Step-Parents Wine Drinking Club

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It seems the logical move.

DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Haha awwww I've got my DSD with us this weekend and our new puppy it's going to be mayhem

It's getting a bit ridiculous round here!! Posts deleted, my thread not deleted, apparently anyone can say anything about a sm but not a mum.

I'm all for, free speaking, differing views etc etc, but this smacks of bigotry in my opinion.

Sorry didn't get back on last night, was having "quality" time with dh . Did I mention we're ttc? Trying, but nothing happening lol.

People who lurk in the Step Parents Wine Drinking Club, who do not post, who are not step parents, but report posts that have nothing to do with them are strange, sad people who deserve our pity. Discuss.

Oh yes we have dsd Saturday, and it's her birthday tomorrow. We never get her on her birthday. Even if it falls on access weekend it gets changed! Although dsd tells me they don't do anything special. We also never get her on Christmas Day, although her mother has a job that works shifts now. I wonder if she realises that care homes don't close on Christmas Day??!!

That isn't fair at all harrassed. Poor child needs to see her daddy on her birthday and christmas!
We have DSD this weekend too, swimming saturday but unfortunatly I am working nights from saturday so will be asleep alot. :(

It's the same with us, this is the first year my DP will see his daughter on her birthday and Christmas day. As you said it usually gets changed.

Poor you, it must be gutting seeing the presents piled up just waiting to be opened.
This year DSD gets her birthday eve with her mother and then she's got her party which we'll all be at and then she'll come to ours for the night. I've mentioned Christmas already, I'm really looking forward to it!

Until we went to solicitors we we're never taken seriously... it all changed after that though and now we have so much more say in what goes on.

We never get DSD on Christmas or Birthdays either. Like many of you it can be days or weeks after. At Christmas the reason is generally because its "family time" and they are going to "spend it with 'family'" and they go away for the whole 2 weeks to BMs or SDs parents.

Last time I checked me, DH, DHs parents, my parents and our DCs were family too. DH will never rock the boat and suggest she comes to us, but calling her is the first thing he does when he wakes up, without fail and he's always a little sad about it during the day.

I think it hurts him that her SDs family are considered more family than he is by his ex.

Why oh why am I sat crying at work :( not a good day just want to go home

Mj you've offended someone else on the thread about a thread. You must go and sit on the norty step.........

We don't do a birthday party as such, but dh has a massive family (5 brothers & 1 sister) so I think that counts as a party with all the nieces and nephew thrown in!! This year I though a nice grown up afternoon tea would be fun, so I'll be baking tomorrow night and Sat am.

SMS, what's wrong ?

Smummy what's up???

Harrassed that sounds fab ! Very happy for you and family!

Babyheave that's how it is wih us... However mum has resorted to mind games wih DSD now, DP won't let her change DSDs surname to he SDs, so now DSD is ignored at her mums as she isn't technically part of their family as she has a different surname!! She's 5 FGS!!!

Not sure, just feeling down in dumps today. Weathers not helping. If you'd seen my other thread still not got any AF symptoms but got a negative his morning. Brain is just mush

We get alternate Christmas except for one year when exW went on holiday with her boyfriend at the time, she was away for the entire school holiday. They came to us from the school bus, they heard nothing from her for the whole two weeks, apart from Christmas day when we got them to 'phone her ! She told them 'don't worry we'll have a proper Christmas when i get back'.

We did make sure they had a lovely time, they were only 7 and 9 at the time - I wasn't yet a mother (or BM I should say ) and I felt so sad for them, I just couldn't understand how any Mum could do that.

I can't tell you how I felt about her then.

That is co cruel SMS- how can she do that to her own child.

It's just a bloody surname, good grief.

Smummy that is digusting. I cannot believe a mother would do that to her child! and we're the wicked witches?! Her mother sounds vile, have you considered the courts? Make a note of everything DSD says to you as evidence.

Don't be down in the dumps keep smiling, leave it a week and if AF still hasn't come try again, sometimes it takes a while for a positive to come through. xxxx

jonesy DSD's mother went on holiday, one day later DSD was really ill and sick everywhere. When we told her she said "Tell her I will see her when I get back."
Right because that is a huge comfort to a 5 year old who feels crap and just wants a cuddle. Grrr makes me mad.

Wrongagain already been to court and seen as though she can't get to DP by stopping or rearranging contact shes resorted to that!! Oh that's not the lowest she's gone either.... Our solicitor advised us to keep a diary, it contains when her SD slept in her bed, when she's hit, when a door slammed in the wind at our house DSD flew under the kitchen table cos doors are always being slammed at mummys oh and mummy broke the door when SD went to the pub... Such a nice family home they have!!!