privacy. I also had my DSD with us when our baby was newborn and I found it really difficult especially when midwives visited and she was earwigging every word.

[notremotelyintofootie]

right, its early dd is up and dsd is due over today... It will be nice to see her but.... Dd gets kicked out of her room into ours so her sleep routine will be screwed (only just managed to stop her waking every 2 hours!)... No idea when dsd will go home and no doubt dp will be filling her head with how wonderful it will be when she comes to live here... Arghhh, that'll mean dd will be in our room for a minimum of 2 years because dp wont make dsd share..... Arghhhhhhhhh i get so wound up thinking about the impracticalities of it! Right, strong coffee in a bit and i will get more wine in for later!

Have a good half term ladies, anywhere doing good wine multibuys at the moment???

[jonesy71]

oh dear, just witnessed an awful attack on a SM in AIBU, 'the exw is in the wrong here' ok maybe she's gone about something in the wrong way but jeez the poor woman has been tarred and feathered. - still wincing from it.

Too early for a swig, maybe i'll just put the kettle on.

[cobbledtogether]

Jonesy & MJ that is exactly why I started the wine drinking club as so far so good, the first post gets read and the only toasting is with wine rather than being flamed.

I am fed up of not being able to express any negative feelings as a SM without someone attacking. It happens in RL and now have discovered its the same in forums (how naieve was I?)

Cups of Tea all around - suns not over the yard -arm yet, after all.

[cobbledtogether]

I also can't spell naive. Maybe its a good job I can't drink wine this early.

[notremotelyintofootie]

and we thank you babyheave for this sanctuary!! Aibu does seem to have a lot of 'sheep' recently and i read that thread too and thought that poor sm..... Lets pass her a glass too.

[WildistheWind]

I was shocked at the agressiveness towards the SM- Sadly the old evil Stepmum Imagery seems ever present....I blame Disney and Cinderella!!!

Too early to drink still...

[WildistheWind]

oh and forgot to add -Thank you babyheave for creating a safe haven for us SM !

[midori1999]

Thanks guys, I've been invited to come in here, and I am well in need of a large glass of wine, anything will do...

I think we have messed things up a bit, but we were genuinely trying to do what was best at the time, especially for DSD.

[cobbledtogether]

Hi Midori, glad you got the invite, it was getting hairy over in AIBU. Virtual wine awaits (or RL tea and biccies during the day).



It sounds like what you did was with the best intentions and its just not panned out how you hoped. Unfortunately there are a few out there who see the words "step mother" and replace it with "Evil spawn from the gaping jaws of the blackest pit of hell" and then go on to say some pretty unpleasant things, just to make sure you know how evil you are .

[midori1999]

Well, you've made me laugh at least.

If I had biscuits I'd go for RL tea and them, but I don't. However, I do have chocolate, so I think I'll go for that. It's an emergency after all...

[cobbledtogether]

Absolutely!

Always remember that chocolate is made from cocoa beans. Beans = vegetable therefore Chocolate = one of your 5 a day.

Coffee also comes from beans and wine from grapes.

I always get my 5 a day.

[jonesy71]

Just come home to find midori has been rescued! phew, that was getting really unpleasant.

By the way has anyone else spotted that some of them were using 'dexw' ? am i right in thinking that means 'darling ex wife' REALLY ?

If so are we going to be referred to as Dsm?

I won't be holding my breath..

[Petal02]

Welcome Midori - you're far safer over here! Did you bring a cork screw?

[notremotelyintofootie]

right got a new bottle but no where to sit! Dh and dsd hogging sofa, dsd hasnt moved off it since 1pm! Arghhhh ds ended up eating upstairs and i stood in kitchen to eat, dh didnt 'notice'..... Time for a large one now....

[cobbledtogether]

Jonesy, 'd' can stand for so many things. Deranged, demonic, desperate, dastardly, demented, devious etc. They probably meant one of them.

[jonesy71]

ok i'll pick one of them then!!

[midori1999]

maybe they meant all of them?

Thanks all. I have wine, corskscrew and very large glass. Feel a bit sick as DH is supposed to be phoning ex w to discuss, and hopefully sort out, but he seems to be watching master chef...

[cobbledtogether]

Keep your glass filled and I hope he's able to get something sorted.