The great non-sleepers - the sequel

[Jellybean2017]

New thread!

@Meepmoop sorry to hear about your Gran. I lost my nana the week before Christmas. Offering you a hand hold

Sorry to hear about your gran Meemop Even when it's expected it's still a horrible blow. Love to you.

Halfway into first night feed and about the tenth wake up

Fingers crossed he'll settle for more than 20 mins now and let me sleep

So sorry Meemop.

We are trying to get ds down in his bed for thr first time tonight. Really need to get him back into us routine in the next couple of days. Me and dh have been selfish and letting him sleep on us while we watched.tv downstairs this christmas - is that terrible

Well that's a rubbish start to the year, @Meepmoop Sorry to hear about your gran.

NYD was a quiet one here. But......I bought a new bed!! Hurrah! It's not arriving until Thursday next week, and then Dh has to put it together, but significant progress here 💪

When I got home Ds was asleep in his rocker in the lounge. Dh had put white noise on the tv and it sent him off. Dh and dd were playing in her room (to keep her from waking up ds in the lounge) and I had a relaxing couple of hours on the sofa whilst ds slept. Finished watching Tin Star.
So it was a relaxing afternoon which is exactly what I needed. I have the most awful cough and sore throat with my head cold.

Just finished feed #1 for me here. Ds is asleep in his Snüzpod now and seems settled. So I'm going to try and get some more sleep before the next one inevitable wake up at around 2:30am.

💤

Sorry to hear that @meepmoop. It's always hard, even when expected.

I'm currently feeding with a 39.5 degree fever. I can't decide if it's mastitis our just a flu, but I might go get antibiotics tomorrow just to be safe.

I was out of bed for only 5 hours today, but MIL invited a bunch of family over to see the baby so I had to be semi-social. We head home on Wednesday and I can't wait for it to be just the three of us again, I think Dd got passed around too much and our normal routine was disrupted.

So sorry to hear that meepmoop

Sorry for your loss @meepmoop. Being expected certainly doesn't make it any easier

@amagdalana really good it goes well at the paediatricians.

@Hashtag yay for new bed and hopeful end to your feeding woes! How good is Tin Star??

First wakeup at 1.45, so we'll see how it goes from here..

Oh and someone with the user account 'nosilanosila' has followed me on Instagram - was curious --nosey- as to which of you ladies this is??

Oh and @Actino that sounds horrible, def get some antibiotics sorted.

Hope everyone has a good night, had a bad night last night and looks like the same again, DD has just had a bottle and is currently wide awake chatting to herself - praying she goes to sleep soon

Sorry for your loss, Meep.

My LO is apparently trying to ease me back into life with his daddy going back to work.
I got four hours sleep in the spare room before the first feed! (Though he did get a little tip up feed at 9pm when he woke up. He probably would have settled with the dummy but I figured feeding him back to sleep wasn't going to hurt.)

He did end up sleeping in bed with my OH from 11 but he's been doing that with me for the last week as well. So now I hope that he does what he had been doing for my OH the last week and sleeping in his bed for another three hours then two more! 🤞

sorry for your loss Meemop. thinking of you

so the trying to trick ds into going to bed earlier didnt work. finally got him down at half ten after several failed transfer attempt. awake now for the first feed whicj is good going but know it will be every hour from now onwards. I'm struggling to keep my eyes open

Thank you all for your kind messages.

DS has done a lovely 4 hour stretch for me (in my bed) now having a feed and I'm hoping for another block

Struggling here. No sign of sleep improving. DS is awake for several hours from his first feed. I could cope if he just wanted to snuggle but he's really fussy, refuses to lie on me, grunting, shouting and squirming. It's absolutely exhausting and I'm at the end of my rope - I just don't know how to settle him! He's 8 weeks. Could this just be developmental? Anyone got any tips? He's pooing fine so not constipated and is being winded.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I know. I'm super excited. It's really sad, isn't it? Since spending more time at home on mat leave, I've really come to appreciate our home a bit more and have been moving things around more and decorating the rooms and creating lists for dh to do!
I'm going to move the bedroom around a bit. It's a small room but the bed is going to move to a different wall. It's good to change things up a bit. I'll then sort through all the crap stuff in boxes under the bed and throw it all away.

Tin Star was good. Colourful language so one to watch when little people aren't around! It's a short series but I did 'put it down' in the middle for a while because it was getting a bit slow. Worth finishing though.

Oh and if I feed him he's just bringing it up again. Think he's having too much but I can't seem to comfort him any other way - he refuses a dummy moSt of the time and rocking seems to make him worse!

Feed #2 just done. The 3am feed and nappy change. He's such a creature of habit.

Note to ds: AIBU to expect you to not cry during a nappy change!!
I change your nappy several times a day. Sometimes you even whinge to remind me to do it, so I know you don't like a dirty nappy. Who wants a dirty nappy? So when I change your nappy at 3am, why cry? We do this every single night and it still comes as a surprise to you! Isn't it nice to have a warm, clean,'dry bum?

Sigh. If only he understood!
If he did, I'd totally be bribing him with extra cuddles and boob feeds for more sleep time. How awesome would that be?!

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs sorry to hear you're having a crap night over there.
When Ds is like this, I find it's because he's overtired and wants to comfort suck to sleep. Chucking it back up would be because he's had too much, like you say, and that he doesn't want the milk, just the comfort. When Ds gets like this I have to force sleep on him. To be fair on ds, I've only ever had this in the day but when I do, I put him in my arms in the rocking chair and put a muslin over his face (he likes that, but of course I supervise) and swaddle his arms to his chest using one hand and ssshhhh him. Sometimes if that doesn't work first time, I'd pick him up or sit him up and wake him to reset him and then start again a few mins later.
Really hope you get some sleep soon!

Thanks Hashtag. Yeah he's definitely overfeeding - think he's a very hungry wee guy and is frustrated that he can't have as much as he wants because his system can't handle it!

He seems to be calming down now. Hoping I can settle him. Dying for sleep!

Loving your AIBU - if only they understood!

I'm having trouble settling ds tonight. This morning.
He woke at 3am for a normal feed and nappy change but I got drawn in to an AIBU thread and held him for too long. When I put him down it woke him up. With ds there is an optimum put down time. It's able 20-30 mins after the feed starts. Enough time for him to feed 10-15 mins plus time for him to settle asleep.
But his tummy sounds like space invaders tonight, with an occasional fart.

It's getting a little bit too close to the 5am time now. He doesn't settle after 5am so I bring him in bed with me. I'd like a little bit more sleep now if I could 🙏

Have a lovely 4 week old baby boy. Born at 36+6. Been Home 3 weeks now, until Xmas eve would wake 2-4 hours overnight- formula feeding. Since Xmas eve does not settle from 11 pm till next morning around 7ish. Very noisy and grunts, pulling up if feet and legs. Only has a poo every 2-3 days but midwife not concerned. Started on Infacol in case of gripe/trapped wind. Had attempted gripe water but unable to get him to take the volume. Sleeps perfect during the day. At my wits end. Partner back to work tomorrow so I'm panicking and anxiety kicking in. HELP

Baby wide awake and having a chat to self in cot :||||

@HashtagTired my son does the 3am nappy cry sometimes, more of a 3am nappy scream.

Hi @nicellen, I have heard Colief is a good alternative to infacol. Sounds like baby has day and night mixed up so may be a case of making sure daytimes are bright and noisy and nights are dark and quiet until he switches over. Could just be a matter of time. But I am no expert!

Another nappy screamer here. So loud!

@AMagdalena hope your paediatrician appointment goes well. Good luck!

Started off well here. Have had a few blocks of sleep. But he needed to burp/be sick around 4am so was screaming. DH came down and sorted him out. Hoping for another few hours sleep now...