Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

However you reward your children share it on the thread below and everyone who does will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

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We rewarded for extra special stuff like helping round the house not just for regular good behaviour because they should behave

I buy my daughter a toy, give her a hug and tell her that I’m proud. It’s difficult with the toys though as it then becomes expected.

My daughter gets to spend time playing a game on an ipad if shes done all her homework and tidied her room.

Now that my daughter is a teen, giving her the wifi code is the best reward! This can easily be changed when she has misbehaved.

Rewards for individual chores such as washing the dishes, putting her clothes in the basket etc. are worth about £1. Win win as she gets to earn a little cash and I don't have to do all the jobs in the house!

For recognition of real triumphs such as passing exams after hard work are pre-arranged and agreed to so she knows what she is working towards and will have a permanent reminder. This could be money or something tangible such as new trainers.

A much longer-term plan is that we may go away together on holiday next year to Serbia which is a place she has always wanted to go to. When she wants a bit more putting towards this she will do something I haven't asked her to do. We put the money aside and keep a running total.

I don't agree with bribes to be good but give lots of praise and the occasional treat for good behaviour!

I've never rewarded good behavior as it should be the normal thing to be. I punish bad behavior and if she's been exceptionally good compared to how she normally is, I treat her with new films and sometimes toys.

My DD is only 20 months, so to reward her she normally gets a ton of praise a hug and a clap. The smile on her face is priceless as she knows shes done something good, I understand when she gets older this probably won't be much of a reward. So I think we will aim for little treats that I know she enjoys, like a trip to the park etc. I don't like the thought of getting into the habit of buying her something every time she does something well

We expect good behaviour, treats are bought as and when. It is more of a case that something will be removed if behaviour is not up to standard!

We use praise and affection as a reward. Little gifts and presents are not linked to behaviour, but sanctions for poor behaviour include removal of privileges like TV time and toys away.

We have a sticker chart that works really well

I don't reward them as such but if they have been particularly good and we are out I might let them choose some sweets or a comic and I always make sure I praise them when they are good, just a simple "thank you for being so kind" .

My eldest has a sticker chart for good behaviour. When it's full she can choose a toy or treat

My daughter gets to pick the evening meal on a friday for having good weeks at school and little things she has been after for doing things out of her comfort zones or for hard work

We don't reward good behaviour specifics but if there has been an event or situation that has shown exceptional behaviour or participation then she may get given a treat (a magazine, taken for dinner somewhere, an LOL doll).

Their choice of a day out to any attraction they want!

I agree with many others on just praising children rather than the rewards.

Mine are a bit older and like to go out for a meal or to a film as a reward. However, they are not generally badly behaved and so rewardeds tend to be for achievements or having gone the extra mile to help.

I’m another who doesn’t reward good behaviour, it’s expected. We all make mistakes, so I don’t punish either. They do get treats, but these are generally a surprise, and they always seem grateful rather than entitled!

My children get rewarded with cold hard cash! They both have bank accounts and every Friday they get paid providing they behave themselves. They each have different tasks to do to earn 20p per task, such as behaviour and manners, keeping their room tidy, making their beds etc. If they don't comply they don't get paid!!!

Praise them for their good behaviour, and follow this up with a small treat.

We have a jar and when the boys play nicely together or do something kind they put a marble in it, when it's full they pick a family treat for us all to do. If they do something unkind a marble is taken out. The idea is they work together to get the jar filled.

We use a sticker chart, and when they've hit a certain amount, we choose an activity together as a treat. It doesn't have to be expensive, just something a bit different and fun.

Lots of praise. I do give little treats like cheapo blind bags - if I see them for 50p or something I buy some and keep them in the cupboard. But I don’t treat often, just special things, or maybe if I’ve given them a target and they reach it. Really, I just expect the good behaviour (doesn’t mean I get it though!)

with my youngest we have a reward chart . at the end of the week if she has 10 star she gets to pick something she would like usually a magazine. If she has been very good then we will either have a film night with sweets or go somewhere she choses

I did have the usual star charts for our oldest two and really think they're essentially a waste of time unless behaviour is really an issue. I found with our younger children having transparent jars for adding pennies into for their holidays or days out was much more of an incentive and really just helped them to when a warning was given readjust their behaviour. Although I feel that thinking their sibling was going to have more pennies worked more !