Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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I don't reward for expected good behaviour on a day to day basis but if we're going somewhere where they might have to do a lot of waiting around or if good behaviour is very much needed i.e. at a wedding etc then I let them know that they will receive a treat if they are good - they get to choose this so could be sweets but could equally be a small toy or watching their favourite film.

good behaviour should be the norm, and as such not rewarded but I always let them know that I am aware of how they behaved, and sometimes a simpple thankyiu is enough

Praise good behaviour. Make it known how proud and pleased you are with them.

Cuddle and positive reinforcement

We have takeaway on Friday if everyone has been good all week (including daddy!)

We use praise and marvel with them about how well they have done and how hard they have worked. Sometimes we use stickers for homework reading ... those books are really dull!

In return of good behaviour my children earn time on their tablets, PlayStation and YouTube I do monitor very closely but I feel these rewards not only save me money because they don't cost me but this generation of kids dont seem to be to fussed if they have sweets or not or are not going out to play as soon as I mention you will loose time they cooperate better with me each day they can earn upto 2 hours on internet and games online all three of them have clear set instructions and it works in my house 😊

We find surprises work really well, so we dont tell them what they get for being good or working hard in school.We base it on do good and get good things, whether its be an ice cream out of the blue or a treat being something they have asked for like a film or a book. We dont want them to only do good to get a reward. We expect it to be the right way to behave. The kids LOVE the surprise as they are not expecting it.

Oscar is only 16 months, but he still knows when he's done something good! We praise him very vocally!

I agree with some other posters here and we don't reward good behaviour as such. Good behaviour is the default position. They have certain "treats" or recreation time like tv/screen time playing out etc when they behave well.

If they misbehave, then these things are not available to them. I have thought about it in the past, but I didnt want them to grow up thinking they would be rewarded for what is normal behaviour.

Good behaviour is the norm in our house so we don't tend to give regular rewards. DS doesn't ask for many toys etc because his birthday is in July which usually sees him through until Christmas. Sometimes when out he will ask for a comic and if he has been good the majority of the week he will be allowed.

Be really specific and praise the deed, achievement, accomplishment etc. Give lots of attention, as that is what most children crave - positive attention for whatever they've done well, improved on, worked hard at etc.

I'm always surprised how much attention is given to children's behaviour people dislike, when if you reversed that and gave it to all the behaviour you do like, you find that you get more of it!

she's still only little...so cuddles and claps right now...though i'm also not planning to reward good behaviour as it's a basic expectation

A sticker chart works in our home. At the end of the sticker trail a nice reward is given maybe a sweet treat or a little something from the toy shop.

While I don't believe in rewarding children and bribing them into good behaviour, I do encourage i incentives and occasionally treat them for something out of the ordinary or working particularly hard, such as a family day out after SATS or stickers for toilet training, or perhaps if they have done something above and beyond spontaneously, they are rewarded. Recently my daughter had intervened in a bullying issue at school and not only comforted the bullied child but helped resolve the matter. School were impressed and so were we and had takeout pizza that evening to acknowledge it (we never really have take out so she knew it was a fabulous treat!)

My children are grown up now and i have a granddaughter. Rewards for my granddaughter are just the same as for my children when they were young. Just kind words such as 'good girl' and 'well done'

My son will bribe his dad for playstation vouchers haha!
he will do dishes, cleaning, help with washing when you ask.. but IF HE wants a treat he comes asking for jobs for a reward ofcourse!

I bribed mine with money for good behaviour - pocket money had to be earned by keeping bedrooms tidy, helping out etc. Bad behaviour was punished by confiscating their favourite items, usually electrical stuff. This combination seems to have worked well, as they;ve all grown into well-adjusted, well-behaved young adults.

I use praise a lot and my DC's face lights up when I tell him I am proud of him.

Sometimes he gets to choose a little toy for consistent good behaviour.

I don't use food for rewards usually but am seriously considering smarties or chocolate buttons to help motivate potty training as stickers and magnet charts are not working...!

Lots of hugs and praise works best with my son :)

We reward for being good and for trying hard at school. They get ipad time or get to stay up a bit later

We used to do a sticker chart and if behaviour was good (which it always was), they would get a surprise at the end of the week. That could be to watch a DVD, have a fancy pudding or a hot chocolate, go to an event (which we would have gone to anyway...). It was very low key. We no longer do sticker charts, but the rewards have very much stayed the same.

My kids have a range of rewards for good behaviour. It is often time on games consoles or tablets but occasionally it will be a day out or a new computer game.

DD responds really well to praise and if I explain my expectations of her behaviour.

My toddlers favourite reward is being given a penny and buying herself something from the shop. She loves to put it up to the till and hand over her money. She calls it paying a little treat. Works really well, but needs planning out!