Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children for good behaviour

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A big part of parenting is trying to raise your children to be good and kind people, but for young children, it can be tricky to fully understand what good behaviour is, which is why many parents reward their children for their good behaviour as a way to encourage these good habits. With this in mind Sky Broadband would like to know how you reward your children?

Here’s what Sky Broadband have to say: “As part of our new Sky Broadband Boost pack, we have launched a brand new app called Sky Broadband Buddy, which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage. Buddy takes parental controls to the next level with its market leading features such as being able to pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time on devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when they’ve tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up to keep everyone happy with more of their favourite apps, games, or sites.”

Do you have a reward chart in place for you children and if so what types of things do you reward them for? Do you use extra screen time as a reward? Maybe you like to reward your children with their favourite food or a sweet treat? Perhaps you’ve found the best reward is allowing them to buy something for themselves; maybe a game, a film or a new toy? Or do you give your children options on what rewards they would like?

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I’ve found my people! I hate the idea of rewarding good behaviour. Dh will sometimes offer to buy dc something if they’re good. It’s set me up for years of “what do I get if I’m good?”, “if I’m good can I have x?” “Why should I be good if I don’t get anything?” and “I’ll be good if you get me x”. It drives me mad!
I expect good behaviour. I’ll penalise bad behaviour, but no way do I pay for them to act how they ought to!
They get treats etc because I love them unconditionally, not because I’m negotiating standards of behaviour. My standards are non-negotiable!

Bribery when they are very young.... we did rewards for good behaviour which was a star chart and small present when goals reached. We also tried the 'penny reduction' - where you start the day with 10 pennies or 20 pennies & 1st you warn them that they will lose a penny if they are doing something out of bounds & if the warning doesn't work then you take a penny. The rest of the pennies that are left are given to the child at the end of the day. The main point is that they never lose all of the pennies.
The main thing that children thrive on is routine I think though.

Another who doesn't reward good behaviour but expects it. We do make it clear that treats like days out or movie nights are related to seeing good behaviour before hand.

Sticker charts are good for set problems, but not everyday.

Praise

We expect good behaviour. Treats are given and removed if there's bad behaviour.

We buy our children a little treat at the weekend if they have been good. Usually a toy car or a kids magazine! If they have misbehaved then I pad time is reduced..seems to work well.

I believe in rewarding good behaviour but not with material things because then they expect to Ben brought or given something when they have behaved well. As a mother of 4 I believe in rewarding with praise and showing lots of attention to each child to make them feel special

I wouldn’t reward for good behaviour but l would reward for doing homework tidying their room and generally helping out. This would be rewarded by giving them money to go to the cinema with their friends

We don't reward for good behaviour, they're praised for saying thank you, yes please, being good when out shopping etc., i grew up with manners and that's the way i want my children to grow up..

I also agree with some of the previous comments. I expect a good behaviour as a general standard. They should be taught to be respectful to others and also to the surrounding environment from very young age. My kids know that any bad behaviour will be punished - less TV time for example.

I give rewards by hugs, cuddles and warm words ,and smiles. I have had sticker charts in the past, but as they get stickers at school, I did not want to duplicate their positive reinforcement of good behaviour and goals.

Reward good behaviour? It should be the norm
I’m not adverse to an occasional treat for being good or a high school mark but kids need to learn good behaviour is expected

Good behaviour = happy mum and dad. And the kids are aware of this. Always good to have extra meals out and days away to reward exceptional behaviour.

I was given a sticker chart for my DS1 by my HV, but found he wanted a sticker for absolutely everything, and was only behaving well for the sticker, and I felt that I could not see a future for this method of reward. When it was his 8th birthday, I put an end to the stickers, and he knew it was because he was a big boy now.
I have found since this time, although behaviour can be 'challenging' any 'punishment' (taking away tablet for a night, no roller skating) must be carried out. It's difficult when you have 2 children as you cannot take privileges away from the second, so if roller skating is banned for that week, I would find another treat for DS2.
DS1 needs consistency and boundaries - not stickers. A hug for sharing, good work at school means so much more.

My daughter earns pennies for her piggy bank if she's good.

Good behaviour can be rewarded just by acknowledging it and saying thank you. I don't think you want to associate it with getting treats. It should be good behaviour as standard rather than just because they want something.

lots of praise and occasionally rewards for times when they have been extremely good/kind etc (not just behaving as expected)

Generally with praising and if LO was super very good then a small treat/ toy.

A mix of verbal reward by praising them and naming what I am pleased about and why. For prolonged effort I may give an unexpected present or for little ones stickers that can be saved up for a reward. I also make a point of giving extra time doing what they love in return for effort. Like others I don't like to micro manage and presume a basic standard of decency without the need for constant reward

They get pocket money for good behaviour.

Good behaviour is rewarded with praise, compliments and treats

Good behaviour should be the default, but we do ensure we praise them as much as possible but don't reward. We do reward them for being on best behaviour at certain times that we have to do stuff which we know is boring.

They get a sticker on a reward chart when they have been good and when they have enough they can have a treat.

We rarely, if ever, used rewards with our children. We just made sure that they wanted to do what was best. We certainly didn't give items as rewards, but would take them out on trips and outings regularly ... but they always were good!

We always expected good behaviour from my son however if there was something specific I noticed or was told about that had occurred at school we would treat him. He did get pocket money but had little jobs to do to earn it.