Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

[pinkgin1]

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

@Sneezymcsneezy that does sound stressful! Did you have a great time at least?

@LCF2021 Yeah my DD isn't mad keen on her carseat. It must be so handy for naps for babies that will just reliably sleep in it! I can count on one hand the amount of times she has slept in the car and it's always been when I'm just doing a quick journey and could do with her not falling asleep!

DD has been super cute and smiley all day today, sometimes I do wonder how something so adorable can cause such havoc overnight!

[quote Mytigerhasstripyfeet]@StickyStickyStickStickSong did you get some sleep?

Up every 1.5-2h here but he is going back to sleep quickly so not the worst. Hopefully he'll sleep until 6am.

Hope I'm not prolonging this by feeding him when he wakes?[/quote]
@Mytigerhasstripyfeet yep I did, after putting him in with me he slept through til 8 this morning so I feel fine it's just the transition of getting him into his own room and settled I'm struggling with. I feel awful DH is sleeping in spare room on the front of the house, he's up at 6 for work and unfortunately there is a barking dog across the road who is out all night by the sounds of it so he doesn't sleep great in there. I have offered to go in with DS but he won't let me. I keep telling myself any day now he will sleep through in there and that'll be the start of it for good 🤞 any day now..... 🙏🏻

I'm at the end of my tether. My house looks like someone broke into it. I cannot get anything done while DD is awake, and her sleep is so SHIT right now that I can't get much done at night either. I don't know how much longer I can continue this way. DH is working long hours and is doing everything he can to help, but DD wants me and only me, day and night.

@JimHalpertsPA my sons only not long gone back to sleep too. How olds your lo?
I understand where you are coming from. That's why I made this thread as we've all come together and aren't going through this alone. How has she slept so far this evening?
I bought a white noise machine and it seems to be helping a slight bit but to early to tell yet. Maybe you could try one?
It won't last forever. The days and nights go slow but the years go fast as they say. You can do it. We all can. We all will! 💜
I have a feeling my son will wake in the next twenty minutes

£17 Amazon. Worth a try to see if it's gonna make a change

@pinkgin1 fingers crossed for you, let us know how it goes

we've been up twice since 7.45 first time he went down easy this time not so much, got really tired eyes and feeling very grumpy

@ayylauren still
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I hope lo goes to sleep soon for
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Difficult sometimes isn't it, especially when babys is tired and so are youu. Xx

My text was all over the place then! @ayylauren
Have you tried swaddling?

@pinkgin1 I can cope with a couple of bad nights but after so many bad nights in a row it affects my mood Luckily DP is very patient and understanding, I'm definitely not the nicest to live with at the moment

@pinkgin1 LO never seemed to enjoy being swaddled and we never stuck with it. He rolls now so can't use it anyway

@JimHalpertsPA I feel your pain. My LO will only settle with me + boob at night time so every night is me on my own while DP sleeps. It gets really hard sometimes. We're in this together

@pinkgin1DD is 15 months. She was absolutely SHATTERED at 7pm. Did her routine and she knocked out within 10 mins on the boob. Slept for all of 40 mins and has been awake ever since!!! If I try and put her to sleep, she starts getting really physical. I think we are on day 10 (I've lost count really) of this crap sleep. Previously she would sleep roughly from 7.30ish to 6/6.30am with several short wake-ups. White noise is always on for every nap and bedtime. She is wide awake and I don't understand how. Keeps switching between playing and whining. Feeds for a minute then goes off to play again.

Hello!

Can I please join?

I think we’ve hit the 4 month regression about 2 weeks ago, DD is 16 weeks.

Never has been a great sleeper, max 3/4 hours stints but would give me enough to cope with the farmyard noises from 4am!
she will sleep fine 7-9.30 until a feed, will even self settle. Is put down asleep at about 10.30 after feed (reflux baby on medication so not in pain but needs to be held upright for 20/30 mins) will stir between 11.30/12 looking for dummy, will give dummy. Will get to 1/2 a feed, this is a small ish feed about 3oz, won’t take anymore. Gets put down about an hour later and then is awake / stirring every 20 - 40 mins till I get her up between 6.30 & 7

I know this is normal but my god it’s difficult.

Any hints or tips? Just ride it out? Remove the dummy?

Surely she can’t feel well rested either?

Day time naps are surprisingly ok / passable. I have to wake her sometimes after 1.5hr / 2hrs.

Whoever said sleep like a baby is complete BS

Welcome @Fran919! Hope you’re doing OK.
It’s tough isn’t it?! My girl is 19 weeks and we’re about 4/5 weeks into it now. She was previously doing OK up until the 14 week mark.
No tips from me as nothing seems to work here but lots of solidarity. I also have a 2.5 year old whose sleep was atrocious from 4-6 months and we eventually did some sleep training once he went into his own room. Appreciate everyone has different thoughts on it but it helped us so once my LO moves into her room I’ll see if that helps sleep generally and if not then consider some more structure.

How was last night for everyone? Amazingly mine went down fairly quickly at 7.45pm and she slept until 1am! However, I didn’t get a nice stretch of sleep as my eldest woke up at 11pm wanting a nappy change and refused to go back to sleep until almost midnight. Destined never to get any sleep! Baby was then up at 4am for another feed. She settled but at 5.45am was up again and I knew she didn’t need another feed so I cuddled her but did take 30 mins to get her back down. Let her snooze in our bed until 8am so not too bad a night. She did have 2 good cot naps yesterday, possibly a coincidence but going to try and get her to nap in her bed again today. Bet it won’t happen and I’ll message again trapped under a sleeping baby!

@JimHalpertsPA I get you, our house is a tip too.

Welcome @Fran919 to the club nobody wants to be in!! Ours started at 14 weeks too. I have no real tips either as nothing seems to have fixed my DDs sleep permanently but we are just trying to ride it out as best we can. White noise, wake windows during the day, a consistent bed time routine... oh and litres of coffee. Buy good stuff if you can you deserve it

Feeling awful this morning after wake ups every hour since midnight again and I've got my work christmas lunch today. I was really looking forward to it but I just feel like crap and cba now!

The timings of yesterdays feeds were out so he had his bed time bottle an hour earlier than usual and was asleep by 6:45pm I thought GREAT 😁
Haha was awake again at 7:30pm so it just turned out to be a nap 🙄
Managed to get him down for the night at 10:10pm after a final bottle.
I went to bed around 11 after IACGMOOH finished. I was up to settle him hourly at 11:10pm,12:20am, 1:34am then a nice stint til 4:17am where he was wide awake, kicking and smiling at me so I put him in with me then he slept til 8am... not too bad. Tiny bit of progress I hope. Aiming to beat 4:17am tonight before putting him in with me 🤞

Oh and yeah my house is a tip I try and do bits where I can but try not to let it get me down it just is what it is I suppose but I'm dreading being back at work 4th Jan I don't know how I'm gonna do it all 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️😂

@Fran919 welcome! I'm afraid it's a ride it out situ, mine is 6 months and was the same as yours, longest stretches were 4 hours a night, a one off 7 hour stretch and then the shit sleep really ramps up, this has been happening since 3.5 months. All the parents I've spoken to who have 2-4 year olds sympathise, and concur on the approach to ignore parents with potato babies that sleep through the night; they all said that other parents are liars lol

@LCF2021 ☕☕☕☕ and a virtual hug.

@StickyStickyStickStickSong you just need the four hour stretch don't you? I haven't had that in 3 months

@JammyRedRooo yes I had a lovely time, but I was shattered as it was 4 hours past my bedtime by the time music stopped, and I passed out straight after the last song

Argh just typed a long message and it vanished!

Welcome @Fran919 ... sorry you're experiencing the sleepless nights too.

@JammyRedRooo sorry you had a rough one. Hope the Xmas lunch is fun anyway.

We had a better night here. Up at 1am and 4am for quick feeds, and up at 6am for the day. Also had a 1.5hr nap 8-9.30am, LO is like another child, so chatty and quick to smile. I know it's likely he'll be back to hourly wakings tonight so I'm just trying to enjoy him being happier without exceptions. But oh man it would be nice if he had a second good night!

MIL visiting from tomorrow so tidying our tip in wake windows. Boy suddenly afraid of the hoover, he made a very sad face.

Hi everyone ☺️ can I join? We seemed to skip the 4 month regression, my little guy is 6 months on Xmas eve and suddenly in the last couple of weeks his sleep has gone to shit. He's waking up constantly in the evening, DH and I have to take turns to go up there and replace his dummy & give him his comforter. Last night it was almost every half an hour, then when we came to bed he managed to do a good stretch but woke at 5am 😖 it's so hard to get him back to sleep at that time and then by the time he does it's time to get up! From 3 months when we started a bedtime routine, he was sleeping through and i thought wow he's a good sleeper, well of course it was too good to be true! He's always been crap at naps though.

Thinking about trying pick up put down soon.. has anyone else tried this method? I'm not sure though if he's teething or something else is bothering him so might wait a bit and just see how long this goes on for first. I don't want to try any kind of sleep training that will stress both of us out too much. I think I do need to stop picking him up so quickly though and try and settle him in his cot first. He's definitely getting too big to be rocked as well.. he's verging on 20lbs.
Any tips would be greatly appreciated 😵‍💫

Nice to know there's so many of you in the same boat 🥴 well not nice.. but at least I'm not alone haha.

Sending sleepy fairy dust to everyone let's hope for a better night tonight 🥱 xxx

DD napped for 2.5 hrs (!!!!), I napped for 2 of those and am resigned to booking a cleaner lol. I feel a bit lighter. Let's see what the night brings

hey @Fran919, same here no real advice we're just getting through, but least we're all in this together

My DS has fought every single nap today. He's been extremely stubborn. Even a long drive on the motorway he mostly stayed awake. Thought we'd cracked naptimes as we were getting 4 naps in, but today I'm certain he's had nowhere near enough sleep.

Just got back from a very wet cold walk in the rain, he woke up as soon as we got back 🤦🏼‍♀️ definitely starting bedtime early tonight, send me luck and patience folks

Welcome @deathofastrawberry sorry to hear you've been having trouble.

@ayylauren aw no, so frustrating when they fight what's good for them.

What are everyone's bed time routines, by the way?