Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

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Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

@pinkgin1 we were up 10+ times in the end as well, must have been something in the air last night DP took him for an hour so I managed to get some zzz but we are all up for good now

Rubbish nights all round.

DD did a 3.5 hour stint from 9-12:30am in her cot which felt a bit blissful. It was after a hellish bedtime of DH trying to settle her instead of me feeding her to sleep (did not work). She didnt sleep longer than an hour at a time after that BUT could put her back down each time until the 5am waking so a bit of an improvement on the night before I guess.

@ayylauren yep! My son was up non stop. I am shattered!

Solidarity to you all today. I’m 2 coffees down and about to brave a cold walk around a local park with toddler, baby in the carrier and husband. Not sure how much patience I have today for 2 year old tantrums!

@LCF2021 I think lack of patience is the sleep deprivation symptom that bothers most. You don't just feel cranky, but also guilty.

[quote Mytigerhasstripyfeet]@LCF2021 I think lack of patience is the sleep deprivation symptom that bothers most. You don't just feel cranky, but also guilty.[/quote]
Absolutely this. I've been very snappy at DH the last few days..

Solidarity to all! Another rough one here too, lost count of how many times we were up and feel like I've done a full on workout with all the rocking/bouncing! Anyone else have a baby that is just obsessed with boob? I'm trying to settle my LO with rocking a bit more as she's waking up constantly for boob and then wants to stay latched on for hours, so must be for comfort rather than food and isn't really sustainable. Having said that she wakes half the time as soon as she's in the crib whether she's been fed or rocked to sleep so neither works particularly well!

@Sleepymama285 we have exactly the same issue. Last night my DH tried to do bedtime without me by rocking her to sleep, shhing etc but she just got more and more upset until I gave in and fed her to sleep.

Everyone keeps giving me tips to soothe her without boob but everything I've tried so far just makes her increasingly upset

@JammyRedRooo Completely the same here! I want her to have the comfort and milk she needs in the night but she's so dependent on it now it's ridiculous...just wants a boob in the mouth all night! So hard to know how to tackle it when anything else you try just makes them upset. Will you keep persisting with your OH trying to settle or stick to feeding for now?

@Sleepymama285 it is really tricky, I tried a dummy the night before last to see if it would satisfy that need to suckle but she just kept spitting it out!

I think we are going to gently persist and hope that one night it just works. But if she gets too distressed I will step in and DH will try again the next night. I'm not sure if thats the right approach or if itll just make things worse though

@Sleepymama285 @JammyRedRooo will your babies take a bottle? Just wondering if it might be worth trying a bottle of ebm at bed time. Then they still have some comforting warm milk and a bit of a suck, but maybe without the urge to stay latched on?

Maybe switching out some feeds for a little while might help? Hard work pumping though.

Although I BF, my son tends not to feed to sleep unless he’s sleepy already. he doesn’t seem to mind being unlatched. I was almost exclusively expressing at one point so think he has less association between feeding and sleeping?

Really really hoping for more sleep tonight. I’m getting a sore throat...

@JammyRedRooo that sounds like a good plan. Think we'll do similar! Also have a dummy refuser here which is annoying as she used to take it and could be re-settled with it fairly easily in the night.

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet That's a good idea. We're making very slow progress with introducing a bottle...am kicking myself for leaving it too late. LO will take a little milk from a bottle but seems to mainly think it's a teething toy!

Hope everyone has a better night tonight, I'd be mega happy if we could even get a 3 hour block!

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet How do you get your son to sleep for naps/at night? We can do naps with constant movement in the day (pram/car etc) but have always fed to sleep at night so it's a pretty ingrained habit now!

@Sleepymama285 @JammyRedRooo got a dummy and bottle refuser here too it's so frustrating.I do want to try again with a bottle because he used to take one, but while getting barely any sleep I don't feel like I have the mental energy and patience.

Trying every few days with the dummy but like yours @Sleepymama285 he thinks it's a toy and doesn't suckle. And a 3 hour sleep would be heaven

best wishes for tonight ladies

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet she will take a bottle, we introduced it fairly early (5/6 weeks) as I wanted to express for DH to be able to help with the odd night. In the end I couldn't pump enough to make it worth my time so we introduced formula instead. Now she has a bottle with DH before bed and sometimes another one during the day. But when I take her to bed she still always rootles around for the breast and cries it I dont let her latch. Its definitely a comfort thing.

Night 2, DH is up trying to settle her now, I'm hovering downstairs trying to listen

Good luck for tonight everyone x

@Sleepymama285 by bouncing him while sitting on an exercise ball and playing white noise.

I’m sure my thighs are more toned than before I was pregnant haha!

Yes good luck everyone. Maybe we’ll all magically have a good night.

Fgs DH just called me upstairs to tell me that she was asleep but he can't put her in the crib, he's too tall apparently?! I watched him and his gangly limbs try to do it and it just woke her up. * facepalm *

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet haha, I'm the same...the one plus side of all the bouncing and rocking is that it keeps us fit!

@JammyRedRooo I think I have the same skill level as your OH...I keep getting her to sleep but she wakes every time I put her in the crib! Wish I had the knack for it...the older/more alert they get the harder I find it!

Needless to say no 3 hour block so far...1 hour of sleep, an explosive nappy and back to feeding again!

@JammyRedRooo How frustrating but that did make me chuckle. My DH is also mega tall and tries to get out of various tasks claiming his height makes it too difficult.

No success with any sleep so far tonight. I’ve been trying for 40 mins and now DH is trying to get her down.

Lo drinking his bottle, asleep. Hopefully will be a better night tonight 🤞🤞🤞

Well he managed it but she woke after 20 minutes in there this doesn't bode well for tonight!

Yeah mine is awake too. Woke up bawling. And after saying he rarely feeds to sleep, he wouldn't calm down until he was on the boob - this was an hr after a big feed 🤷

Putting him down in his cot is my all time least favourite thing - the tension!

Not a good start for this thread tonight!

I keep fantasizing about the last really amazing night sleep I remember having. I was around 35 weeks but just before I was getting uncomfortable in bed. We had a really nice early dinner, then I had a bath and we watched The Full monty in bed with fresh bed sheets and pjs. I remember drifting off that night so easily and waking up about 10 hours later feeling like a new woman... sorry random I know but it keeps popping into my head so I thought I would share Can anyone remember theirs?

We've had 2 hours from 7-9ish, think I'd just managed to get some shut eye and he wakes up (it's like they know)  been feeding to sleep and had one failed put down attempt so far.

@JammyRedRooo mine was around 37 weeks I think, DPs sister and mum took me for a really long seaside walk and it was a really hot day, was so exhausted when we got home I had an amazing sleep. I wish I'd spent the last couple of weeks of pregnancy making the most of my bed

Awake drinking another!