Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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Usually do not reward for good behaviour unless it is something special.treats are removed for bad behaviour.

We don't really do any rewards. Treats and gifts are randomly given.

give them sweets

I have to be honest, to reward my child's good behaviour, I switched from sky internet fibre, to Virgin as sky were useless, unreliable, slow, uncontactable, ignorant, unresponsive and incompetent. I often threaten them with switching back if there's any ridiculous tomfoolery xx

I praise them but certainly wouldn't start buying them rewards all the time as they will come to expect it.

No wonder there are so many entitled young people unable to function independently.

What even is good behaviour, do you mean normal behaviour of a good standard, that doesn't deserve to be rewarded, you behave because that's the right thing to do.

Ive never rewarded my DC with anything, what good does conditioning children that they will get money or sweets or toys if they behave like a normal person do them?

Good behaviour is an expectation here and I've never wanted to fall into the trap of having to use elaborate promises to bribe DS into conducting himself appropriately. We tend to use praise and positive reinforcement to be honest...
Although I've never wanted there to be a link between rewards and food, as it can lead to problematic eating habits/associations as they get older, sometimes it does creep in... generally though it'll be because we're out somewhere and it's a nice thing to do- ie, we're planning a visit to the art gallery for Father's Day and will probably end up stopping for a slice of cake in the cafe after the exhibition but that'll be a treat for all of us (and tbh this is more because I really love the cake they serve, but it doesn't hurt that DS will have something nice to look forward to)

With lots of smiles and cuddles

I don't really reward it as I don't want my child associating a present etc with behaving - like others have said I expect it! If she has been really kind or achieved something at school there might be the odd ice cream or extra 10 mins of tv

Lots of praise and positive reinforcement

I usually reward with a favourite story or maybe a trip to the park, but I use the reward card as an exception not the norm

Praise and recognition for positive behaviour and good effort is my everyday habit. It makes the child more confident and fosters well behaved and thoughtful actions.

Mine get money for doing chores like making their bed, washing up, hoovering etc. They can spend it on what they want, once they have saved some money up. If they have done something particularly great like a great parents evening etc, will let them choose a takeaway as a treat, or go to the dessert shop, whichever one they prefer

Someone recommended using star charts for though our two showed no interest in them, rewards had to be earned but were not to be expected.

My daughter has always been well behaved. When she does really well at school we have a takeaway once a month and let her choose which cuisine we have.

Reward through positive feedback, and acknowledgement of the good behaviour.

Chocolate and his favourite magazine or sticker book :) xxx

Money

We have a sticker reward chart. When they fill the weeks stickers they get to choose what treat they want. It seems to work well for us

Good behaviour is expected but I do reward my kids with new toys and extra PS4 or TV times on occasions.

I do reward my children. I wouldnt be able to get them to do anything if I didn't. We have a pot and they get a bean every time they do something well. When the pot is full they can have a treat of their choosing - usually an icecream.

I swear by eye catching reward charts on the wall with rewards when they get a certain amount

We use a reward chart and once they achieve a set amount of points, they get to choose a treat such as a visit to the country park or the local library etc

I have never rewarded good behaviour and only ever needed to punish bad behaviour on occasion when they were very small (naughty step or time out for hitting your brother, for example). From the word go my lot have been taught by example, taught respect and empathy and tolerance. They all know exactly how to behave and would be mortified if they caused someone else to feel sad by their own actions or words.

They are teenagers now, but when they were younger I used to give them £5 each for a shop near to us that had a big selection of pocket money type toys, books, craft supplies etc. This was as a treat during school holidays, to cheer them up if they had been unwell or to say well done after parents' evening which I guess good behaviour comes into to some extent, but we saw it more as a treat for working hard at school rather than behaving, as they always did behave anyway. I don't think good behaviour should be rewarded as it gives the impression that there is an alternative. In my house there isn't!

My son is rewarded for doing things he dislikes without moaning or making a fuss - such as going to swimming lessons. Good behaviour as with many other replies is expected (although not always there) and if poor behaviour is shown then things are taken away.