Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

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Our son is only two so were really trying to stick to praise heaped on him when hes been good, with lots of cuddles too. I have been known to offer a small sweet or bite of a biscuit in the past, but we haven't yet reached reward charts etc.

I just praise my children. Maybe get them a McDonald's if they get a good school report but I haven't got the spare cash for fancy gifts etc. A hug, me being proud and their favourite dinner is about it. 😕

I don't reward them for good behavior. I don't tolerate bad behavior either. I praise them a lot and tell them how lovely it is to hear them being kind to their peers and our family quote has always been "Manners cost nothing" - seems to work for us!!

When our little one has gone beyond what is expected with good behaviour such as behaving in situations where most other little ones will struggle like a long flight or boring sessions we will reward him by buying what they had he had his eyes on for the last month in the toy shop.

We have a rewards chart, each time they do something they get a star. Once they have seven stars they get to pick a treat out of the 'mystery surprise bag'. Its full of small toys which cost a couple of pounds each. They love that they get to pick a mystery surprise.

As with other posters, we do not reward for good behaviour, it's a basic expectation from everyone in the family.

However, any extra special act of kindness or consideration will usually get them a treat such as extra screen time (or in the case of my ten year old, a cup of tea in a reusable Starbucks cup and a biscuit which is her latest 'thing' )

My children are brought up with an emphasis on the positive. Good behaviour is not rewarded with material things but with lots of attention from hubby and I. Children crave attention more than anything. They soon learned that if we were busy negative behaviour was the way to get it! Once we realised that we made a conscious effort never to be too busy. Also if we did see anything untoward during the day we tried not to react immediately but talk about it with them later in the day :)

I save material things for Christmas (although I give my 10 year old £2.50 a week pocket money). But if my son has been really good, or made me very proud I will give him what he wants the most....praise and attention and time. I will tell him how he has made me proud and tell him we will have nice snacks and play a game or watch a movie and have lots of cuddles and snuggles ❤️❤️

We don't really reward good behaviour. We speak with them like adults to make them understand why we expect them to behave. I have a friend who is constantly 'praising' her child and TBH he is a nightmare. It seems he expects a continual monologue of how great he is to even show her a modicum of respect.

We simply state that if they do not behave we cannot go out and experience new things so they trust us to offer them experiences such as travel or learning new skills and we trust them to respect and appreciate this.

We give DD stickers which she exchanges for toys when she has enough. She loves this and we arent constantly looking for coins for pocket money!

DS likes collecting special 50p coins so I save them when I get them in my change and give them to him when he’s been especially good.

Our son is 6 and he is rewarded with a pack of Match Attax, or sometimes a bag of sweeties.

If they’re extra helpful or extra good they get a treat. Expected and normal good behaviour gets a thank you and praise and told it’s really nice they’ve been good for however long.

I will certainly give the kids praise for being well behaved, but not as a bribe as in, "If you are good you will get a treat." I will take things away ,eg gaming consoles for bad behaviour.

We just use lots of praise for expected and normal good behaviour. If we think that our son has been especially kind, worked really hard or behaved really well when others haven't then we may give a small reward such as a toy or chocolate.

I reward my girls when they are being kind, sharing, helping with chores, manners, etc. The reward can range from something small like a sweet treat, to little toys. We do use screen time as a reward which can increase or decrease depending on behavior.

We don't really reward it, they're expected to be good.

A late night at the weekend or a family outing

My son sometimes doesn't want to read his school book or do his spellings. He also will never wipe his own bum! So I sometime use charts and a certain amount of smiley faces means a small treat like some sweets and lots might be a toy. Or at the moment he wants to save up for a more expensive toy so I say he can earn pocket money by doing things like 20p if he reads his school book or 20p if he wipes his own bum!

Charts never seemed to work for us, I think because DD1 would generally behave and misbehaved when tired or anxious so she was overwhelmed and any sort of chart had no effect. She's older now though and charts her own behaviour;)....

The key is obviously positive reinforcement- so that children get more attention when behaving well than when not. But how to implement that will depend on your child. I don't think the charts work particularly well for many kids at school, from what I've seen.

I don't reward for good behaviour, but I always praise them when they have done something good, caring, or being resilient.

Star charts on the fridge are useful but as they got older novelty wore off. Sweets on a Friday after school still works.

Sticker charts with rewards like cinema trips and toys

I praise them when they've worked hard on something, or shown empathy, have been kind etc. I don't necessarily reward them specifically. Rarely I have bought something I know they wanted when they've done something extraordinary but I wouldn't say that was good behaviour on its own.