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SN Friday night ... Too tired for ..

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Thecarrotcake · 28/01/2011 15:59

Drinks and snacks on the table ( non alchoholic and low carb stuff to the right)..

I have no children tonight.. I may doze on and off throughout the evening as last night was a long one with DS.

Had an interesting convo with school .. Ds is now not showing any signs of distress... And has been Cured... With a touch of maturity!
Damn.. I didn't know he just needed to grow up..
< shucks>
anyway i mentioned that his anxiety was coming out physically ( bad belly for weeks and sleep talking non stop... Which is keeping the house awake every night)... And guess what?! ... It's better it coming out that way than through hard work behaviour at school.!

I. Give. Up. !

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1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:40

That's unreal - surely an SEN module should be a required part of the training! Not a choice!

Oh yes dancing too :)

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 21:41

I love doing Mickeys hotdog dance! Grin DD called me Minnie Mummy for months last year, dp was daddy goofy! Grin I cant watch when the dcs are in bed, I love the quiet....just the keyboard tapping. :) unless its a pixar film Grin

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:41

1980, you definitely need to get out more. Although I will admit to a fondness for Little Robots at the moment. Blush I think its nostalgia as my boys used to love it when it first came out.

I do get all excited about episodes of The Big Bang Theory or Peep Show that I haven't seen before though.

Melted, its all happening round your way then! Our first house was the same, never a dull moment. We had two shootings, a stabbing, a knife wielding maniac in the local supermarket and endless smash and runs to cars parked outside people's houses, often involving the perpertrators legging it and being chased by all the dhs and bfs. One guy was chased two miles, caught and dragged back by our next door but one neighbour - bet he regretted smashing into a car that belonged to a para who was home on leave.

Round here its headline news if the bus is running late. Hmm

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:43

I don't have a kicking butt boot yet :( If I am angry or annoyed, the tears start immediately - it drives me mad!! I'm hoping I get better as the months/progress.

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:43

From what I gathered they may touch on stuff, though they take specialised modules SEN being one, not too sure if this was to give her the title of senco, cos not all teachers are. I just know she had to fight for some SEN module.
Mickey mouse clubhouse now Grin

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:45

We can't watch any Disney in our house. Ds1 is phobic. Strange but true.

They put the Disney channel on in paed outpatients when we were there this week and he was all but climbing the walls to get away from it. Fortunately they called us in before the adverts had finished, because if a programme had started it would have been full scale meltdown.

They did it the first time we went there for something when he was about 3 as well. Flipping Lilo and Stitch - he was beside himself, nowhere to go where we couldn't see the screen and they wouldn't turn it off. Angry

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:45

I;m not watching while the ds is in bed...he's still up watching it lol

meltedmarsbars · 28/01/2011 21:45

Tears work well too, 1980Sport! Smile

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 21:49

yeah yeah devient we know you will keep watching when hes in bed! Grin

Thats funny moosemama because dd is terrified of handy many, pepper pig and meercats! but she used to love them!

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:51

lol super.....by the time he goes to bed the channel will be off air!!
enjoy ya day the moz x

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:51

Yeah yeah devient!!

Nightmare Moosemama - just Disney?

Melted - I think the professional see me coming and think oh bloody hell better get the tissues ready! I seem incapable of having a discussion about ds without waterworks! Aarrgghh

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:54

My friend's ds is obsessed with fireman Sam, has everything! But can't watch it on tv cause he's terrified of elvis. Knows all the episodes with him in them and screams the place down if one comes on!

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:54

no honest...shame we couldn't go on cam, I would stick him on lol

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:55

I have both the boot and the tears these days, but little control over which surfaces first. I am getting better though, usually I lose it, have a good sob, then get angry and lace up my boot!

Tears aren't bad 1980, in fact as my little outburst demonstrated this week, sometimes they can be downright useful. If I had been all calm and rational on the phone, the secretary wouldn't have taken pity on me and I might have had to wait 24 hours for a call back. Professionals/Head Teachers etc don't like it when you cry at them and in some cases will agree to anything as long as you stop crying.

I love that secretary by the way, she was the same lovely person that told me I could get ds referred to the inclusion team by my GP if the school was being crap - which they were and she was so lovely on the phone this week. She said some really kind things and it really did help - a lot.

Devient, that's outrageous that they discourage teachers from taking the SEN module. It should be compulsory. I think you have to take an extra qualification to become a SENCO now. A friend of mine is just training and it seems like quite a meaty process to qualify these days. Hopefully this will reap rewards in the near future, as schools finally start employing SENCOs who have better understanding of SENs and the SEN process. There are some good ones out there - our current acting SENCO for example is a treasure - but they are few and far between. Our old SENCO was not only an ex-parent that volunteered for the job, she was also coasting to retirement and it seems left everything in a right state and had basically let all the schools links with outside agencies slide so the school ended up off the radar of all the people that could help our dcs. Angry I'm sure she took the job on with a willing heart in the early days, but boy did she mess things up at the end.

intothewest · 28/01/2011 21:56

I'm with minimoose- DD always wanted to go to disneyhell paris,but I couldn't face it- She went with the school in the end;and had a great time-

the latest thing in our house is 'octonauts' woo,woo,woo,woo is heard a lot
Smile

Ineedalife · 28/01/2011 21:59

Moose.... yes it was that questionaire and then we went on to one which asked things like does she find it easy to make friends, does she get upset by change etc.

I know what you mean about it throwing up things you hadn't really thought about. It was especially good for Dp because he worked away alot when she was little and missed alot of her routines, fears and obsessions.

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 22:00

DD loves webcams, we Skype family so she can pull faces at them. :)

1980Sport DD is the same she still plays with all the toys but wont watch the tv shows. Confused Cbeebies scares her too now.

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 22:01

I think my sister only qualified about 6 year ago. One of the schools she went in to work at, she planned her classroom and when the kids arrived they all sat in her allocated places, then one girl said, I can't sit next to x cos his 121 sits next to him, then she asked where one child was as he was late, to find he was a wheelchair user and it took him a while to get from one lesson to the other due to route and lifts!! She then realised she had an autistic child and 2 with ADHD all in the same class.
She stated all they had to do was make notes in the register!!

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 22:02

Oh I can't wait until dcs are old enough for Disneyland!!
Haven't heard of octonauts!! My most hated is bloody oso! Grrr!

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 22:04

apologies....child who happened to have autism!!
This is also secondary school obviously.

ouryve · 28/01/2011 22:05

I did an SEN dissertation as my final module, but to be honest, I actually plumped for G&T, since that was one of the suggested topics. We had a compulsory behaviour module, but I completed my training knowing embarrassingly little about SEN, overall.

moosemama · 28/01/2011 22:05

Its mainly Disney and he will tell you its Disny, but in reality its also any big feature film, especially ones made specifically for children.

Its been a real problem at school both with videos they've had to watch as part of their school work and on end of term days etc where they are allowed to watch a dvd as a treat. He has to leave the room every time.

Ds2 watched Toy Story today as part of his literacy (Hmm don't get me started on that one) had it been ds1 there would have been a real problem.

It also causes us endless problems because ds2 loves all that stuff, but can hardly ever watch it because of ds1.

Ds1 also freaks if I'm watching anything on tv that he doesn't know, especially films. The only ones he doesn't panic about are old fashioned black and white musicals, which he will sit and watch with me.

We did have a breakthrough recently though, when his best only friend had a sleepover/home cinema night party for his birthday and watched Small Soldiers. I honestly didn't think ds1 would even consider going, but he will do anything to be with his friend and his friend spent weeks telling him the plot of the film and slowly preparing him. (I love that kid, he is so good for ds Grin) He suprised us all, went to the party and was fine. We had the parents on standby to call us and I was frankly gobsmacked, but delighted when we didn't get a call. Smile

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 22:05

Three special steps... OSO makes both my dcs into tv zombies...instant quiet. :)

We would love to go to Disneyland too..one day. :)

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 22:06

Reading about the battles many of you have had to face educationally really frightens me. We definitely don't have an education system that is the envy of the rest of the world no matter what govts try to tell us!

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 22:08

so ouryve...a bit of sen, how do you get a child recognised by school as G&T in dance/performing arts??
just my dd stage school do an advanced course and the kids who are on it are funded by G&T.