How to start Self settling?

[rosieswain]

Help! I've made a right mess of DS sleep. He's 9months old now and still swaddled and fed to sleep. Wakes 1-2 hourly every night 😢 He's miserable, tired and I need to help teach him to sleep but where to start?
I've read Lucy Wolfe's stay and support approach and I like that idea. However, last night at bedtime I took him out of his swaddle and put him in a sleeping bag. But an hour later and lots of crying I had to put him back in swaddle bag as he was like a man possessed just thrashing around and knocking dummy out etc. I did get him to sleep by pinning his arms down but then he woke 10mins later and I thought what's the point in that anyway he might as well be swaddled? I see pics of babies in sleeping bags cuddled up to comforters on their sides/fronts etc looking really cosy, how do I get him to this point? Should I try and settle him on his front then arms won't be thrashing everywhere?? What does anyone suggest?!

Hi merename hope ur safely back home by now,sounds like it was hard going with the sleeping,hope u got to have some nice times too! It's brilliant that she's still sleeping through the night tho and that hasn't been affected. I'm sure after a couple of days at home she'll have the hang of the naps and bedtime again,fingers crossed for u 😊

I can understand u and ur dh arguing,it's so stressful when things aren't going good. We've had quite a few angry chats about it all as well,it can really put a strain on things. It also takes over so much and sometimes I feel like we barely talk about anything else!

Things are ok here but still quite up and dwn. Naps are fine for the better part but still some hard bedtimes and night times can be tough. We've had a couple of really bad nights again with lots of waking between feeds and lots of awful crying. Last night was really good but already tonight she's been awake once. Did settle dwn easy at least. Its hard,I thought by now we'd be all sorted but still so up and dwn..