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Thecarrotcake · 28/01/2011 15:59

Drinks and snacks on the table ( non alchoholic and low carb stuff to the right)..

I have no children tonight.. I may doze on and off throughout the evening as last night was a long one with DS.

Had an interesting convo with school .. Ds is now not showing any signs of distress... And has been Cured... With a touch of maturity!
Damn.. I didn't know he just needed to grow up..
< shucks>
anyway i mentioned that his anxiety was coming out physically ( bad belly for weeks and sleep talking non stop... Which is keeping the house awake every night)... And guess what?! ... It's better it coming out that way than through hard work behaviour at school.!

I. Give. Up. !

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autumnsmum · 28/01/2011 20:35

Hi autumnsmum here got good news today a learning mentor is going to try and help my son with his disastrous social" skills" so a good day

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 20:52

Just wanted to say a quick HI and enjoy your evening........I'm cream crackered!! Donald ducked!!
Gonna go and tidy up, have had a really stressful week but have had 3 major achievements, however small others may see them, from DS.
Had a horrible few meetings also, re education and respite.
Don't think I need the wine or the piriton etc for me to sleep tonight,,,,just need the kids in bed first!!

meltedmarsbars · 28/01/2011 20:52

Hi all,

I'm not normally here on a Friday night but I've been left behind looking after dd2 because the rest have gone to see a friend's band in the pub Envy

So I get to join in here! Smile

meltedmarsbars · 28/01/2011 20:55

Oh dear I killed it, didn't I!

Sad
moosemama · 28/01/2011 20:59

Lollipop, I have two dogs that do that.

One is a big gangly lurcher who is always standing in the way whenever you want to go through a door.

The other is on a constant mission to get to the back door before anyone else - just in case they are going to go outside and steal her toy. (She's twelve, but she thinks she's a puppy. Grin)

I have fallen over both of them today. Hmm

We had another rollercoaster of a week really. Started ok, then we saw the paed about ds1's stomach and possible absences. Not only was it a complete waste of time, but he was patronising and rude.

Dh left for his course straight after the appointment, with me feeling all teary and wobbly (I blame the diet - and the paed of course) and when I went to fetch the boys from school (still feeling a bit pathetic) ds1's teacher came out red in the face, really aggressive body posture etc and had a go at both me and ds in the middle of the playground! Shock

She was furious that he'd shouted out to another child during class and not stopped when she told him to. She actually said "I was already angry today and I really shouted at him - in fact I got louder and louder, but it made no difference". Basically the gist of her tirade was that ASD is just an excuse for bad behaviour and she wasn't going to accept his dx as an excuse! Shock Angry

I was too shocked to handle it well and ended up telling ds to apologise for upsetting his teacher. Blush Angry

I cried all the way home, then sobbed on the phone to dh. My first instinct was to call the Head and lodge a complaint against her, but frankly was in no fit state and I certainly didn't want to cry on the phone. I also thought, ds still has to be in her class until July, so we need to tread carefully. Then I suddenly remembered the Inclusion Teacher that's going to be working with him/us told me to call any time if I had any concerns. So I called her, sobbed all over her secretary Blush and her boss called me back! Very useful. Found out a lot of about his teacher - unbelievably, she has had several ASD children in her class in the past (I would have put money on her never having come across ASD in her classroom before) and has had help and support from the Inclusion Team before, but just doesn't (or won't) get it. In fact the lady that called me wasn't surprised at all. Sad

I also found out that the service hadn't had any involvement with the school for a very long time, until I kicked the school's butt and effectively brought them in myself, but now they are starting to work with several children in the school.

Anyhoo, the outcome was that the boss lady, called and emailed the Head herself and insisted they arrange ASD awareness training for the staff asap. She also said she will back up my push for safe space for ds to retreat to and make sure the teachers are made aware of an appropriate strategy for when 'they' feel like they can't cope.

Other than that, I had two nights with less than two hours of sleep (dd has a horrible cold) while dh was away, but the dcs all behaved really well and we coped. Ds1 had a school trip which he loved and Thursday and Friday he had two lovely days at school (different teacher).

So, as I said, another rollercoaster.

I have taken the day off today and spent it generally making a nuisance of myself on mn while dd systematically wrecked the living room and emptied every toy she owns all over the floor.

Thecarrotcake · 28/01/2011 21:00

Yay marsbars! Nice to see you in here..:)

I threw on a face pack and it inhibited my MNing as I 'set' my face... But then had a bit of an issue as I had thrown in a spud to bake for my tea ( dh is at work).. Yet I hadn't noticed that DH had left an unknown about oily roasting pan in the oven.. So I had a smoke issue.. Which made my eyes sting and cracked my face and ended up in a mess.

Again .. I. Give. Up. :)

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moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:00

Melted, nope - I think I just did. Grin

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 21:02

nope! im back!

Was just making my dinner, settling DCs and getting myself Spa ready.. Shock if you get my jist. Grin My sister has informed me however it is not good to dye my hair then use their towels...so I have to go with a badger streak!!!! :( Sorry intothewest ill stop rubbing it in now :)

Autum I wish I could get DD social skills learning, well done! :)

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:02

I'm a bit late but can I join in??
Just trying to catch up on everyones week - very jealous of super's spa day tomorrow! I have watertots to look forward to, not really the same is it?

Right heading over to the right side of the table although I could really do with a drink!! :)

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:04

Carrot - we can't see you through your screen y'know. Mind you, it would have been funny if we could - the face pack that is, not the stingy eyes.

Glad no-one can see me through mine. I have been so tired this week that I managed to take a rather large chunk out of my own nose with my thumbnail while trying to get a top on earlier in the week, and now I have a horrible great scabby thing that refuses to accept make-up right in the middle of my face. Blush

Sorry for the long post - again. Feel better now I've got all that off my chest though.

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:05

It's ok Moose, she has a pic of her in her facemask on facebook lol jj carrot.....I need to lighten up or I will be asleep x

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:06

Hi 1980, at last someone to join me at the right hand table. Grin

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 21:07

Carrot the visual image of your face/smoke dilemma...lol Grin

Moosemamma what a week, I think my DDs teacher must be related to your DSs teacher! :) I found Inclusion really helpfull too...but they havent changed anyones attitude yet Hmm Good luck. :)

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:07

Dagnabbit, I don't do facebook! Mind you, at least that means no-one is going to get to see my hideous lumpy nose. Grin Blush

1980Sport · 28/01/2011 21:08

Thanks moosemama - my favourite! How did you know :)

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:10

Thanks superfantastic. They do seem to be very good and really highly regarded and respected by everyone I speak to, so I live in hope. They are going to be working 1-1 with ds starting next week as well, so fingers crossed.

bigcar · 28/01/2011 21:10

enjoy the spa day super. Just spare a thought for me with a house full of 11/12 year olds tomorrow, it's dd2s birthday. Actually, how big's your bag you're taking, any chance I could sqeeze my rather lardy small self in Grin

meltedmarsbars · 28/01/2011 21:10

My bit of excitement today was finding a car number plate in the field next to my house, which I googled (as you do) to find is was a lovely shiny blue BMW coupe for sale 100 miles away!

Have told the fuzz, who are hot-footing it down here tomorrow to collect it! Grin

bigcar · 28/01/2011 21:13

oh wow! Bet somone will be pleased to get that back Smile

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:14

Stand by yer beds ladies, dh is logging on! Shock

He's only popping in to download the concrete in law thing though - or so he says! [suspicious emoticon]

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:14

I would be concerned it was a 100 mile away??

ouryve · 28/01/2011 21:14

No booze, but lots of carbs please. Had the lurgy this week. DH had to leave work early to pick the kids up, yesterday because i could barely sit up. Bleeding kids and their germs. Wish they wouldn't share.

superfantastic · 28/01/2011 21:15

That is quite CSI melted! :)

Bigcar Im only taking a tiny bag as they provide towels, robes, lovely toiletries and free slippers! Grin but someone has dropped out so we have a spare place with deposit paid! :) ....3 hours of steaming, freezing, ice cave scrub Hmm and bubbles. :)

devientenigma · 28/01/2011 21:15

No doubt we will see melted on crimewatch lol....have you seen this person, she's after your car reg lol

moosemama · 28/01/2011 21:16

Oh yes, super - enjoy your spa. You'll be all chilled out, relaxed and gorgeous when we see you next. Smile