Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

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I try to do joint rewards for joint efforts as it brings us closer and it leads to the DC helping each other to earn the reward. This would usually be a trip somewhere - not necessarily expensive, but maybe the beach and play area next to it, which we have to pay train fare to get to and from.

They can earn little rewards by doing small jobs around the house that they aren't expected to, this might be extra screen time, later bedtime, bit of extra pocket money etc

Good school reports is always rewarded with a new book, following on from what my parents did for me and my 2 older sisters, it can be any type of book, not necessarily fiction (colouring, non-fiction etc)

I reward my daughter when she is extra helpful with pocket money but don't generally award good behaviour as to be fair she is well behaved and sensible most of the time. If she is naughty or rude then she loses screen time on her ipad or television, that is enough punishment for her to not do it again :)

If you have raised your kids properly, you really shouldn't have to reward them for good behaviour, because good should be normal. No bribes in our house. Behave yourselves or risk losing your privileges.

We are careful to teach that being good should be for its own sake regardless of rewards and benefits

We try to model good behaviour and have found kind words and approval to be far more effective in getting and maintaining good behaviour from the dcs than treats.

Praise good behaviour, I hate the idea of bribery. I don't think it works in the long run. Children then expect sweets and treats for doing what they should be doing anyway!

I have a reward chart, so everytime they achieve something good they get a sticker on their chart that goes toward a big treat, which could be a day out or a nice meal somewhere

Generally praise good behaviour. I did bribe/ uses stickers and chocolate buttons for the first couple of days of toilet training though!

Praise and compliments for good behaviour; consequences for bad. I don't beliebe in bribes (toys etc) for good behaviour.

i dont really reward good behaviour as i expect good behaviour. I do punish bad behaviour and give praise to my lil boy if he has been particularly polite or helpful.

I'll generally reward only for something that's shown extra effort. Praise given for good work but feel a reward is for special occasions rather than everyday.

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for?
No but I used to have one as a child

Do you use extra screen time as a reward?
Yes, extra game time usually

Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat?
Yes, a sweet at the weekends

Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy?
Yes, sometimes we shop with pocket money and a top up for being good

Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?
Yes this too, maybe days out with friends like go karting, or the zoo

we have a reward chart

They don't get rewarded for good behaviour- they should be like that. They will not however, do.jice things if they show me bad behaviour.

Generally I expect good behaviour but there are some things where it’s easy to have a natural beneficial consequence. Eg if I’ve told them to tidy up before television, if they work quickly and efficiently then there is more time for more television so I do point that out. If they’ve saved me time by doing an unexpected helpful job then I try and make a point of rewarding them by spending that time on/with them.

Ummm, we didn't reward, rather we expected good behaviour but always made sure our children knew we valued their co-operation. When times were particularly challenging, we may have provided a reward during or after, but emphasis was always on developing strategies / alternative responses to a situation when mis-behaviour may arise.

Arrrggghhh, reading this back it sounds so pompous!
We did reward for specific things, e.g. tidy your room without nagging and we'll do something nice.

I’m another of those people who thinks good behaviour and living in a civil society should be their own reward. The problem is that kids who learn to rely on external motivations will find it hard to power through when it comes to something like learning a language or an instrument where you just have to stick with it and the reward is eventually being able to do it well!

Yes high expectations for good and kind behaviour. But I like to "catch" them being especially kind and good, just as much as I "catch" them being naughty. I reward this with stickers mainly. They feel very proud when this happens. One has a water bottle decorated in said stickers.
Very occasionally I will get them a treat eg ice cream at the park, which I would have done anyway - I sometimes explain this was because they have been good.

We do reward good behaviour but only in terms of praise unless it is exceptional behaviour

Good behaviour is expected in our household and not something to be opted into if a carrot dangle is on offer! If either of them was ever naughty/rude/badly behaved then there would be a punishment/forfeit - I think the knowledge of that worked better and has hardly ever had to be used.

Rather, when they have done something great/nice/special we have spontaneously always rewarded with them being able to choose something nice for us to do as a family - so we all get to celebrate their success in a way of their choosing.

We find carrot works way better than stick so use rewards for quite a lot of things with our 4 and 7 year olds. They both have a marble jar and so for everything they do which is positive they achieve a marble, when the jar is full, they get to pick a reward of their choice.

Descriptive praise. Praise the behaviour you want, and you get more of it. Plus they seem so delighted to be praised.

I don't agree with all the ' we don't praise good behaviour, we expect it' comments. No one would like a boss who never gave recognition or praise for a good piece of work because ' I expect it because I pay you for it.'

lot's of verbal praise and random treats

lot's of verbal praise and random treats

lot's of verbal praise and random treats