Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck with the prize draw
MNHQ

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Agree that good behaviour should be expected. Any achievement is usually rewarded with something they are particularly into at that time, e.g. a certain author's book.

I reward my DCs with praise, and occasionally a treat e.g. trip to the cinema.
I try not to reward with sweet food, like my mum used to do with me.

Now mine are older I sometimes surprise them with a reward, which usually involves us spending some fun time together. For example at the end of the Autumn Term I booked for us all to get gel nails and told them it was a special treat as I knew that they had worked hard across a long term. It was a surprise so not a bribe in advance. They were delighted.

My boys collect pom-poms (like collecting marbles) for good behaviour, being kind etc. When the jar is full they get a treat!

We do pennies for holidays. They save them in a big jar.

Praise and more attention

Always reward good behaviour with praise and try really hard to foster a positive environment as my DS has had low self esteem from his dyspraxia and issues at school
The DC are expected to help with chores they are capable of and they have money for contributing in this area.
Achieving good behaviour is also rewarded with treats at the end of a month, such as books, small toys

We reward good behaviour with treats such as a movie night or a cinema trip. They are expected to get 5 gold stars every day to earn their regular activities and have to do extra chores to earn the big treats.

I expect good behaviour all the time but this isn’t the case and I don’t believe anybody who says there child is good all the time. As a parent if 3 I know kids have there moment but when my child is nice and kind and does something amazing they get rewarded, like today my 3 year old daughter dropped her ice cream in the floor so my 8 year old son took her to the ice cream van and spent his last £1 pocket money now that was so kind and deserves a treat. Rewarding them all the time doesn’t pay off they have to earn there rewards

Rewards in our house come in the form of a favourite meal, an extra 15 minutes up in the evening, choice of movie, a "well done", an extra 10 minutes on a tablet or a new game.

We don't believe in rewarding good behaviour as it is the default expectation. Praise for achievement is acknowledged. Only bad behaviour is reacted upon with appropriate disciplining!

Good behaviour is expected but highly praised. If they’re being exceptionally good a trip to the park is a treat they enjoy, is healthy and free!

I would reward them by doing a reward chart. Where the child will earn gold star for everything good they done and if they earn 7 stars for week then they get a treat, where they will be able to buy a toy from poundland.

Thanks for all your comments and congratulations @sleepybumble for winning the voucher!

Wow! How exciting, thankyou!

My dc are 9&11 and we’ve never really rewarded with ‘stuff’ for good behaviour, although they know that all of their activities (eg dance, football, music lessons) and paid for on the understanding that their behaviour is consistently good. They have always had praise but have always had the ‘expectation’ that their behaviour will be good. Their behaviour, other than the odd ‘wobble’, is very good.
Both have worked extremely hard in school this year so I have bought them both quite an expensive treat (a new Spurs shirt each) but they really have worked hard to overcome individual problems so I feel they deserve it. If we do ‘reward’ it’s usually with a walk/ trip to the park and ‘experiences’ etc rather than toys/clothes/money.