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Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

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pinkgin1 · 16/11/2021 22:41

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

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pinkgin1 · 11/12/2021 22:12

Anyone on here co sleeping?

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Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 11/12/2021 22:41

@pinkgin1 no but I think I'd consider it if this continues. You? I did occasionally when he was smaller.

Aw @JammyRedRooo I daydream about the weeks I was furloughed and could sleep 10hrs EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. I slept pretty badly throughout my pregnancy. So I maybe had an unbroken night's sleep 9 months ago 😵

Just doing a dream feed. Really hoping he'll go 3h now. It doesn't seem much to ask!

Night everyone

StickyStickyStickStickSong · 12/12/2021 01:36

@pinkgin1

Anyone on here co sleeping?
Yep, only way I can get sleep 😩
StickyStickyStickStickSong · 12/12/2021 01:42

Since half ten I've been in to him 5 times already, he just keeps waking unsettled. DH has given up and gone to spare room for quiet ☹️ so I've given up and put him in with me and he's gone out like a log within minutes so I'm gonna get some sleep now finally. But I really want him in his own bed and cot now, the transition is exhausting and I'm back at work 4th Jan I need him in his room and settled through the night by then, any tips will be appreciated 🙏🏻

Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 12/12/2021 03:47

@StickyStickyStickStickSong did you get some sleep?

Up every 1.5-2h here but he is going back to sleep quickly so not the worst. Hopefully he'll sleep until 6am.

Hope I'm not prolonging this by feeding him when he wakes?

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pinkgin1 · 12/12/2021 03:51

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet up here too. 😴

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ayylauren · 12/12/2021 05:40

Our night started good then just got worse and worse, after 12 was back to half an hour wake ups SadI just don't get how he will sleep well before 12 then it all goes to shit. Nappy change @ 4am and DP took him for an hour now feeding to sleep praying he goes back down

Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 12/12/2021 05:40

It all went wrong here... awake for the last hr. Refused to sleep for partner. Has just dropped off now.

Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 12/12/2021 05:41

Oh hey @ayylauren sorry to hear that

Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 12/12/2021 05:43

Idk what to do. Probably just sit here holding him so he doesn’t wake up. I want my bed 😥

ayylauren · 12/12/2021 07:54

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet thank you. The sleep jealousy is awful isn't it, it's hard to watch my LO sleeping soundly in my arms when I'm exhausted sometimesBlush

LCF2021 · 12/12/2021 08:04

Anyone else starting to think this isn’t a regression and they just have shit sleepers?
It’s been going on for about 5 weeks for us now which makes me think she’s now just in a pattern of waking every 1.5 hours and needing the boob to go back to sleep

StickyStickyStickStickSong · 12/12/2021 08:36

@LCF2021 I agree.
I'm 30 and my mom said she'd never heard of these regression terms when I was a baby and she just accepted the fact I was a shit sleeper 🤣 she said he must be following me 🤦🏼‍♀️
When I put him in bed with me he's instantly asleep and pretty much doesn't stir til 8am which is great but not ideal. My DH is having to sleep in the spare room because he's anxious and can't sleep knowing DS is in with us but the spare bedroom bed is not the comfiest and I feel bad for him. I've offered to go in there with DS but he said no.
I'm just gonna keep persevering and hope that one night he sleeps through in his own room and that's the start of it for good then 🤞

Hard work ain't it 😩

LCF2021 · 12/12/2021 09:20

@StickyStickyStickStickSong My mum is the same. With my first I’d tell her all about these regressions and she was always like 🤷‍♀️ 35 years ago I’m pretty sure they just left us to get on with it and if that meant crying then so be it. She always tells me that if I fell asleep in the pram she’d park the pram at the bottom of the garden and leave me sleeping!! 😂😱 Not in the winter obviously…well, I assume not anyway!

LCF2021 · 12/12/2021 11:37

Incredibly she napped in her cot this morning for 1.5 hours and it only took 15 mins to get to asleep. Why doesn’t that happen at bedtime?!!

JammyRedRooo · 12/12/2021 13:39

We had a slight improvement- slept from 9:15-1:30, then up until 3 (wide awake!!) then up every hour until morning. Grateful for that initial chunk but still not ideal.

@LCF2021 I've wondered this. My mum denies all knowledge of regressions too, but she said I was a great sleeper from early on but my sister was awful. She didnt do anything different with either of us so she just thinks its luck. Whereas my MIL (who had two good sleepers) seems pretty convinced it's all my fault for not just putting her down and leaving her to it..

ayylauren · 12/12/2021 14:14

@LCF2021 100% agree. The only real regression for us was that he become a hell of a lot harder to put down, and the 3/4 hour chunk of sleep he did at the start of the night stopped. We're on 2 hours max at the moment and have been for weeks nowSad he's never been a great sleeper

Mytigerhasstripyfeet · 12/12/2021 15:01

Oh guys! Nooo I want to believe in regressions because then it might get better.

Having said that, I do wonder if some of the advice online/apps like huckleberry are slightly taking advantage of sleep deprived parents by selling the idea you can take certain steps to improve sleep. Like putting them down awake but drowsy. Did that work for anyone ever? Whereas it's all just babies being babies and very much down to luck as @lcf2021 mum said.

JammyRedRooo · 12/12/2021 15:30

Tiger, I absolutely agree with you here. I've become a bit obsessed with baby sleep the past few weeks (we all have I'm sure) and theres just no consistency at all. If you let your baby cry you will damage them emotionally. If you don't let them cry it out they won't sleep again ever and nor will you. Don't feed to sleep it's making a rod for your back. Do feed to sleep, it's natural and developmentally appropriate. Put them down awake, put them down drowsy, don't put them down at all, dummy, no dummy etc etc etc, you can find it all if you look for it but no two babies or parents or circumstances are the same. I think sleep deprived parents will try anything (often throwing money at 'fixes') but I imagine for every technique that one family swears by itll be another families worst nightmare. I hate muddling through, I'm a planner by nature and it really gets to me when I try all the 'right' things and it still doesn't help, but maybe it's all we can do at this point- keep muddling, trying new things within our own tolerance levels and ultimately hope they 'get' sleeping at some point. Which most do let's be honest! But who knows for sure whether that'll be because of some tricks you read online or they were just ready.

JammyRedRooo · 12/12/2021 15:32

Sorry bit of a rant there !!

Sleepymama285 · 12/12/2021 15:44

@JammyRedRooo 100% this....could not have articulated it better myself! It's such a bloody minefield and just makes you feel like you're making the wrong decision at every turn!

ayylauren · 12/12/2021 16:19

@JammyRedRooo you're spot on, I think all the sleep aides online feed off mums who think they're doing it "wrong" when it's perfectly normal for babies to wake often and not have a pattern of sleep. It's just hard to remember it's normal when it's plastered everywhere online and being sleep deprived definitely makes everything feel worse sometimes

Sneezymcsneezy · 12/12/2021 18:37

Sorry ladies been out of the loop past few days. Was at a wedding yesterday and we happened to be in a room above the dancefloor, we took over from the babysitter around 11 and everytime a new song came on we were at the ready to rock him back to sleep 😅 he slept pretty badly and even the bride said she heard him crying 😅.

Back home tonight, does anybody's baby hate the carseat? Mine is in hysterics trying to get out of it until he passed out from exhaustion 🥲 I'm hoping time will make it better cos it's heartbreaking

LCF2021 · 12/12/2021 19:34

@Sneezymcsneezy oh that sounds stressful and exhausting. The car seat…yep, my son was a total wreck in his from 2 months old…it was awful, so bad I rarely met up with anybody if it meant a car journey as it was horrible for both of us. From about 7 months he tolerated it more and I also bought a light up musical mirror which seemed to distract him. My daughter is the same, she’s not a fan and if she’s tired she’ll scream rather than just fall asleep.

Abitlost2 · 12/12/2021 19:45

I co-slept and breastfed all my dcs but I definitley wouldn't do it if formula feeding, especialy if the baby isn't breastfed at all, it isn't safe.
I'm sure lots will respond saying that's rubbish etc but I had my first in a country in northern Europe with v v high bf rates and it was a strict no, no cosleeping advice when formula feeding from all health professionals, v v good reasons why also.