will my baby still love me if Ido CC? I want him to still trust me!

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I have a son of 8 months who is a terrible sleeper. I have trawled through websites, literature, libraries finding information on controlled crying. Has anyone got any experience of this having a negative efffect on their baby? This has been recommended to me by a health visitor who knows my baby's sleep history. thanks

bikebug - so very for you! clever litleboy

thank you . He slept really well last night - just one waking at about 2.30am. He was awake for ages - I sat by the cot patting and shushing for about an hour, and he dozed but kept springing awake to check I was still there. At about half three I took him out and sat on the rocking chair cuddling him. We both fell asleep there (oops) and I put him down in the cot asleep and went back to my own bed at 4.40. Then he slept until just after 7am. He was really happy and sunshiney this morning - he must have had enough sleep! I'm going to persevere with shush and pat, and try not to take him out of the cot tonight. Here's hoping he's figuring it out, because that's five or six nights now with 5-7 hour stretches of sleep in them!

yippe!

Bikebug, really delighted for the two of you
You have come such a long way in only one week!
Let us know how you get on tonight.

cruise, I just found the brilliant breastfeeding thread you started,
will show it to dw tonight!

You won't believe it (well, you will actually)
but the one person who has been the most sceptical about bf has been -
my wife's mum..dw has ignored the comments with a smile and is still happily
breastfeeding dd with her 1st birthday fast approaching.

hi daddyj - my mum thinks I am a weirdo! . Always saying to me "you given up the boob yet?" as if i am doing something criminal! Even my dh accuses me of being like the characthr in little britain . Sadlly though, I am now down to one bf per day as I felt I had to elimiate bf frm bedtime routine in order to start ds;s bedtime as i meant to go on iyswim...! I was gutted but stil hang on to my morning cuddles and feeds in my lovely big bed all snuggled up (though rather too early for my liking). n'nite

Can i crash this thread and ask for some support? I have pretty much decided to do cc tonight . Can't believe I have got to this point, but I just can't go on with this little sleep and GW doesn't seem to be working. She just won't let me get to the stage of sitting by the cot without touching her, without going into meltdown and I actually think I'm prolonging the agony by being there.

I'm going for it tonight because dh has a day off tomorrow - our weekends are booked up from here unto eternity and I really feel i'll need the support, possibly all night and probably tomorrow. Does my logic stand up??

My only worry is how to deal with the night feeds. I have got her down to 1-2 but she won't settle without one somewhere aroubnd 4-5 at the moment. How should I play this with cc? Set a feedtime and only feed her then? Better to make it a 'dream feed' or an early morning one??

First, nice one Bikebug, glad to hear things are going well!

Lilysma - how old is your LO?

6 months, krang, and not on much solids to speak of, but 5-6 bf a day plus the odd extra nip if she seems to want it!

lilysma - here we are again! I answerd you on another thread. tbh wouldn't do cc unless she is defo not hungry...

Hi Lilysma. I'd echo what CM said about not doing it unless you're sure she's not hungry. (Your LO, that is, not CM!). No point doing CC if they're hungry!

I wouldn't dream of giving you advice cos everyone's different so I'll just share my experience. We always used to give DS a dreamfeed - a bottle of expressed breastmilk at around 10.30. (We'd put him down at 7.) We stopped doing that around six months but he was pretty much weaned by then and that was when he started sleeping through the night. On the few occasions when he woke up, I'd give him 5 mins then if he didn't settle himself I'd go in and give him a cuddle, then if that didn't settle him over the next 5 mins I'd give him a v. quick feed which usually did the trick.

Best of luck with whatever you decide to do - let us know how it goes and what you decide.

thanks. i don't expect her not o feed at all, i just dont want / cant handle any more the two hourly waking in betwen feeds! i think i'll go for feeding every 5 hrs as she has easily managed this when not doing cc. wish me luck...

cruise, I have come across so much bona fide scientific material
showing how beneficial breastfeeding and breastmilk is - if anything
it has made me think maybe the Little Britain character is on to something..
I want Bitty, too
Long may the morning cuddles and feeds last