Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

[pinkgin1]

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

Me! Up until this time last week we were getting 6-8 hour stretches pretty reliably and now I'm up every 45 mins.

All the advice I've read is sooo conflicting as well. Some sources say it's the time to start good sleep habits e.g not feeding to sleep (which I'm guilty of) and others say to just keep doing what comforts them just to get through. I'm flummoxed and no idea what to do for the best right now

Me please, I've been up every hour or two hours since he hit 3.5 months which coincided with him learning to roll. He's now 5 months, just rolling with the punches but it's not gotten better, if anything it's worse, peaking with a couple of nights including yesterday where he was up for two hours between 4-6am. He just would not sleep even with boob, completely wide awake.. this had coincided with him learning how to roll to his tummy but not back. Luckily, or unluckily, he then sleeps for 2.5-3 hours after until 9 so at least I get a kip after. @JammyRedRooo IKR, I'm just doing whatever I need to do to get me through it, it's so hard and I've yet to see any extension of sleep for 6 damn weeks. His smile in the morning is completely worth it though... I think

@pinkgin1 I think baby just wants closeness to feel safe and comforted, they need us!

My kids are a bit backwards I think! My 9 month old has slept through since 9/10 weeks! My 2 year old on the other hand, is currently in bed with me telling me all the things she wants for her birthday and that she’s still not tired!

@JammyRedRooo it's so hard! My son is constantly waking up In the night roughly the same time as you have said! I'm exhausted!!

@Sneezymcsneezy yeah they do need us. It's just a mystery as to why they wake so often all of a sudden. Very tired!😅

@LemonElephant haha! She's making sure she gets what she wants!

@pinkgin1 I know, I'm exhausted. Any better yday? I would say yday took the biscuit and he needed to be helped every sleep cycle. At least he didn't have a two hour wakening at 4am can I class that as a win? IDK lol

We’re right with you!
Similarly confused by advice on how best to ‘get through it’. Lots of sleep training suggestions, but it’s not something I ever envisioned doing.
Are there any success stories of continuing with feeding and comforting out there?

@ByGrace123 I suppose that there aren't many teenagers who still need boob to get to sleep? 😹

Well my DD has woken up every 45 minutes like clockwork since she went to bed. I've fed her back to sleep each time because I literally dont know what else to do, she screams and screams if I try anything else. Not looking forward to tonight

So it seems funny to type it out but I am thankful my baby has always woken up three times a night so now we're in the thick of this regression, once more doesn't really hurt that bad. I have already had to adjust my expectations of what I can achieve exhausted way down and let everything at home that doesn't matter go, to focus on enjoying the baby as I know it goes so so quick really. So there is a lot of clutter around and the dust is thick but oh my these snuggles and feeding baby back to sleep moments are so precious!

@Sneezymcsneezy very true!!

I’m right in it too with my 16 week old. It’s been going on for about 2 weeks already but steadily getting worse. Last night she was up every 1.5 hours, fed her back to sleep and she screamed every time my boob wasn’t in her mouth, even cosleeping didn’t work. We’ve had a few nights of her being up from 1-3am too. My son’s sleep was shocking at this age too, his 4 month regression went on until 6 months when we eventually sleep trained as 2 months of being woken up every 45 minutes broke me. I’m expecting we’ll have to do the same this time around too 😩

Sorry to those who didnt have great nights. We didn't either! Shes also started waking when I put her down in her cot after being fed back to sleep which she hasn't done during the night since about 6 weeks old. So it was a constant loop from 7:30 - 1am of feed to sleep, put in crib, wake up screaming, feed to sleep etc... I tried to comfort her in the crib but she was having absolutely none of it. Then we managed a couple of hours asleep in cot before she woke crying and I held her for the rest of the night trying not to doze off myself. I feel like death today

@Flittingaboutagain agreed about the snuggles though 😍

Definitely a night of two tales, on one hand he did a 2.5 hour stretch... On the other he stayed awake from 5.30 till 6.30.. up every 1.5 hours in between but let me have a lie in from 6.30 till 8.30... considerate I know!!! Lots of coffee and cake for everyone 🤣

DD is 10.5 months old and I had an absolutely awful night a few nights ago. Came across this thread so have been meaning to post. She was awake from 2.45-6.30am - couldn't get her to go down for anything.

Even when I thought she was sleeping it turned out that she was just laying there with her eyes open. I almost gave up and got up for the day but managed to sneak a few hours in from 7am.

Nothing was different about the day so can't work out why this happened - hoping that it was just a one off as I can't be coping with that again.

I'm on another thread on here about sleep and have discussed all my co-sleeping issues at length - time for some independent sleeping i think....

Hell yeah to the coffee and cake today ladies. I managed to get my arse out for a walk and that was my reward! In the end I gave up and watched trash on Netflix for three hours in the night stuck in the cycle as you were Jammy!

I read basically the whole internet last night trying to come up with a plan of action.

Today I've tried to

• Be really hot on wake windows and naps so she doesn't get overtired
• Feed every 2 hours (feels like having a newborn again!) to make sure she is getting enough calories in the day.
• Plenty of tummy time to practice her new skills (so shes not trying at night) and chatting.

DH is just doing her bath/clean pjs/bottle routine and then I'm going to take her up to bed for a story then attempt to pop her down 'drowsy but awake'.

My hopes are not high whatsoever 🤣

Wishing everyone luck for tonight. I’ve got bed dread already.

Mine has been so fussy all night and has gone to bed a whole hour earlier than normal... Pray for me!!

My DS used to sleep 9-8 with just a couple of times where he'd rouse because his dummy had fell out, I'd pop it back in then he'd sleep a decent stretch.
HOWEVERRRR 7 month sleep regression aswell as teething hit at the same time and it all changed, he would wake a lot, not crying but making a moaning sound and rolling about in the cot with his legs and arms up, studying his hands, lifting his legs up then letting them bang down and just wide awake/playful.
I couldn't settle him even with dummy but as soon as I scooped him up and his head hit my mattress next to me he'd be flat out so I've been co-sleeping with him the last month it's the only way we both get a good night sleep. He's 8 months now and I'm trying him in his own room, I only started the weekend so it's still early days. Friday I ended up bringing him in bed with me at 2am, Saturday it was 3am and last night it was 5am Yay so looks like we're making progress 🤞. Although i have had to nip in around 3-4 times for 5 mins to quickly settle him. It's so tiring isn't it! 😴
I'm really hoping he will settle properly soon as I go back to work Jan 4th !! 😩
Absolutely wouldn't change him for the world though even if I do look like a permanent zombie now 💙😆

Drowsy but awake seems like a joke to me. If she isn't in full milk coma mode her little eyes PING open before she hits the deck if we dare to attempt putting her down drowsy.

Good luck all! Let's see what tonight brings us

Also @JammyRedRooo I've dosed off many a time with him on boob, I recline at an angle and position the nursing pillow so there is no way he will fall off/I will squish him. Obviously each to their own but may be a consideration?

@Flittingaboutagain

Drowsy but awake seems like a joke to me. If she isn't in full milk coma mode her little eyes PING open before she hits the deck if we dare to attempt putting her down drowsy.

Good luck all! Let's see what tonight brings us

Same 👆🏻

@Flittingaboutagain drowsy but awake is utter utter tosh, it's the sleep consultants' way of making you feel like you're an inadequate parent! I'm not saying it doesn't work for some but they are the minority!!

Completely agree about drowsy but awake. Mine is awake or asleep…no inbetween. In fact today anytime she’s been awake she’s been crying, probably grizzly from being up all last night.