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cobbledtogether · 14/10/2010 21:41

It seems the logical move.

DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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WildistheWind · 15/10/2010 18:44

Indeed- crazy week here too!

raises her glass to Abip

cobbledtogether · 15/10/2010 20:44

Tonight I am mostly drinking Barefoot White Zinfandel. Thats the name of the wine, rather than a lack of footwear. I am actually wearing socks.

Glass, I shall join in your toast - Skaal TB, Sluuuuuurp.

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valiumplease · 17/10/2010 09:32

Hi all

Can I join this thread?

Don't worry though - I am most definitely not about to crack a bottle at 9.32am on a Sunday.........Grin

Petal02 · 17/10/2010 15:59

Hi Valium - welcome to the drinks cabinet!!

prettyfly1 · 17/10/2010 18:28

Very difficult access day - reaching for the rose as we speak - and - aaahhhhh.....................................

(glug)...

Petal02 · 17/10/2010 19:28

Prettyfly - what happened???

pleasechange · 17/10/2010 20:04

Hi all - sympathies to you prettyfly. What happened, and more importantly do you have the house back to yourself now after the difficult day?

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cobbledtogether · 17/10/2010 21:40

Welcome slimbo.

A beverage in need is a beverage indeed and wine subsitutes are all good if the wine runs out.

your situation sounds tricky - does the ex do this a lot?

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cobbledtogether · 18/10/2010 21:56

Sounds like a nightmare . I've been lucky that DP has a good relationship with the ex, but even then being an SP is hard, so goodness what its like when the ex is hard work.

Here, have a glass of Wild Pig Shiraz. I'm selecting wines by strange names this week.

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reddaisy · 18/10/2010 22:01

TootingBec, I DSD was here when I went into labour with DD, she was taken back to her adult older sister (her mum was away on holiday.) Then she was back to us for TWO weeks straight after I came home after an ecs. My mum had to come over and take her out so I could have some time with DD to bond.

Arrrgh. Glug.

cobbledtogether · 18/10/2010 22:15

reddaisy that's harsh.

glug.

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EMS23 · 19/10/2010 19:44

Can i join, albeit on the virgin cocktails as I'm 35 weeks pregnant?!

It's our access weekend when I'm due and although my DH keeps saying he's sure his ex will be fine to drop whatever she is doing to take my DSS back, I'm not convinced he's actually run this by her and am expecting problems.... We'll see..

Cheers to you all!

Petal02 · 19/10/2010 20:19

EMS23, in your position I would insist that the access weekend is re-arranged to accommodate the arrival of your new baby. If you don't have DSS in the first place that weekend, then the ex wouldn't have to drop everything to take her back. But once she's arrived at your house, the ex can be as awkward as she likes ......

We once found ourselves cutting it VERY fine to catch a holiday flight because the ex 'forgot' DH had arranged to take stepson back early that weekend. I had said all along that it would have made more sense to re-arrange the weekend, as I just KNEW we'd end up in that situation.

Enjoy your virgin cocktails!!

Sushiqueen · 20/10/2010 08:20

I agree with Petal02 about rearranging the weekend EMS23.

We had the same issues, we would arrange to take DSS's back early as we had to be somewhere and then get a text 10 mins before we were supposed to be at their house (and would already be driving there) to say they were running late and wouldn't be there for another hour or so.

Mind you she tried doing that as well when the boys were teenagers and had their own keys, so we just left them there and then checked with them to make sure their mum and stepdad had arrived back. :)

cobbledtogether · 20/10/2010 10:08

We had that a lot as well - arriving at DSDs house to find no one in and then spending an exciting 30 mins-hour sat in the car waiting for them to get back. The other trick being to say when we called to find out where they were "Oh we're at grans/aunts/uncles can you drop DSD there" and then find ourselves on an hour round trip to find another house to drop her at.

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ladydeedy · 20/10/2010 10:15

oh dear I sympathise and this is all familiar stuff. will raise a glass tonight. Our favourite was, collecting children for christmas, geared up to return them for new year then later that day receiving a text saying "I have gone on holiday and unfortunately will not return till 9th January".

She then got her dates mixed up and in fact returned on 8th January and demanded they be returned, when they were actually at a sleepover with cousins that day so we said no, they'll be back tomorrow. All hell let loose, naturally "I havent seen them for 3 weeks!!" - um yeah, because you decided to flip off and leave them, without even telling them or us that you had made plans to go away!!! grrrrr. We do laugh about it now but far from funny at the time....

WkdSM · 20/10/2010 16:03

I can't believe it - I go away for 2 weeks and you lot start a party!

I think there are alien clones around as we all seem to have the BMs (and sometimes SK's) from hell! Is it like Invasion of the Body Snatchers.

I prefer red (although will of course drink white or rose if required) and will be opening a nice bottle of weekday wine tonight.

Roll on the weekend when I can hit the expensive stuff.

caramelwaffle · 20/10/2010 20:36

hic

jonesy71 · 20/10/2010 20:47

We had the DSSs last christmas - massive family christmas dinner - 25people, - lovely memorable day. Just talking recently about this coming christmas, they don't even remember being with us 'no we were at mum's for xmas day' then younger DSS piped up 'no you think that because we have our 'proper' xmas day at mum's'

heart in pieces (along with forever trying to get it right) all over the floor.....

hey ho, at least this xmas is just..... i shouldn't say

caramelwaffle · 20/10/2010 20:52
Petal02 · 20/10/2010 20:57

Jonesy, have a top up, sounds like you could do with it ......

miniwedge · 20/10/2010 21:08

Am joining you, I have no wine but do have an emergency bottle of champagne won at work last month.

I have two assignments due for uni next week, dsd is oming to stay from Monday for halfterm.
She doesn't sleep. Goes to bed as and when, spends evenings hyped up. I generally get home from long shite day at work to the delights of XBOx at full blast and general shit all over the place.

I love her but really really need a bit of peace to get my work done.

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