Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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I expect good behaviour and will praise it rather than reward it, a cuddle and encouraging words of praise work much better as a reward. Cuddles are free but priceless to children!

I dont think you should go buying your kids loads of stuff for being "good", but its good to encourage the right behaviour, I always liked to reward what I call "good choices" made.

What I mean by that is, you can buy a toy everytime your kid uses the potty, but I do believe that it wont make the process of learning how to be dry any quicker by showering the kid with treats and toys, and I do honestly think that the majority of our obnoxous people originate from being spoilt for being good for one moment and being rewarded for it even though they were a little shit for the rest of the time.

I think its far more important to engage the thought processes going through your kids head, so they learn how to be responsible for themselves, but balance this with having a fun childhood with happy memories and learn to have fun without tat. Lots of kids got a lot more than I could ever afford to give our son. But we talked a lot about this.

My son got rewarded with what i call "fun" rather than tat. He was involved in choices of where we went (limited by funds), what we did etc, what we ate for tea that day! He did get rewards but they were for thinking about what he did rather than a form of manipulation!

Now he is older, he actually has more sense than me! He has a good friend base (all of which can be trusted, which is a relief for us). He took absolutely ages to potty train, but he has no fillings in his teeth, he can be trusted at all times to use a bit of common sense in his decisions and has turned out to be a young man that will enjoy life as he appreciates the good times and can cope with the not so good times too.

Please dont reward your kids too much with tat (even if you can afford it).

I try not to reward with sweets or unhealthy food. Instead we use sticker charts. They get a new one every month and work hard to get all the stickers!

I tend not to buy too many treats. We have days out or movie nights with snacks instead.

My great niece isn't really rewarded for good behaviour as it is expected as normal and she is very well behaved most of the time anyway with the occasional tantrum when she's tired.

With my son it was hot wheel cars from the supermarket. Now he is older it's a more expensive end of year treat for trying his best at school like a football kit or computer game. Weekly it's nice trips out during the weekends/holidays or screen time. With my daughter who is two she loves praise clapping singing and dancing eg when she wee wees in the pot (the wee wee dance) and the occasional malteeser bunny or kinder treat.

I wouldn't say that I reward for good behaviour, though my boys may get things taken away (usually wifi) for bad behaviour.

Big hugs and kisses always but then make something fun like sitting down to a good film with treats x

We have a reward chart on the fridge, points also get taken off for bad behaviour. But no more than one for each occurrence.
Once they get to 10 they get to have an ice cream on the way home from town at the weekend.
It helps that there's two, so if both of them have enough points for an ice cream they don't want to do something bad so the other gets one and they don't.

In my opinion in the early days you have to reward good behaviour with letting them pick dinner or letting them pick the tv show. Hopefully this will result in better behaviour later on

I expect good behaviour and randomly buy small treats - Bad behaviour means no pocket money or less screen time.

I do not reward my child for good behaviour it is expected! i give praise for things like good grades etc but if they do something like pick up a toy i dont priase them for it because they shouuld learn to do it anyway!

lots of praise when younger now little rewards like going to cinema or swimming

I do not reward for good behaviour as it is expected. I believe in praise and positive encouragement.

Have fair and consistent standards, ignore safe, low level unwanted behaviour and look for positives to give genuine praise. A small treat occasionally never hurts.

no- I don't use reward charts. I think they are generally overused, but can be very useful in tricky stuck situations. we have clear values and expectations at home and the children are praised a lot for all the great things they do and given feedback and clear rules when no behaving in a helpful way. Extra treats are given occasionally not dependent on particular good behaviour but we do go out and celebrate big successes

Lots of praise and encouragement mostly. Currently we're potty training so we're using a combination of that and stickers

They earn treats - they can choose to save them up over time for a big one or have small ones

Stickers and positive feedback is what we do. Also having a goal so if theres a magazine they really would like the kids have to earn this with good behaviour and odd jobs around the house. We use charts which the kids follow so they know what they have to do to get their reward.

we have a rewards and bad behaviour chart, a certain number of stars means a 99p toy and a certain number of crosses means less screen time

I don't reward good behaviour as I expect them to be well behaved.

I praise them and give them pocket money for good behaviour :)

At the moment we are rewarding our daughter with packets of LOL stickers when we get the weekly shop. If she behaves at nursery and at home each day we log it on the shopping list to buy a pack for that day and so on.

Old school - sweets!

I don't do anything special for every day good behaviour, but I do always praise when my son does something good. It might just be a small 'well done', or if he's done something difficult for him I will make a bigger deal with a clap or a big hug.