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Emotional from school play but for all the wrong reasons

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ThomCatsAreNotJustForXmas · 03/12/2004 23:18

(just typed this all out and lost it, so excuse the way i type this out again now.)

School play today, Lottie was as heep. \
When the other sheep moved anywhere from their position at the side of the stage Lottie was picked up by a teacher, carried off and taken to sit with the teachers, tather than just be left, happy, with the other kids standing or sat at the side of the stage.

It took every ounce of self control to stop myself from rushing the teacher and grappling Lottie off her and putting her with all the other kids. I was fuming and gutted.

I had a word today, I will have more (with the 700 pound cheque in my hand for the next term) and I have spoken to Portage who are in ther on Tuesday.

I feel like they killing her with kindness. It broke my heart today that they didn't just leave her alone to be with the other kids. She was fine, they didn't need to single her out.

OWWWWWWWWWW. Ow, ow, ow.

Well they have a chance to rectify this, hopefully we can make them see what they are doing wrong and ohh, ......................

sorry lost the will to type.

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misdee · 03/12/2004 23:20
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cardigansarenotjustforxmas · 03/12/2004 23:21

Why did they pick on her? seems V.unfair. Hope you're ok Thomcanjfx

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ThomCatsAreNotJustForXmas · 03/12/2004 23:27

To be honest, no I'm not okay.
I need to have this out with someone. I bit my lip today and that's not my style and I bit it hard so that I didn't spoil anyone elses day, that would be unfair, but ....

Her education is so important and I really thought I'd got it right and I'm pissed that they don't seem to have a clue and that I got it wrong and I have to start again.

I know I'm jumping the gun and this is a bit of a knee jerk reaction but hey there you go.

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Christmassbee · 03/12/2004 23:31

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cardigansarenotjustforxmas · 03/12/2004 23:31

Sounds serious thomcats - don't know your story so to speak - sending you best wishes xxx

turquey · 03/12/2004 23:32

Really sorry to hear this TC. It sounds heartbreaking and SO bloody wrong.

maomao · 03/12/2004 23:40

Sending you hugs, TC. I know that you were trying to find the right school for Lottie, and you were initially pleased with them. Any chance that, after speaking with them, they will understand???

jmb1964 · 03/12/2004 23:42

so sorry to hear this - why are these events so bloody DIFFICULT??
Hope it has helped to get it off your chest here, but sounds like you have to have words with them when you have had a chance to down a bottle or two of wine over the weekend..
Hope one day isn't going to ruin everything fo you and Lottie, who sounds as if she can deal with pretty much everything. Good luck!

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ThomCatsAreNotJustForXmas · 03/12/2004 23:43

Yeah maybe maomao, maybe, I'll try and Portage migth help once they've been in, fingers crossed.

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maomao · 03/12/2004 23:47

TC, I'll keep my fingers (and toes!) crossed for you, too. I hope that it really doesn't mean having to start all over again....

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ThomCatsAreNotJustForXmas · 03/12/2004 23:50

Cheers, I'm off to bed, maybe I'll feel less upset tomorrow?

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maomao · 03/12/2004 23:51

Awww, honey....

Good night. I'm off to bed, too. I shall look for you on the morrow and see how you're doing.

xx

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ThomCatsAreNotJustForXmas · 03/12/2004 23:53

Thanks mate, I appreciate it. Can't feel worse than this that's for sure.

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hohohoheartinthecountry · 04/12/2004 08:31

TC - totally understand why this has upset you. Hope you are feeling better today.

Is this the first time you have felt the pre-school staff are treating Lottie 'differently'? or have you had an inkling before and this ws just the proof of the pudding so to speak?

I really hope this doesn't mean you have to start again.... am I right in thinking L is the only child they have with special needs? Perhaps you just need to 'educate' them? though also understand that that shouldn't be your job and also you don't want L to miss out while they try and get it right....

not that it is any consolation but I am going through a similar thing with dd at the moment... different scenario but the worried I've got the nursery wrong thing...

hugs x

buffettheturkeylayer2 · 04/12/2004 08:38

TC I'm sorry that, what should have been so lovely, was so crap. You need to have this out with them and make them see what they are doing wrong. Don't bite your lip. It hurts. xx

midnightmass · 04/12/2004 08:57

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tigermoth · 04/12/2004 09:22

thomcat, really sorry to see your message - what should have been a lovely experience was spoiled. Definitely talk it through with the teachers.

blossomgoodwill · 04/12/2004 09:26

Thomcat

Sorry to hear about this. You have every right to go in and speak to the teachers. Explain how important it is that Lottie is included in everything as much as possible. It' not fair to single any child out ((((hugs))))xxxx

Another thing I am sure you shouldn't have to pay for Lottie's fees? We had all of dd's paid by social services as she has special needs.

Jimjambells · 04/12/2004 09:35

Have a word- and ask why they did that. Personally I've found mainstream school plays to be absolutely unbearable- even at ds1's lovely nursery. Too "in your face". I was actually pleased to discover this week that ds1 isn't being included in his this year (although also felt kind of sad, but definitely more relieved).

JoolsTide · 04/12/2004 09:39

these are professionals?

no wonder you're upset!

Batters · 04/12/2004 09:52

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Santasluckylittlehelper · 04/12/2004 10:09

Thomcat - so sorry that the nursery have treated Lottie in this way. Not condoning them in any way here TC but I agree with HITC - maybe its steep learning curve for them too and they have quite got there yet.

Hope you're feeling a bit better this morning. Hang on to those positive feelings you had a few weeks ago. XX

maomao · 04/12/2004 10:12

How are you feeling today, ThomCat?

geekgrrl · 04/12/2004 10:47

thomcat i'm so sorry and understand how gutted you must feel I think this is a big problem for kids with DS in mainstream (and our main reason for dd2 not going into full mainstream next year). They really really should not have done this - hopefully when thinking about it afterwards they will have realised the error of their way... of course they might have to hear it from you first.
The son of a friend of mine was left out of his nursery's xmas play completely - and it was even in aid of the DSA!
For what it's worth, I think nursery do a lot worse than schools with inclusion, simply because their staff aren't anywhere near as well trained, and they're newer to the whole inclusion business.

I'm sorry that this important event - your first xmas play as a parent - was ruined for you.

DingleAlltheWay · 04/12/2004 11:09

TC, I'm so sorry that this has happened, no wonder you are emotional. It's an emotional time for many parents and to have their little one treated in this way-there is just no excuse.
As you say, it is like the are killing her with kindness, no real thought went into it.
I have such a busy day ahead of me I really should not be on here, I hope you are feeling better today.
Hugs.Dingle xxx