Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck with the prize draw
MNHQ

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Extra time on the ipad

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We rewarded our eldest with Thomas the tank engine books for potty training, a set of 60 books was about £20. He got one per poo to start with then one per day he was clean and dry all day. It worked! But it wasn't needed with our second dc. We don't have general rewards for good behaviour now, just for extra special achievements or if and when the mood takes us.

I'm not entirely certain that we reward for good behaviour. Praise would be the biggest one but we don't buy treats etc. We trust that they will learn by consequences and realise that good behaviour is what is expected .

I always say please and thank you to Leo (age 3) and make a big deal of telling him hat a good and clever boy he has been when he has had a particularly good day. Similarly, when he has been naughty, I make sure that I tell him that I'm disappointed. I don't believe in giving 'rewards' or in any type of corporal punishment because I don't want him to grow up thinking that he will immediately get a reward for his good deeds. Daisy is 8 and she now responds well to me telling her what a good girl she has been but also making sure she hears me tell other people how good she has been. She loves to receive her school reports because she really enjoys reading what her teachers have to say. So far this system has worked well and I don't envisage changing it in the future.

I'm an advocate of praise and positive parenting as rewards rather than the toy/chocolate variety, however when my children have good school reports or reach a goal that they have put a lot of effort into, such as my daughter swimming her first 100 metres or my son getting a judo belt, then I do resort to the latter.

praise :)

Praise and special days out.

We have a scorecard for them : every 10 times that they have displayed good behaviour, we camp in the conservatory for a silly night out with them. They love this. Once our garden is done and privacy screens are up, we might pitch there. It is seriously a lot of fun

We don’t reward good behaviour because that is our expectation. However, misbehaviour leads to consequences. We are clear in our expectations and if they aren’t met there is one warning. We always follow through with any consequences.

I Prefer the idea of rewards for good behaviour. But will often just give verbal praise, unless something extra special has happened. Then maybe a trip to the ice cream shop as a reward.
More often than not, bad behaviour results in the threat of confiscating the Ipad or turning the internet off. This is the reward/punishment my eldest cares most about 😩

praise rather than treats

a smile, a well done, and a clap goes down well. Not too much over the top or it breeds expectation.

praise and cuddles and once achievements have been made a pressie

Just expect them to be well behaved especially when we are out. No rewards.

Good behaviour and good manners should be expected, not something that is rewarded.

good behaviour is expected, will praise anything that exceeds my expectations, and withdraw stuff like game time for behaviour below par

I reward good behaviour with lots of praise and more attention. With 3 children, I need them to be kind to each other and support me or I just wouldn't be able to get everything done. I try not to reward good behaviour with "things" or it could quickly get expensive so it's all about mummy saying how much she appreciates the good behaviour!

Good praise and acknowledgement

I don't specifically reward good behaviour because it is expected. But I will give praise? However I Sometimes give little treats. I'll get her say a new book or a fun day out and I'll always tell her that it's for being such a good girl and making me proud.

I try to reward my children in different ways. I always praise them when I see them doing something right or good and if it's something exceptional like a good school report or consistent good feedback from school then I give them an unexpected special reward like I gave the kids £10-20 (depending on the age) for those with good reports. If they help me with something big like folding laundry (ours is always huge and a mountain of a job) or housework chores then they earn themselves some pocket money. Also if their room is messy then they aren't given treats or pocket money until it is done so that doing the right thing is always seen as being beneficial to them!

I think there is to much reward for kids to do everyday tasks these days! We reward if they do something extra special or extra well, or without being asked especially. And we have used reward charts for a special new toy at the end of the month if they have been going through a difficult time of misbehaving. We use screen time as a very special reward, but also take it away if they aren't good!

We reward good behaviour with nice days out, or visits to the theatre. I like to have something planned that we can all look forward to.

Swimming or whatever activity we were going to do anyway, I just tell them it's because they were well behaved!

I expect good behaviour and manners, it's how my parents brought me up and it's done good by me. If she goes above and beyond in some way then there is a small reward.