3 girls sharing a room, middle child is a nightmare

[Mumto3girls2016]

Hey first time poster, I have 3 girls who share a room as we live in a 2 bedroom house. Triple bunk bed ages 5,8 and 9 and a half. 8 year old a nightmare at bedtimes kicks bangs refuses to sleep keeping 5 year old and 9 year old awake. Then when told off says I don’t love her and don’t care about her. At my wits end and have to just walk away before losing it … any suggestions for a smoother bedtime routine for 8 yr old, … 5 year old & 9 year old has no issues going to sleep and is good as gold,x

I actually think chidren sleeping in seperate rooms is unnatural. We're pack animals.

My brother always needed light on and I needed light off. I was forced to go to bed first was never asleep by the time brother came to bed. Would wait until he was fully asleep and then get out of bed, turn the light off and THEN go back to sleep. Essential an hour or two after my "bedtime".

I ware a eye mask now, blackout curtains, but even a slither of light anywhere impact me now as a grown human. I also use ear plugs when I can't sleep to make it blacked out in my ears.

That's me. I'm wondering what the over stimulation factor is for your 8 YO.
There's something that is causing her to twig. It doesn't sound it's unmet needs generally but something is causing her to have difficulty. I was ignored my childhood and basically had see through curtains too!

Have you tried talking to her when not bedtime about when she's calm about it. Is it her body feels fidgety, is it noise, is it her thoughts are rushing around her head.
Once you know the what, you can find a solve.

Good luck! This stuff is tricky x